Getting To Know Him Strategies
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see? it is believed...
heck.. here's the other theory...
the good guy is good all his life.. he is wonderful and does all he can for his lady... then he screws up once and that incident sticks out and is remembered... the lady mulls over it over and over again and one day cries bitterly back to her family saying he doesn't love her anymore...
the bad dude is bad all his life... he treats his lady like crap.. but does one good thing for her... that good deed sticks out and is remembered.. the lady hangs on to that good deed and remembers that forever, thinking "he loves me enough to do that" forgetting all the crap he continues to put her through...
is that love?
who loved his lady more?Originally posted by av98m:empirical data suggests that the theory is correct. -
then u must tons of gals drooping over uOriginally posted by stellazio:nan ren bu huai
nu ren bu ai
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Doesn't matter what the guys do, its the perception of the ladies thats the key isn't it.Originally posted by the Bear:see? it is believed...
heck.. here's the other theory...
the good guy is good all his life.. he is wonderful and does all he can for his lady... then he screws up once and that incident sticks out and is remembered... the lady mulls over it over and over again and one day cries bitterly back to her family saying he doesn't love her anymore...
the bad dude is bad all his life... he treats his lady like crap.. but does one good thing for her... that good deed sticks out and is remembered.. the lady hangs on to that good deed and remembers that forever, thinking "he loves me enough to do that" forgetting all the crap he continues to put her through...
is that love?
who loved his lady more? -
how bout the theory that due to the mother nature of females, they believe that thru their love, they can convert that bad guy into good?
just like how some guys prefer girls who are playing hard to get.. its the challenge that makes it worthwhile esp when u succeed... -
ehh im the passive one leh..
even tho i may like to know him better.. sometimes wana strike a conversation with him but juz too shy...
like that how ar? if both also dun wana make the first move, then no need talk liao. -
fat hopesOriginally posted by stellazio:how bout the theory that due to the mother nature of females, they believe that thru their love, they can convert that bad guy into good? -
u can always text msg him or msn himOriginally posted by browniebaobao:ehh im the passive one leh..
even tho i may like to know him better.. sometimes wana strike a conversation with him but juz too shy...
like that how ar? if both also dun wana make the first move, then no need talk liao. 
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well, eventually, they'll figure things out
here's something i wrote to someone whose intelligence is... awe-inspiring... she wrote something in her journal which is like a blog... i'll copy and paste it here:
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I love reading your writings. They are always thought-provoking and makes me think about life and how things are.
This is no exception.
In the brutal words of my mom, she'd told me many times when I screwed up, "Experience teaches a fool, but it seems that you are worse than one..."
Those words bite. Especially when it is uttered by a parent to a child. However, does experience really teach anything to what is essentially our core being?
As you have written, we will make the same decisions, suffer the same hurt, do the same thing again and again because, maybe the heart doesn't listen and will never listen. For the mind may hold dominance over the body, find resistance in itself but the heart will go its own way no matter the consequences.
I'm not sure what prompted your friend to say it is stupidity. From a very logical view, for problem-solving, for trying to hammer square pegs into round holes, not learning from experience would be stupidity. However, when it comes to what you essentially are, the mind has no hold over that. That, is the difference.
To go against what you essentially are, in order to obtain a "desired outcome" could, in the beginning seem all good. However, one whose heart holds sway, will start to question the decision made. These questions will fester and I would think everything will eventually end up a mess.
So, maybe "experience teaches a fool but I am worse than that fool" but this fool has much to teach Machiavelli in terms of true happiness and fulfilment. For in our journey through life, the tears, the sorrow and the pitfalls, teach us that when we do eventually find our way, we cherish and appreciate those who walk with us, holding our hand, sometimes leading, sometimes following, but always by our side of their own free will.
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so we hang in there, true to ourselves... the hopeful and hopeless romantic in me says we will eventually find someone.. and the both of us are true to ourselves, we will find happiness...Originally posted by av98m:Doesn't matter what the guys do, its the perception of the ladies thats the key isn't it. -
the joy of the huntOriginally posted by stellazio:just like how some guys prefer girls who are playing hard to get.. its the challenge that makes it worthwhile esp when u succeed...
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how about making things simple and straight forward ....
just ask him out for a date ... and if things doesn't go well, say no next time HE asks for a date ...
it's that simple really ... men are not idiots (at least, you shouldn't be dating idiots) .... they'll know when it's just a test drive or when it's a serious hunt ... -
Well, she has a point.
But I think I'd like to try to be a f ucker instead of the f uckee for a change -
wat if he's a colleague and we never introduced ourselves before?Originally posted by Kenashi:u can always text msg him or msn him
actually sometimes boliao will think of emailing him and give an excuse say sent to wrong recipient.
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oh.. that's me talking about her musings about a friend calling her "stupid" for following her heart
you should see her writings...Originally posted by av98m:Well, she has a point.
But I think I'd like to try to be a f ucker instead of the f uckee for a change -
Dinner... we all need foodOriginally posted by tare:one qns [for guys]:
u ask a gal out for dinner, she agrees... issit just a dinner or a date? -
get to know him through his friends or close colleagues loh.Originally posted by browniebaobao:wat if he's a colleague and we never introduced ourselves before?
actually sometimes boliao will think of emailing him and give an excuse say sent to wrong recipient.
go for those group lunch, then u can get to introduce yrself to him -
Well ok, then you have a point.Originally posted by the Bear:oh.. that's me talking about her musings about a friend calling her "stupid" for following her heart
you should see her writings...
But I'd still like to try a different approach. The old one sure hasn't gotten me anywhere so far, other than lots of heartache. -
and what are you gonna email? i<3u.. oopps wrong person??Originally posted by browniebaobao:wat if he's a colleague and we never introduced ourselves before?
actually sometimes boliao will think of emailing him and give an excuse say sent to wrong recipient. -
and what's wrong with just emailing him?Originally posted by browniebaobao:wat if he's a colleague and we never introduced ourselves before?
actually sometimes boliao will think of emailing him and give an excuse say sent to wrong recipient. -
email him, when he see that email, maybe he will inform her that she got the wrong person, then can strike a conversation with him mahOriginally posted by stellazio:and what are you gonna email? i<3u.. oopps wrong person?? 
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hey.. builds characterOriginally posted by av98m:Well ok, then you have a point.
But I'd still like to try a different approach. The old one sure hasn't gotten me anywhere so far, other than lots of heartache. -
bbb, forget about the subterfuge.. just ask him "hey, wanna hang out?"
btw, how about, we invite all to a makan at Brazil Churrascaria?
i mean ALL! call the ones you are interested in and everyone else too -
the good old love letter on a desk still work wonders imo..
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is it the one where after hwa chong jc you gotta turn left or sth like that.. quite a few rows of shops, if i rmb one of em was video ezy or so?Originally posted by the Bear:bbb, forget about the subterfuge.. just ask him "hey, wanna hang out?"
btw, how about, we invite all to a makan at Brazil Churrascaria?
i mean ALL! call the ones you are interested in and everyone else too
it serves alot of meat.. -
Originally posted by browniebaobao:wat if he's a colleague and we never introduced ourselves before?
actually sometimes boliao will think of emailing him and give an excuse say sent to wrong recipient.
Y dun u try it??