Women Want A Sensitive Jerk
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ok......tt's the ultimate oxymoron.........hahahaha
but then.....as the saying goes "nan ren bu huai, nuu ren bu ai".....
the following write-up is from my other fav boyish site (www.askmen.com)
many self-claimed NICE GUYS always complain tt girls are snuggling up with the other bad boys yada yada........
so, why are bad boys so attractive?
and where do the "good guys" stand?
read on......
Jerk Appeal
The reason why even the sweetest of women gravitate toward the jerk at one point or another is because he exhibits certain qualities that appeal to women universally. Sane women are not ball-busters by nature and want a man who has a backbone and displays a healthy amount of testosterone. We can't help but be drawn to the jerk's confidence and the fact that he doesn't let people walk all over him or tell him what to do.
A relationship with a jerk usually gets ugly because he will inevitably take any sign of attachment from the woman he is with as a threat to his free-wheeling ways, and go out of his way to show her that he is, well, a jerk. For instance, if the woman mentions a concert she'd like to see with him in a month from now, he will interpret this as her wanting to be his ball and chain and will probably go out and find himself another woman ASAP -- without telling the ball and chain of course.
So, the woman ends up not knowing what happened and goes crying to her friends about wanting the antithesis of the jerk: the nice guy. But alas, he is also all wrong.
Nice Guy Appeal
After being with the jerk, the nice guy looks really appealing. He is kind, listens and can't believe that jerk would cheat on a girl like her. But after he helps mend her broken heart, he suddenly becomes too nice. I mean, he watches chick flicks, goes shopping with her, and never says no.
The problem? She starts to feel like he is more of a girlfriend than a boyfriend, and finds herself longing for "a real man." -
Hence the confusing conundrum. So which is it? What do women want? We want the best of both worlds. Call it a nice jerk if you will, but I prefer the term sensitive bastard.
Johnny Depp was voted "Sexiest Man Alive" by People magazine in 2004. The key to his sex appeal? He is the ultimate sensitive bastard. On one hand, he has a bunch of tattoos, smokes like a chimney, marches to the beat of his own drum, and never feels the need to explain or apologize for his behavior; on the other hand, he is a family man who adores his wife, and plays Barbie with his daughter and trucks with his son.
What's my point? He exhibits the qualities that women like about the jerk, such as confidence, a backbone, and a devilish twinkle in his eye, as well as the sensitivity and kindness of the nice guy, without falling into either of these traps. By pointing this out, I am not implying that you should emulate his behavior; I am merely citing him as one of many possible examples of the sensitive bastard. So take a cue from the man and learn to walk that fine line.
The way to keep the woman of your dreams interested in you and only you is to be sensitive while retaining your masculinity. Know when to be kind and understanding, and when to stick to your guns, so to speak. For instance, if she just got fired and is devastated, that is when you should be her shoulder to cry on and do something nice for her like rent her favorite comedy on DVD and watch it with her. On the other hand, if she decides to redecorate your place while you're away and you return to find that your bedroom is now really "pretty," it's time to sit your little woman down and let her know that she really shouldn't have.
The key is to avoid both extremes of the nice guy and the jerk. Don't be at her beck and call, but be there for her when she needs you most. Don't cheat on her, but go out with the guys and don't let her give you any grief about it. Don't ever let her think that she can tell you what to wear, eat, think, or say, but listen to and respect her opinion. You get the idea.
This way, she knows that you love her but that she can't walk all over you, which is the key to her loving and respecting you. Throw in a romantic gesture or two every now and then and she'll be so in love, she won't know what hit her. Think about it, if you give her the best of both worlds, why would she ever want to look elsewhere?
You have to trust me on this one because most women don't even know that this is what they want, but unless they are users or man-haters, it is. So don't listen to any more crap about women wanting Mr. Sensitive and falling into the arms of Mr. Jerk; be the sensitive bastard they can't get enough of. -
Wah lau....you can't stop ah....
This theory hor....very powerful one leh. Got to use it sparingly cosh then alot of them know the trick liaoz.
But good reference lah.
This topic could discussed a great deal. If led properly. -
as a side note.............guys oso want "naughty" girls rite?
i mean......good girls tts are mischievous at times
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Wah F| U sure got alot... U not stress meh?
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Fi did you just write this all by yourself or you got it from some site?
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din read my first post first few lines?????????????????Originally posted by :Fi did you just write this all by yourself or you got it from some site? -
Ok ok...... I think I get it.
So in summary, apart from being sweet to one another, both man and woman also need an occassional slap across each others' face too.
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more slaps on each others' butt face would be preferred though....Originally posted by Spear:Ok ok...... I think I get it.
So in summary, apart from being sweet to one another, both man and woman also need an occassional slap across each others' face too.
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YeahOriginally posted by FireIce:as a side note.............guys oso want "naughty" girls rite?
i mean......good girls tts are mischievous at times 
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THAT i can certainly help..Originally posted by narz:more slaps on each others' butt face would be preferred though.... 
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narz's posts very 'naughty' today ah...Originally posted by narz:more slaps on each others' butt face would be preferred though.... -
its normal.Originally posted by audlenelee:narz's posts very 'naughty' today ah...
people get particularly randy on exams' eve.. -
Originally posted by www:its normal.
people get particularly randy on exams' eve..
u muz had quite a nite on your exams' evesss then... u had 4 papers (if i'm not wrong)! i only have 2 tis time round! -
waahhahahaha!!! poor fren of mine...Originally posted by narz:
u muz had quite a nite on your exams' evesss then... u had 4 papers (if i'm not wrong)! i only have 2 tis time round! -
i wanted to add to the post... Lucky gal!Originally posted by audlenelee:waahhahahaha!!! poor fren of mine...
but i guess u look at her plight differently! kkekkekkeee...
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Now the really important question is, where do you stand FireIce? Do you prefer the jerk or the nice guy?
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Didn't you realise that she shared one of the most powerful theory in datingship/courtship?Originally posted by Himbo:Now the really important question is, where do you stand FireIce? Do you prefer the jerk or the nice guy?
Who doesn't want their Boyfriends to be faithful, sensitive, kind, loving and all?
All gals prefer the nice guy....but couldn't stand too much of them. Cos nice guys become girlfriends.....whipish....then....
Will be discussed in details in other threads. -
i like sacarsm in our language
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i would want a nice guy with some of those "bad boy" qualities.....
appreciate gentlemen SOPS............
at the same time mus be macho and stand up for himself and protect his loved ones.....not those nua nua guniangs........hahahahaha -
I tink U refering to yr BF izzit? No need humble lah... admit its him loh...Originally posted by FireIce:i would want a nice guy with some of those "bad boy" qualities.....
appreciate gentlemen SOPS............
at the same time mus be macho and stand up for himself and protect his loved ones.....not those nua nua guniangs........hahahahaha -
he is a "bad nice guy"Originally posted by Bontakun:I tink U refering to yr BF izzit? No need humble lah... admit its him loh... -
Good good. May U 2 live HAPPILY ever after, even till death U 2 wun part. Unless of coz in hell "some1" wan U 2 to part, den I mth to sae...Originally posted by FireIce:he is a "bad nice guy" 
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....................Originally posted by Bontakun:Good good. May U 2 live HAPPILY ever after, even till death U 2 wun part. Unless of coz in hell "some1" wan U 2 to part, den I mth to sae... -
eerrr...........too drama lah.........Originally posted by Bontakun:Good good. May U 2 live HAPPILY ever after, even till death U 2 wun part. Unless of coz in hell "some1" wan U 2 to part, den I mth to sae...