Send Gifts to Bride's Family
It is the most important ceremony for the confirmation of a marriage which is to be done 15-20 days before the wedding day. The groom's family will pick a 'good day' and they will bring various gifts to the bride's family.
Nowadays, initial gifts are sent together with the formal gifts to the bride's home for simplicity.
Monetary gift: Varied.
Cake: One load.
Dried seafood: Combination of 4, 6 or 8 kinds of seafood packed in pairs and of varied quantity. 'Fat Choy', an edible moss of long thin threads, must be included. Others include abalone, dried oyster, dried scallop, dried mushroom, sea slug, dried squid, dried shrimp, shark fin, fish tripe and so on.
Livestock: 2 pairs of chicken (2 roasters and 2 hens), 3 to 5 catties of pock.
Fish: Big fish, which means 'sounding good'.
Coconut: 2 pairs, which mean grandparent and grandchildren.
Wine: 4 bottles of Western or Chinese wine.
Dried fruit: Laichee, longan, walnut and peanut.
Fruit: It implies vigour and liveliness.
Tea & sesame: It symbolizes faithfulness.
Gift box: Lotus, lily bulb, Japan cypress, betel-nut, sesame, red bean, green bean, date, dried walnut, dried longan, red strings, red packet money for confirmation and decoration, candle and a Chinese couplet.