Getting To Know Him Strategies
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arranged marriages might be the solution for the overly shy but would like to be married. they can tell their parents and their parents can meet up and decide on the marriage stuff, then they can get married without shedding their shyness.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:If its me..
no problemo lah...
but not so easy cos my friend is really very very very very very shy.
And its really difficult for her to open up to people
she takes time to get to know the person
so its really tough for her to think about going out one-on-one
but at the same time, she feels awkward cos they don't have many 'common' friends to go out together
so if she ask him to join HER friends, she feels its very 'obvious'
The guy is also the quite shy and conservative type and she doesn't want to 'scare' him away either. -
uhh.. i usually talk people's ears off
Originally posted by tare:wait till u get married.... all u hear is the tv sound
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So do I... (u talking to the girl who had "she is too talkative in class" and then "she is still too talkative in class" consecutively for two years...)Originally posted by the Bear:uhh.. i usually talk people's ears off
BUT somehow... now having to teach (and therefore having to talk a lot)
I dont talk that much at home liao
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I tok alot... does dat mean I not male in da 1st place?Originally posted by tare:simple... do something tat's NOT in the male's nature: TALK!
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well, you had something to say
i had a lot of nothing to say
sad thing is that when i speak, my brain goes in all directions at 100mph.. people have problems figuring out what i'm saying -
Thing is.. she's not... THAT shy. Its just that she's the type who needs time to open up, then she's becomes funny, a bit crazy, and totally noisy.Originally posted by the_don:arranged marriages might be the solution for the overly shy but would like to be married. they can tell their parents and their parents can meet up and decide on the marriage stuff, then they can get married without shedding their shyness.
BUT it took her years to feel this comfortable with us.
Most guys tend to be motivated to go after a girl on the initial impressions and by the time they really get to know her, tend to treat her like friend already. No more sparks leh. -
story of my life..
coz.. i shy
Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Thing is.. she's not... THAT shy. Its just that she's the type who needs time to open up, then she's becomes funny, a bit crazy, and totally noisy.
BUT it took her years to feel this comfortable with us.
Most guys tend to be motivated to go after a girl on the initial impressions and by the time they really get to know her, tend to treat her like friend already. No more sparks leh. -
hmm after attached le sumtimes we wonder how come we still have so much to talk abt?Originally posted by the_don:i sooo agree with tare on tis point.
then when u attached liao the TALK suddenly stop. feel v cheated leh
but tink one day we will end up having nothing to talk about liao -
by "talk" i mean communicate... not just yak yak yak...Originally posted by Bontakun:I tok alot... does dat mean I not male in da 1st place? -
I was just mentioning to the vicious one the other day, it takes me a damn long time to really warm up to a person, then by the time I decide I want to go after her, too late liao, either someone take action before me or she is too comfy being friends liao. My reaction is always very the slow. Story of my life, LPPL.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Thing is.. she's not... THAT shy. Its just that she's the type who needs time to open up, then she's becomes funny, a bit crazy, and totally noisy.
BUT it took her years to feel this comfortable with us.
Most guys tend to be motivated to go after a girl on the initial impressions and by the time they really get to know her, tend to treat her like friend already. No more sparks leh. -
is that when you invited her to roll around in your bed?
Originally posted by av98m:I was just mentioning to the vicious one the other day, it takes me a damn long time to really warm up to a person, then by the time I decide I want to go after her, too late liao, either someone take action before me or she is too comfy being friends liao. My reaction is always very the slow. Story of my life, LPPL. -
i personally believe there's a "golden time" whr it determines if the r/s is gonna turn romantic or platonic.... miss tat golden time, and too bad lor!Originally posted by av98m:I was just mentioning to the vicious one the other day, it takes me a damn long time to really warm up to a person, then by the time I decide I want to go after her, too late liao, either someone take action before me or she is too comfy being friends liao. My reaction is always very the slow. Story of my life, LPPL.
hit when the iron is hot! "after su zhou, no more boat liao"! -
But my engine always take damn long to warm up leh, so how? I'm doomed!Originally posted by tare:i personally believe there's a "golden time" whr it determines if the r/s is gonna turn romantic or platonic.... miss tat golden time, and too bad lor!
hit when the iron is hot! "after su zhou, no more boat liao"! -
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either u learn to kick start ur engine or u keep missing the boat lorOriginally posted by av98m:But my engine always take damn long to warm up leh, so how? I'm doomed! -
Actually I find it is not that it is not 'impossible'Originally posted by av98m:I was just mentioning to the vicious one the other day, it takes me a damn long time to really warm up to a person, then by the time I decide I want to go after her, too late liao, either someone take action before me or she is too comfy being friends liao. My reaction is always very the slow. Story of my life, LPPL.
What a relationship like this needs is a SITUATION where a paradigm shift can happen where SUDDENLY you are no Mr Buddy-good-guy-who-is-good-for-a-beer But Mr-Hey-Why-Didn't-I-notice-he's-really-sweet?
But yeah the same problem with my friends... is that most of them are also girls who take time to be appreciated. But always end up being the 'buddy' instead of the girl who is being longed for. -
the OLDER generation go into r/s with the intention to commit.. cos they dun have much time to waste liao.... felt like i kenna shoot like dat....Originally posted by Bontakun:I DO communicate.
Besides I tink dat nowadays, younger generations like us tend to see dating as dating. No more is hte old generation where ppl goi into relationship because they have the intention to commit to it.
I am not ready for a committed relationship with a lady.
u not ready to commit with a lady har?? then wat, gentleman instead? -
seriously speaking, that's where another guy has moved in and taken her away, and her buddy-good-guy is actually happy that she has someone with her!
strange but true..
(person experience )Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Actually I find it is not that it is not 'impossible'
What a relationship like this needs is a SITUATION where a paradigm shift can happen where SUDDENLY you are no Mr Buddy-good-guy-who-is-good-for-a-beer But Mr-Hey-Why-Didn't-I-notice-he's-really-sweet?
But yeah the same problem with my friends... is that most of them are also girls who take time to be appreciated. But always end up being the 'buddy' instead of the girl who is being longed for. -
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tat's why, once in a while must suddenly dress super chio and stunned the blind idiot!!! [works esp. well if he just broke off and feeling lonely...]Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:But yeah the same problem with my friends... is that most of them are also girls who take time to be appreciated. But always end up being the 'buddy' instead of the girl who is being longed for. -
oh well.......
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Uhh.. well only if you can dress up to be super chio in the first place I guessOriginally posted by tare:tat's why, once in a while must suddenly dress super chio and stunned the blind idiot!!! [works esp. well if he just broke off and feeling lonely...]
hurhurhur for those -sniffles- who can't...
we rely on more insidious methods of revenge.
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all you have to do to be "super chio" is to turn upOriginally posted by tare:tat's why, once in a while must suddenly dress super chio and stunned the blind idiot!!! [works esp. well if he just broke off and feeling lonely...]
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u want ALL the intimacy w/o ever to commit, like tis won't HURT her meh?Originally posted by Bontakun:The older generation they dunno what is dating in our generation mah. Our generation takes dating as "Having all the intimacy without ever to commit"...
I not ready coz I dun wanna go into one being unsure. Later hurt her how? Besides, commit with gentleman... well... I got one as my best friend, I dun having more. 
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Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:we rely on more insidious methods of revenge.
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