Religion getting in the way of r/s ?
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You should go to the group and listen. Either he'll take the opportunity and question the relationship or he'll keep quiet already. Either way, you should take a stand on your r/s.Originally posted by rainee:He is coping rather well actually. Of course from time to time he will tell me what has happened to him after he got back from these group meetings. He does not intend to leave Christianity and I have been assuring him that I am receptive towards the idea of becoming a Christian later in life, but it would have to be for a good reason. Not just because I feel forced to by our r/s.
He would not allow me to go to his current group though, he said he doesn't want my mind to be polluted :p
But if you're weakminded. Yeah, your bf is right. It would affect your mindset and self esteem.
Ultimately your receptivity onto christianity.
That church(other churches also) are really good at injecting interesting beliefs onto their members.
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Thing is, those people won't leave him alone, even messaged him to ask him to leave me? My friends are not very keen about me being with him, but at least they did not "harass" me to leave him leh...Originally posted by shade343:Dont worry, if your bf has the brains, he would be able to think for himself and see through the situation. -
Hmm? very extreme kind of handling the matter. Very Unchristian.Originally posted by rainee:Thing is, those people won't leave him alone, even messaged him to ask him to leave me? My friends are not very keen about me being with him, but at least they did not "harass" me to leave him leh...
Do you mind if you PM me you bf's cell leader's name?
I'll bring this matter up to their supervisior. -
I dunno his name, sorry...Originally posted by M©+square:Hmm? very extreme kind of handling the matter. Very Unchristian.
Do you mind if you PM me you bf's cell leader's name?
I'll bring this matter up to their supervisior.
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Originally posted by a_splash:
paisay, ah ma's spiolling not good...mellow
kuai soon, ah ma also don't like....if ah ma is with my younger time emotion...ah ma will have many many things to tok when i hear such things.....(ah ma even ask ppl to ask their god to come down now rite infront of me to prove me wrong le)
but the emotion and thots now all [b]meadow down liao......
just ask your boi boi to change church lor, if its getting too much....so many churches in Singapore le.....
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go into hiding liao
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It'll help if your bf could give info.Originally posted by rainee:I dunno his name, sorry...
christians from that church ain't very forgiving either. so beware. -
I don't want to create more trouble for him, you see? What if later he knows I have been complaining here and if action is taken towards him, sure he will think of a way to have revenge leh...Originally posted by M©+square:It'll help if your bf could give info.
christians from that church ain't very forgiving either. so beware.
Man, I thought Christianity is all about forgiveness and love
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its all run by human...its very human indeed....Originally posted by rainee:I don't want to create more trouble for him, you see? What if later he knows I have been complaining here and if action is taken towards him, sure he will think of a way to have revenge leh...
Man, I thought Christianity is all about forgiveness and love 
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I listened to their live services cos I am not in Singapore currently(that is why I cant attend the church with him, otherwise I would have gone and give that leader a piece of my mind). Some of the services are quite intersting to listen to, but I am more concerned about the politics going on behind the scene...Originally posted by a_splash:its all run by human...its very human indeed.... -
But i feel that it is proper for this particular leader to have his problem solved - obviously he is the problem child, not your bf.Originally posted by rainee:I don't want to create more trouble for him, you see? What if later he knows I have been complaining here and if action is taken towards him, sure he will think of a way to have revenge leh...
Man, I thought Christianity is all about forgiveness and love
In order not to allow anymore of these jokers from surfacing and destroying the young believer's faith.
They got to be reported, to be put down and re-learn how to be a leader.
Learn humilty and servanthood, grace and love, passion and leadership.
Seems like this leader has gotten it all wrong!
Got problems? Go to the root of it and deal with it.
That's CHC.
So sad.Originally posted by a_splash:its all run by human...its very human indeed.... -
Hmm...The thing is, you mentioned that your bf has given you the assurance that he is handling the situation quite well. So my suggestion to you would be to place your trust in him.Originally posted by rainee:Thing is, those people won't leave him alone, even messaged him to ask him to leave me? My friends are not very keen about me being with him, but at least they did not "harass" me to leave him leh...
But if one day, you do notice that your r/s with him is going downhill because of this matter, then it would be time to speak some senses into him. After all, you love him not becos of his religion. 
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I will discuss it with him, but are you an official or have a high ranking position in the church? If you complain, they will listen?Originally posted by M©+square:So sad. -
Of course I trust him...I just dun like him facing pressure everytime he has to go to church...it is supposed to be a place where he can find peace and calm, not a place where he has to go to listen to people arguing about his r/s. And I am worried, what if other couples are facing this as well? Differences in religion are already tough on the individuals involved, no need other parties to come in and make it more complicated...Originally posted by shade343:Hmm...The thing is, you mentioned that your bf has given you the assurance that he is handling the situation quite well. So my suggestion to you would be to place your trust in him. But if one day, you do notice that your r/s with him is going downhill because of this matter, then it would be time to speak some senses into him. After all, you love him not becos of his religion. -
: LOOks around:Originally posted by rainee:I will discuss it with him, but are you an official or have a high ranking position in the church? If you complain, they will listen?
Psst...Cannot ask like that one.
I'm not from that church, but i know friends there and they are supervisors. Very understanding and very orthordox people.
I complain the church won't listen. But the problem will be solved because it doesn't reflect the belief in the bible and christianity itself.
Such unbecoming attitudes are a pain in church.
If can PM me which Cell group can already, or which district/zone.
Cheers! -
Hmm, I would have to ask for his permission first...if he says no, then I cannot reveal also...hope you understandOriginally posted by M©+square:: LOOks around:
Psst...Cannot ask like that one.
I'm not from that church, but i know friends there and they are supervisors. Very understanding and very orthordox people.
I complain the church won't listen. But the problem will be solved because it doesn't reflect the belief in the bible and christianity itself.
Such unbecoming attitudes are a pain in church.
If can PM me which Cell group can already, or which district/zone.
Cheers! -
Yup...I dont think you are the only one facing this problem, many couples face r/s problems because of religion. The origin of this problem lies in human arrogance, pride and ego. You are right to say that people go to church to seek peace and calm, if the church fails to provide that, it simply is a place not worthy of visit.Originally posted by rainee:Of course I trust him...I just dun like him facing pressure everytime he has to go to church...it is supposed to be a place where he can find peace and calm, not a place where he has to go to listen to people arguing about his r/s. And I am worried, what if other couples are facing this as well? Differences in religion are already tough on the individuals involved, no need other parties to come in and make it more complicated...
Dont worry too much la, everybody has a limit. If your bf is unable to take the pressure, im sure he will know what to do. -
Don't make it seem like i'd be upset with you if you can't reveal any info to me.Originally posted by rainee:Hmm, I would have to ask for his permission first...if he says no, then I cannot reveal also...hope you understand
Makes me feel that i'm giving people the impression like i'm dying to complain about them.
I understand.... -
Of course got limit...he has a temper too, I just hope he won't lose once the leader became too pressuringOriginally posted by shade343:Yup...I dont think you are the only one facing this problem, many couples face r/s problems because of religion. The origin of this problem lies in human arrogance, pride and ego. You are right to say that people go to church to seek peace and calm, if the church fails to provide that, it simply is a place not worthy of visit.
Dont worry too much la, everybody has a limit. If your bf is unable to take the pressure, im sure he will know what to do. -
Haha no la...thanks for taking the trouble to want to help with thisOriginally posted by M©+square:Don't make it seem like i'd be upset with you if you can't reveal any info to me.
Makes me feel that i'm giving people the impression like i'm dying to complain about them.
I understand.... -
You've never seen a leader pressuring a member. And we are talking about the megachurch.Originally posted by rainee:Of course got limit...he has a temper too, I just hope he won't lose once the leader became too pressuring
I bet you won't want to go there again. -
Hi rainee,
Check your PM
These situtations arise when we do not let God handle it. It is His Spirit what will cause conviction. We inevitably, humanly, condemns. -
Think when I got back, we will try out a new church if his church is still against us being together...Originally posted by M©+square:You've never seen a leader pressuring a member. And we are talking about the megachurch.
I bet you won't want to go there again. -
I just repliedOriginally posted by sillyme:Hi rainee,
Check your PM
These situtations arise when we do not let God handle it. It is His Spirit what will cause conviction. We inevitably, humanly, condemns. -
Now the irony is that the older churches are more forgiving and less prone to cite passages and fob excuses.Originally posted by M©+square:You're from CH also?
Funny, how come i'm considered conservative believer but i don't agree with the leader?
Now we got two kinds of Christianity, conservative and modern(liberal you mean?) in the same church....consistency please.
I personally believe CH is a liberal church.
I feel more welcome in the older Methodist churches than interacting with the new fundamentalists. -
New fundamentalist? What's up with the new movement? Tell me more or do you want me to start a new thread on this?Originally posted by LazerLordz:Now the irony is that the older churches are more forgiving and less prone to cite passages and fob excuses.
I feel more welcome in the older Methodist churches than interacting with the new fundamentalists.
Personally, i prefer Methodist churches too.