What do you like about people?
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[quote]Originally posted by BabyRS:
[b]I love the 'resilience in the face of adversity' trait that lots of people have when faced with something daunting or trying.
now i have read your posts....i think you do have quite alot of wisdom in your speech.....that really inspires me to think that perhaps you might explain if you have any examples of the above statement you made earlier?
personally i have encountered some bad experiences........but your statement about "resilience" is an interesting insight???? and may i ask.......can anyone be resilient in the face of harrassment???? what would your answer be cunning linguist?? -
no man is a single island.....always bear that in mind.Originally posted by Kuali Baba:I look only at individuals, not people as a whole. I dislike and do not trust many people. -
I cannot speak for all individuals and the way they choose to face their known 'obstacles' in life, but I DO admire those who have had the ability to 'pick up the pieces' and move on, regardless of how much they're hurting inside. Personally, if one were to be upset and full of anger about what life has dished out for them - the people around them who may genuinely care for their well being, WILL suffer. It's all about your outlook on life.Originally posted by gohkatkat:personally i have encountered some bad experiences........but your statement about "resilience" is an interesting insight???? and may i ask.......can anyone be resilient in the face of harrassment???? what would your answer be cunning linguist??
Be positive, and learn from past mistakes... or just keep on wallowing in self pity and moan about how unfair life has been to them - the choice is up to each and every one of you.
As for your question on 'harrassment' - resilience in this context may or may not apply. I think you may have taken my sentence wrongly. By resilience, in this instance, I mean being strong enough to perhaps stand for what they believe in and not bow down to societal pressures, and not get discouraged by a setback or two.
When one is harrassed - you either choose to grin and bear it, for fears only answerable to yourself, OR you fight for your rights NOT to subject yourself to such a situation, even if it means that your job or your family is at stake. It's about taking control of your own life against everything else - and THAT, on its own - can be viewed as a form of 'resilience'. -
that is disputable. it depends on what sort of people are around u.Originally posted by gohkatkat:no man is a single island.....always bear that in mind. -
btw i must comment that i like the word play on being a "cunning linguist"
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Actually - this thread was started because I was curious about what is that a person likes about people in general.
It's true that for everything that is viewed through rose tinted glasses, there is always another who has viewed it through the darkest sunshades imaginable.
But my original intention was to highlight the things that make you still have faith in the goodness of the human race - not the sceptic's view of it.
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good.............your speech is good cunning linguist.........pardon me if i am not mistaken.....but i presume from these speech youe english must stand on the high peak side..........yeah??
But my original intention was to highlight the things that make you still have faith in the goodness of the human race - not the sceptic's view of it. Neutral
goodness of the human race....so meaning to say there is two coined or rather a two faced human in everyone of us like the story of the Dr jekyll and mr hyde case???? -
but in the end it all becomes the skeptic's view of it. Thats because humans cannot discuss the good without talking about the bad, and there is more bad than good to be talked about.Originally posted by BabyRS:Actually - this thread was started because I was curious about what is that a person likes about people in general.
It's true that for everything that is viewed through rose tinted glasses, there is always another who has viewed it through the darkest sunshades imaginable.
But my original intention was to highlight the things that make you still have faith in the goodness of the human race - not the sceptic's view of it.
probably the way to live is to view the world thru non-tinted glasses. what is, what is. don't try to expect too much or too little, don't expect good or bad.
Too be honest, everytime u expect the good, u're setting yrself up for disappointment only. If u expect the bad u're setting yrself up to be pleasantly surprised. -
hey she ain't called a cunning linguist for nothingOriginally posted by gohkatkat:good.............your speech is good cunning linguist.........pardon me if i am not mistaken.....but i presume from these speech youe english must stand on the high peak side..........yeah?? -
Nope. I speak Singlish in its truest form... if I do get what you mean by "on the "high peak side" correctly.Originally posted by gohkatkat:good.............your speech is good cunning linguist.........pardon me if i am not mistaken.....but i presume from these speech youe english must stand on the high peak side..........yeah?? -
*sigh* You are too right. I guess in order to recognise the good, we have to be reminded of the bad.Originally posted by HENG@:but in the end it all becomes the skeptic's view of it. Thats because humans cannot discuss the good without talking about the bad, and there is more bad than good to be talked about.
probably the way to live is to view the world thru non-tinted glasses. what is, what is. don't try to expect too much or too little, don't expect good or bad.
Too be honest, everytime u expect the good, u're setting yrself up for disappointment only. If u expect the bad u're setting yrself up to be pleasantly surprised.
It's purely human nature... it's easier to see and remember the bad things rather than see the positive side. For example, through my own personal experience, many people complain about the 'lousy' standards of service in Singapore - and they can recount many many instances whereby they feel that they should have been served better (the $$ talks, b.s walks mentality). How many of them can recall the many times that a sales personnel or a service staff have gone above and beyond the call of duty?
It's easier to perhaps criticise, than to give a person their due accolades. That's the way the world turns. -
strangely, you look at the world... when someone looks at the goodness and good things in the world, he is tagged as being "naive, stupid, silly..."
however, if he is cynical and bitter, he is tagged as "wise, worldly, intelligent..."
can i just be a naive, stupid and silly fella? i don't mind
coz i think i'll be happier being naive, stupid and silly
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then again, maybe people dun recall the times service personal in sg have gone above n beyond the call of duty because... they've never encountered it?Originally posted by BabyRS:*sigh* You are too right. I guess in order to recognise the good, we have to be reminded of the bad.
It's purely human nature... it's easier to see and remember the bad things rather than see the positive side. For example, through my own personal experience, many people complain about the 'lousy' standards of service in Singapore - and they can recount many many instances whereby they feel that they should have been served better (the $$ talks, b.s walks mentality). How many of them can recall the many times that a sales personnel or a service staff have gone above and beyond the call of duty?
It's easier to perhaps criticise, than to give a person their due accolades. That's the way the world turns. -
Hmm.
I like people.
I like them because of their insecurities, their flaws, their vulnerabilities. I like how people struggle in spite of their own imperfections to grow, to improve, to change not always for the better.
People are so interesting to know. Like Onions. Some smells damn nice when you fry them, and some makes you cry. -
nah... when you give most people chilled peeled grapes while they recline on a down feather couch, they'll complain that no one is waving palm fronds to cool the air
but there are some nice people who do and thank you when you help them outOriginally posted by HENG@:then again, maybe people dun recall the times service personal in sg have gone above n beyond the call of duty because... they've never encountered it? -
now we know shro fried people.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Hmm.
I like people.
I like them because of their insecurities, their flaws, their vulnerabilities. I like how people struggle in spite of their own imperfections to grow, to improve, to change not always for the better.
People are so interesting to know. Like Onions. Some smells damn nice when you fry them, and some makes you cry. got a lot u can talk about with hannibal lector i think 
brains on a hotplate? -
u never try to throw people onto some hot oil and see them jump around excitedly??
hurhurhuhru just like onion slices.... sizzle sizzle... -
even that is being negative about people.Originally posted by the Bear:nah... when you give most people chilled peeled grapes while they recline on a down feather couch, they'll complain that no one is waving palm fronds to cool the air
but there are some nice people who do and thank you when you help them out
but i don't think people don't thank others for kind deeds -
chop them up 1st.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:u never try to throw people onto some hot oil and see them jump around excitedly??
hurhurhuhru just like onion slices.... sizzle sizzle...
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*faints*Originally posted by HENG@:then again, maybe people dun recall the times service personal in sg have gone above n beyond the call of duty because... they've never encountered it? -
u can't deny that. Why is the instance of getting good service in sg so much lower than in some other countries?Originally posted by BabyRS:*faints*
and its not a bad thing for ppl to complain, because if it wasn't their home, and if they couldn't give a shit about the place they live in, they wouldn't complain. -
I like the good-nature in people. The love. Even in bad people, I like to hang on to the hope that one day the good-nature in them will just appear and overcome the bad in them.
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That can't be true. Overall our service standard is not very good, but there ARE service personnel out there who go above and beyond their duties to ensure that customers are happy. I've been on the receiving end of such service. Not often, but enough to know that there are such people around. Like I mentioned in another thread, human interaction is 2 way. Sometimes how you behave also determines what kind of service you end up receiving.Originally posted by HENG@:then again, maybe people dun recall the times service personal in sg have gone above n beyond the call of duty because... they've never encountered it?
Or..perhaps people cannot remember because they take it for granted? -
i am not sure if quiet types are effective on forums. somehow i feel their is a need to actually post rather than just read....Originally posted by ha8n:...therefore its amazing when u came across all ppl , the ones that earn ur respect are the ones whom dun talk much
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accoording to you :: the forms of resilience means that to fight for your rights , but can this be done at the expense of your job in this society (( its apparent that you cannot answer to yourOriginally posted by BabyRS:I cannot speak for all individuals and the way they choose to face their known 'obstacles' in life, but I DO admire those who have had the ability to 'pick up the pieces' and move on, regardless of how much they're hurting inside. Personally, if one were to be upset and full of anger about what life has dished out for them - the people around them who may genuinely care for their well being, WILL suffer. It's all about your outlook on life.
Be positive, and learn from past mistakes... or just keep on wallowing in self pity and moan about how unfair life has been to them - the choice is up to each and every one of you.
As for your question on 'harrassment' - resilience in this context may or may not apply. I think you may have taken my sentence wrongly. By resilience, in this instance, I mean being strong enough to perhaps stand for what they believe in and not bow down to societal pressures, and not get discouraged by a setback or two.
When one is harrassed - you either choose to grin and bear it, for fears only answerable to yourself, OR you fight for your rights NOT to subject yourself to such a situation, even if it means that your job or your family is at stake. It's about taking control of your own life against everything else - and THAT, on its own - can be viewed as a form of 'resilience'.
ba dao superiors though you are right when they are wrong)
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>> on the other hand to take control of your own life , you can be resilience by choosing not to stay with them /or in ur job anymore...bcos ulitmately its always the employer /company whom gain at your own expense