Law of the Seed
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Read carefully and relate it to your life.
How many times does a footballer try before he can score a goal?
The Law of the Seed
Take a look at an apple tree.
There might be five hundred apples on the tree, but each apple has just ten seeds. That's a lot of seeds!
We might ask, "Why would you need so many seeds to grow just a few more apple trees?"
Nature has something to teach us here. It's telling us: "Not all seeds grow. In life, most seeds never grow. So if you really want to make something happen, you had better try more than once."
This might mean:
You'll attend twenty interviews to get one job.
You'll interview forty people to find one good employee.
You'll talk to fifty people to sell one house, one car, one vacuum cleaner, one insurance policy, or a business idea.
And you might meet a hundred acquaintances just to find one special friend.
When we understand the "Law of the Seed", we don't get so disappointed. We stop feeling like victims. We learn how to deal with things that happen to us.
Laws of nature are not things to take personally. We just need to understand them - and work with them.
IN A NUTSHELL
Successful people fail more often. But they plant more seeds.
When Things Are Beyond your control, here's something that you must NOT DO so as to avoid misery in your life:
- You must not decide how you think the world SHOULD be.
- You must not make rules for how everyone SHOULD behave.
- Then, when the world doesn't obey your rules, you get angry!
- That's what miserable people do!
On the other hand, let's say you expect that:
- Friends SHOULD return favours.
- People SHOULD appreciate you.
- Planes SHOULD arrive on time.
- Everyone SHOULD be honest.
- Your husband or best friend SHOULD remember your birthday.
These expectations may sound reasonable. But often, these things won't happen!
- So you end up frustrated and disappointed.
- There's a better strategy. Demand less, and instead, have preferences!
- For things that are beyond your control, tell yourself:
- "I WOULD PREFER "A", BUT IF "B" HAPPENS, IT'S OK TOO!"
This is really a change in mindset. It is a shift in attitude, and it gives you more peace of mind ... You prefer that people are polite ... but when they are rude, it doesn't ruin your day. You prefer sunshine ... but if it rains, it is ok too!
To become happier, we either need to
a) Change the world, or
b) Change our thinking.
It is easier to change our Thinking!
It is not the problem that is the issue, but rather it is your attitude attending to the problem that is the problem. It's not what happens to you that determine your happiness. It's how you think about what happens to you! -
Originally posted by Nelstar:
Well Said!
When Things Are Beyond your control, here's something that you must NOT DO so as to avoid misery in your life:
- You must not decide how you think the world SHOULD be.
but the above i think its better if people target their ideals and work towards it rather than accepting life as it is.....
Work towards the ideal world, but do not expect the results to be always ideal.......
juz my 2 cts.....
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Originally posted by Nelstar:
i prefer to change the world n make it a better place .. changing my thinking to make myself happie is akin to cheating myself ... i rather live less happie but more truly to myself ..
To become happier, we either need to
a) Change the world, or
b) Change our thinking.
It is easier to change our Thinking -
Do happen to be a AquariusOriginally posted by stem_-_daimyou_asobi_hen:i prefer to change the world n make it a better place .. changing my thinking to make myself happie is akin to cheating myself ... i rather live less happie but more truly to myself ..
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no .. an Aries ..n a stubborn one ...Originally posted by M?square:Do happen to be a Aquarius -
you're damn ambitious... good luckOriginally posted by stem_-_daimyou_asobi_hen:i prefer to change the world n make it a better place .. changing my thinking to make myself happie is akin to cheating myself ... i rather live less happie but more truly to myself .. -
You'll end up bitter dissapointment not being able to change the world.Originally posted by stem_-_daimyou_asobi_hen:i prefer to change the world n make it a better place .. changing my thinking to make myself happie is akin to cheating myself ... i rather live less happie but more truly to myself ..
But with your ambition, you can create powerful revolutionary movements.
Try changing your enviornment or tribe. It's good enough.
One person capacity to create change could effect the ripple effect.
Like what Nelstar said. Good Luck!
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i dont realli feel that way ... cause it didnt take alot of effort to make the world a better place .. juz a little a dae will make a big difference to the ppl around u ..Originally posted by M?square:You'll end up bitter dissapointment not being able to change the world.
But with your ambition, you can create powerful revolutionary movements.
Try changing your enviornment or tribe. It's good enough.
One person capacity to create change could effect the ripple effect.
Like what Nelstar said. Good Luck!
- Friends SHOULD return favours.
- People SHOULD appreciate you.
- Planes SHOULD arrive on time.
- Everyone SHOULD be honest.
- Your husband or best friend SHOULD remember your birthday. -
If SHOULD change to COULD, then you really made the difference.Originally posted by stem_-_daimyou_asobi_hen: -
Well...nobody owes u any of those SHOULD's and I agree wiv the COULD's.Often when u expect something in return for a favour it doesn't come back to u.Such is the way life goes.
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Nel did u read this from some self-improvement book?I seemed to have read it before.
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We learn from somewhere and share it here. So that forumites could benefit from the topics.Originally posted by GrimR:Nel did u read this from some self-improvement book?I seemed to have read it before.
You too, can post something good here. -
before this dies.
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haha for a moment, i tot u were trying to say plant more seeds by dating more women, or being unfaithful with 100 other women or smth
