hi folks
just need some advice on the body language of women not little gals..
1) almost everyday i will see this gal when going to work. i do not know her initially.
2) she is quite nice and i always look at her directly, she will glance at me sometimes... i am not handsome guy and i am quite old 30+.
3) then suddenly she started to stand very close behind me. when i found out, she will looked embrassed and stand infront of me. then she will start looking into the glass reflection and tidy her hair, take off her shoes. tidy her dress...etc...etc...
4) i notice she wears a ring on middle finger, so i thought she was married and i did not approach her for a long time (a few months). then she changed to index finger. recently she do not wear the ring anymore.
5) Then Recently, she started to stare very hard at me, not the friendly looks. and i was scared at first.
6) ON 1 day, i just talk up to her and say hi... and get to know her name...and where she works. but i nvr get her number yet...
7) But she started to act weird, she will ignore me on somedays and smile to me on other days. she no longer look into the glass reflection anymore.... she started to read books!!! lolz
i do not know what these signs means...
please advice..thanks
if she stares at you again, stare back and wait for her to look away. if you look away first she will think she has more power than you and every woman wants a MAN. mayb when she stared at you before she was testing to see if you were man enough to stare back; look away from her and she won't bother fixing her hair or looking sexy for you anymore.
Originally posted by annasayang:if you look away first she will think she has more power than you and every woman wants a MAN.
annasayang, would you want a weak man?
hang up to sell
U need to be more aggressive
come come dun shy....
Originally posted by ztreyier:annasayang, would you want a weak man?
nope. i got myself a man and i don't see him as weak that's why i'm with him.
Originally posted by annasayang:
nope. i got myself a man and i don't see him as weak that's why i'm with him.
What is a strong man to you? Rich?
no? this post has nothing to do with rich...what are you on about?
ok there's the progress.
i started talking to her more everyday and she seems friendly.
we talk about where we work blah blah blah normal things...
1 day i asked her for her number she smiled and rejected me.
ok no problem, i expected that and smiled back.
then i asked her if she is married? she smiled again and say 'NO not married".
a few days later, i asked her where she have her lunch.
she told me the usual places she go.
so i hinted maybe 1 day we can go have lunch together?
then all hell breaks lose... hahhaa... she started to look disgusted at me and sounded unfriendly. lolz!!!
ok so i got her signal and stopped pestering her.
we still see each other everyday. sometimes she will smile at me. ok i just smile back.
but i nvr walk up to talk to her again, i keep my distance and try to avoid eye contact.
when i can't avoid eye contact, she will give me a unhappy face.
she doesnt smile to me anymore.but i still somehow managed to smile back when i cannot avoid eye contact.
i feel uncomfortable with this. and i do not wish to anger her or make myself look like a fool. i just want to stop this kind of thing going on.
hahhaha... i can't figured out what i have done wrong.
she's just not interested i guess. you haven't done anything wrong, it's just the way things are. sounds like a case of "just friends" from here on.
continue the smiling
the last thing u wanna do is have her stop smiling at u
tt means, no more hopes at all
by the way, are u good-looking?
He already said "i am not handsome guy and i am quite old 30+.".
Ksc 133
Man or woman, just ignore these sort of eccentric people.
i not pining any hopes on this.
just that i feel weird, that how come suddenly she so unfriendly even though i already got her signal and keep my distance and avoid eye contact laio man...
why things had to be "ugly".. cannot be normal and treat ppl with respect meh?
even strangers dun treat each other like this... lolz
haha...i am not handsome or ugly either.
ppl these days are strange...
now tt u 失� u put the blame on ppl?
I think it is just a normal friend.
Nothing much.
So dont think too hard.
When you meet, smile and say hi or hello.
Be normal and dont think until u cannot sleep and eat.
From what you say, nothing much except just a friend only.
Good luck!
haha folks thanks for advice.
no lar i nt blaming lar. i nt so bad guy lar...hahaha
anyway i will be away for 2 months tml. hopefully betta things will come.
hahhaha cheers! folks
Good luck bro!
hi folks,
i am back in SG
just some updates...
i see the lady again everyday to work.
even though i try to avoid eye contact.. but sometimes cannot avoid lar...
she did smile to me when she sees me and i just smile back.
but i did not try to get close and talk to her again, each time when's there a chance aka waiting for bus to come etc etc... i just stand one side...
i am not boasting my ego or making up some fake stories etc etc...
but i do notice, she will look unhappy... when i ignore her..
maybe i am too sensitive..???
i am not sure if she trying to be friendly or what else?
i just do not want to anger her again like last time...
what should i do?
thanks
you are rushing things lah. take it easy. why must jump into relationship so fast one? just chit chat more first. you dont even know first thing about anything about her.
Act 'dao' and ignore her la...If she's really interested she'll will approach you herself...have you always been the one initiating those conversations with her?
If she is interested she won't be able to take it if you ignore her for too long and will try to talk to you.
Is she pretty?
hi folks
thanks for advice,
Again, i am not bluffing and making up stories here...
right now sometimes, she will walk up to me very close and stare at me angryily in the bus or bus stop.
she did not speak... just stare...?
but i still did not talk to her ,i just smile and quickly avoid her.
i feel that i did not do anything wrong to be treated this way...
yes, she looks pretty to me...
but i gonna give myself a chance to forget and move on.
i hope everybody will be happy after this.
thanks again folks.
thread closed.
she's weird.
Hi friend,
You are over-analyzing things.
First, lets have some facts.
She rejected telling you her numbers.
This is fact.
About "staring" , "looking unhappy" , "why stand so close" , these are all your own impression and speculation. You may think one thing, but the reality is not like that at all.
I personally think you are over-analyzing.
She stand close, maybe she wants to enter/ exit easily. She "looks unhappy" maybe because she just wake up and didnt have a good sleep the night before. Etc, etc. Nothing to do with you. And I dont think you should psycho-analyze people's faces and guess their emotions. She may be thinking about her dog, or whatever. Not you.
Originally posted by Veggie Bao:Hi friend,
You are over-analyzing things.
First, lets have some facts.
She rejected telling you her numbers.
This is fact.
About "staring" , "looking unhappy" , "why stand so close" , these are all your own impression and speculation. You may think one thing, but the reality is not like that at all.
I personally think you are over-analyzing.
She stand close, maybe she wants to enter/ exit easily. She "looks unhappy" maybe because she just wake up and didnt have a good sleep the night before. Etc, etc. Nothing to do with you. And I dont think you should psycho-analyze people's faces and guess their emotions. She may be thinking about her dog, or whatever. Not you.
nicely put.
i get into the over analysing trap too.
if u can see her often just try to make more small talk. ask about wat she likes? wat she likes to do???
If dun wanna ask number ask for msn or facebook lo... take it slow. persist. Be a salesmen and face rejection, no need for face...