Splitting The Bill
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the big
all the time..........
who pays for the dinner and movie on dates?
here's an article i came across and would like to share with u all....
and hope can make use of the tips here to lighten tt awkward situation.....
Date One: Yes, Make the Offer
Most men want to treat on the first date. He wants to show that he is in fact a gentleman. This fine young man will reach for the check when the conversation has settled a bit, pretend to check the figures, and take out his wallet. What should you do? Ask if you can contribute by paying the tip or part of the bill (be prepared just in case he takes you up on it). This is your way of acknowledging his gesture. We just want the offer. A sweet thank-you is also appreciated. That is all men really want -- some simple recognition. But, do not go further than making the offer -- do not insist on paying your half, even if you're having the worse time of your life. This is like saying to the guy, "I could never be interested in you."
Dates Two and Three: Actually Making a Contribution
Out for dinner once again, maybe a movie this time, or bowling or a dance club, etc. Some money is being spent somewhere. Again offer to contribute. Again say thank you when he insists on paying. However, this time find some way to make a contribution. Examples: Buy the popcorn at a movie, buy a round of drinks at a bar, buy some ice cream after dinner. Many guys will say that is not necessary, but it is definitely appreciated.
Dates 4 and Beyond: Time to Insist
Most men like when the women take the wheel for a night or two. Once you are "dating," you should plan a night and insist on paying. This gesture again is a nice way to recognize that you appreciate your guy being generous on dates one through, and now it is your turn. A nice guy will offer to contribute and it is okay to reject his contribution.
Variables
(1) You make more money than your guy; (2) your guy is a student; or (3) your guy is unemployed. In these cases, I think, you will need to insist of contributing more. Most guys still want to treat despite these circumstances, but you need to at least let him know that you are willing to pay. Offer a couple of times. If he insists on paying, let him for a couple of dates, say thank-you and recognize that you are with a true gentleman, one who wants to treat him women right even when it is tough on his bank account.
Of course there are the guys who will readily take up your offer to pay, ask you for half of the bill, or claim that they left their wallets at home and ask you to pay the whole thing. I can't speak for these men, and hopefully, you ladies won't have to speak to too many of them. -
Neat article! Tks for sharing.....
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mi goes under Variable section...cos mi no $$$
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if guy insist on paying, then the ger can buy a small gift for the guy as a token of appreciation(after the dinner or on next date).....
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paid or not, i dont mind receiving gifts..Originally posted by FireIce:if guy insist on paying, then the ger can buy a small gift for the guy as a token of appreciation(after the dinner or on next date).....
are u guys ok with tt?
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u oso no date me..............Originally posted by www:paid or not, i dont mind receiving gifts.. -
I dun tink is he dun wanna date U, is I tink he scared wat will happen to him if he does...Originally posted by FireIce:u oso no date me..............
Besides, I as a typical "MCP" or smth similar will offer to pay for da 1st few dates, until we 2 si bei close den can discuss loh... $$$ was created to be spent. Period. -OO- -
True True....but spend on girls wisely.Originally posted by Bontakun:I dun tink is he dun wanna date U, is I tink he scared wat will happen to him if he does...
Besides, I as a typical "MCP" or smth similar will offer to pay for da 1st few dates, until we 2 si bei close den can discuss loh... $$$ was created to be spent. Period. -OO-
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i dun mind paying all the time, provided i like her and provided i don't feel like she taking advantage. if she offers i will say "ok! thanx~~~"
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i just dated u for badminton yesterday, rem?Originally posted by FireIce:u oso no date me.............. -
If you are married, what about paying for your in-laws???
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Yesh... Wisely... but unfortunately my pattern is liddat: as long as they r happy, I dun mind spending more than them. Dis oso means my family, GF, close frens, & watsoever or whomever lah... So they Zhuan(4) loh...Originally posted by M©+square:True True....but spend on girls wisely. -
It is inevitable.Originally posted by DeadPoet:If you are married, what about paying for your in-laws??? -
Originally posted by DeadPoet:
of course have to lar
If you are married, what about paying for your in-laws??? -
Originally posted by Sir_Horny:of course have to lar
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Originally posted by FireIce:
wow! suddenly so generous come and share good stuff ah? what's cooking?
the big all the time..........
who pays for the dinner and movie on dates?
here's an article i came across and would like to share with u all....
and hope can make use of the tips here to lighten tt awkward situation.....
[b]Date One: Yes, Make the Offer
Most men want to treat on the first date. He wants to show that he is in fact a gentleman. This fine young man will reach for the check when the conversation has settled a bit, pretend to check the figures, and take out his wallet. What should you do? Ask if you can contribute by paying the tip or part of the bill (be prepared just in case he takes you up on it). This is your way of acknowledging his gesture. We just want the offer. A sweet thank-you is also appreciated. That is all men really want -- some simple recognition. But, do not go further than making the offer -- do not insist on paying your half, even if you're having the worse time of your life. This is like saying to the guy, "I could never be interested in you."
Dates Two and Three: Actually Making a Contribution
Out for dinner once again, maybe a movie this time, or bowling or a dance club, etc. Some money is being spent somewhere. Again offer to contribute. Again say thank you when he insists on paying. However, this time find some way to make a contribution. Examples: Buy the popcorn at a movie, buy a round of drinks at a bar, buy some ice cream after dinner. Many guys will say that is not necessary, but it is definitely appreciated.
Dates 4 and Beyond: Time to Insist
Most men like when the women take the wheel for a night or two. Once you are "dating," you should plan a night and insist on paying. This gesture again is a nice way to recognize that you appreciate your guy being generous on dates one through, and now it is your turn. A nice guy will offer to contribute and it is okay to reject his contribution.
Variables
(1) You make more money than your guy; (2) your guy is a student; or (3) your guy is unemployed. In these cases, I think, you will need to insist of contributing more. Most guys still want to treat despite these circumstances, but you need to at least let him know that you are willing to pay. Offer a couple of times. If he insists on paying, let him for a couple of dates, say thank-you and recognize that you are with a true gentleman, one who wants to treat him women right even when it is tough on his bank account.
Of course there are the guys who will readily take up your offer to pay, ask you for half of the bill, or claim that they left their wallets at home and ask you to pay the whole thing. I can't speak for these men, and hopefully, you ladies won't have to speak to too many of them.
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i always offer to pay my own share...
dun wanna be a burden to the guys wallet hahaha -
Yah, me too
in fact, i dun like guys paying 4 my share
makes me feel & appear "inadequate"
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It has become a social perception that guys should do all the work(almost).Originally posted by henrietta:Yah, me too
in fact, i dun like guys paying 4 my share
makes me feel & appear "inadequate"
If you really want to pay. Let him buy you a meal(his treat), buy him dessert at Haagen Daz. -
If you really want to pay. Let him buy you a meal(his treat), buy him dessert at Haagen Daz.
Yup, thanks
I do try that sometimes when my other half feels a lil' bit MCPish &
when i dun wanna feel too indebted tooIt has become a social perception that guys should do all the work(almost).
All the work(almost), as in the courting part lah,
lil' things like opening of doors 4 the ladies, carrying of bags, helping wif the food tray works wonders
cos as u know we, females, 'tend to go into details'
the paying part really doesn't matter that much
ps.unless i'm broke
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Has anyone wonder paying = gentleman? -
Has anyone wonder paying = gentleman?
Eee
Nope, nt really