How....
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Its a long story, so i will cut is short....
I (Guy), have done smth wrong to my gf, and really really... hope she wont break up with me and we could be tgt for the rest of our life..But recently she told me she could forgive me, but she just cant forget that matter...And that's the reason she just cant bring herself to get back with me...I really cherish this relationship with her, and i vow and swear and curse (orwhatsoever) that I wouldnt do it ever again, cos its my one and only biggest regret in my whole life...I love her.
So, I hope anyone could give me some tips? =(
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u cheated on her rite..
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the something wrong is wat thing?
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no...I just got abit horny at that time..(fyi: we didnt do that)
Zzz...f#!@ myself....its just totally my fault...
pls give me some advice? I'm really repentent...
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huh??
so wat is it?
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Ya. What exactly did you do to her? Forced yourself on her?
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I would suggest a cool-off period between the both of you for around a week or two and promise her that you would reflect on your mistake over this period.
Think of it this way: say if I'm a salesman, and you're a custom-built oven, and I sell you to your girlfriend. So she bakes bread with you and enjoys every bite of it every day, until a month later you go cranky and caused a fire in her home. She calls me up and tells me about the incident. I immediately apologize to her and luckily, she accepts my apology.
Now, do you think I, as a salesman, would be pushing a little too far if I said, "Hey, just give that oven another try. I assure you it won't cause another fire" when it almost killed her just a while ago? And on the other hand, if I just keep trying to convince her to use you again, wouldn't she simply be annoyed instead of having any thoughts to use you again?
So instead, I tell her, "Lady, let me refund you with a voucher and take the oven back to fix it. It should be fixed in a week. After one week, let me know whether you would still want this custom-built oven."
Chances are, she will take you back after a week because:
- She misses baking nice-smelling bread with you.
- She don't want to spend more time choosing and buying another oven.
- Neither does she want to spend time learning how to use another oven.
- She's afraid that her next oven would be worse than you.
And if she does, great for you, because she would be more tolerant of your future blow-ups as long as they are not as bad as the one before. (Some evil ovens exploit this human behaviour!)Of course, if she doesn't take you back, it would probably mean your bread is just not good enough for her. No point staying in her kitchen if she's not going to bake bread with you anyway. Time to upgrade yourself and find a new owner who makes better dough. -
Exactly what did u do to ur gf...care to elaborate on it.....><"
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LatecomerX : Thanks alot, really understood what u meant...but now the problem is after 2 or 3 wks, which is this wk, she asked me whether i still love her. Ofcourse i replied with a "yes" , and chatted abit and the conclusion was that, she could forgive me, but just unable to forget abt the matter. Sometimes i really wonder how i could change this matter to something more...positive to her? like instead of thinking it as a nightmare...
To others: well...we both were kissing and i tried to touch her chest..but she didnt want and yea, i did not... But come to think of it, i look like a total f&*$ing bastard...
(you know its embarrassed to say this kind of thing, sry abt it)
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Sry for double post
To LatecomerX: So yea..now I'm just thinking whether to wait again, and see how things go? whether she can really forgive me (as in continue the relationship). But the problem is, everytime i asked her a qn, she replied with a idk. And when she decided to break on the one of the weeks, she asked me whether i still love her on the next wk.. no, i'm not referring that "please make a choice, stop contradicting" kind of thing....
you know its rly hard to read a girl's heart. I'm with her not long, but I've loved her deeply. If only she could tell me if i can be with her again...
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Originally posted by Apocalypse90:
LatecomerX : Thanks alot, really understood what u meant...but now the problem is after 2 or 3 wks, which is this wk, she asked me whether i still love her. Ofcourse i replied with a "yes" , and chatted abit and the conclusion was that, she could forgive me, but just unable to forget abt the matter. Sometimes i really wonder how i could change this matter to something more...positive to her? like instead of thinking it as a nightmare...
To others: well...we both were kissing and i tried to touch her chest..but she didnt want and yea, i did not... But come to think of it, i look like a total f&*$ing bastard...
(you know its embarrassed to say this kind of thing, sry abt it)
If she don't want and you did not proceed further, then I see nothing wrong with that. It is just a heat of the moment thingy.Btw : how old are both of u??
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Originally posted by Apocalypse90:
Sry for double post
To LatecomerX: So yea..now I'm just thinking whether to wait again, and see how things go? whether she can really forgive me (as in continue the relationship). But the problem is, everytime i asked her a qn, she replied with a idk. And when she decided to break on the one of the weeks, she asked me whether i still love her on the next wk.. no, i'm not referring that "please make a choice, stop contradicting" kind of thing....
you know its rly hard to read a girl's heart. I'm with her not long, but I've loved her deeply. If only she could tell me if i can be with her again...
I am curious.. How long you been with her? How old are the both of you?
Wah.. You know her not long, start to touch chest liao ah... hahaha.. I think you need to know her better and build up your relationship before she will actually "allow and enjoy" you touching her chest.
Don't worry.. Most girls are like that.. They can forgive but can't forget. You should re-assure her that the matter wont happen a second time. Time will slowly fade her memory on this, but if anything similar happens again, be sure that she will "remember hatred" and bring up this matter again, even though it has passed for 1 year, 5 years or even 10 years !!
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18 and 15..
To p228: how to reassure? That's why i need some advice on it..i told her but it seems useless...yea its my fault for doing those things...zzz
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Dump her.
She is an underage pussy.
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Originally posted by Apocalypse90:
LatecomerX : Thanks alot, really understood what u meant...but now the problem is after 2 or 3 wks, which is this wk, she asked me whether i still love her. Ofcourse i replied with a "yes" , and chatted abit and the conclusion was that, she could forgive me, but just unable to forget abt the matter. Sometimes i really wonder how i could change this matter to something more...positive to her? like instead of thinking it as a nightmare...
To others: well...we both were kissing and i tried to touch her chest..but she didnt want and yea, i did not... But come to think of it, i look like a total f&*$ing bastard...
(you know its embarrassed to say this kind of thing, sry abt it)
Luckily, she stopped you, or you could have done something which will have land you in hot soup. She is only 15, let the relationship progress as a non-physical one ( And I don't mean kissing. You know what I mean. ) for the time being.
Anyway, no point in trying to make her forget about it. Just try asking her out again, since the cooling period has passed. The main thing now is to stabilise your relationship once more, instead of worrying about this and that.
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You both still very young.
If you promised her, make sure you keep you promise and not saying "I horny, cannot control my sexual urge".
Girls dont like boy to break promise. Please ensure you keep your promise. If you can do it, all will be fine. Dont worry too much.
Hey! Dont you think that studies come first?
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hanor hanor.. study come first. love later. Anyway when you older or she is older. You will feel she is not the one for you..
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Still very young, dont make your parents worry about you.