Y do u want a offical relationship
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Originally posted by jesslyn1992:
HAHA yea of course. but i never gave him any hint. although last time he took me back with a motorbike so i had to kinda hug him from behind. he told my another best friend (who's also his best friend) about it. well i felt shy la of course. but then yea like i said we never really confess. now idk why, i dont have any feelings towards him alrdy. he's simply my best-EST friend. HAHA
so IF in the past the both of you confess to each other.... will you guys move on to another stage? -
Originally posted by ditzy:
What is intimate hug? Is it something like a motorcycle pillion rider hug, or a hug with a lot of touchy feely, and wandering hands?
Lan lan lor, what to do.
intimate or simple friend hug also cannot.... lols... btw what is lan lan? -
Originally posted by joyanz:
so IF in the past the both of you confess to each other.... will you guys move on to another stage?idk. thank goodness it didnt happen :D
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y thank goodness?
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coz i still dont know what i would do. haha. some parts of me wanted to mantain our friendship. others wanted to have him as a whole. sighs.
note that everything is in PAST TENSE. i have him as my best friend as a whole now.
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hey hey.. lidat then can know more about each other wat..
then got more excuse to call each other out wat..
lidat then can spend time together alone wat..
lidat then can express ur love instead of bottling it up wat..
then after that when the relationship mature.. u can marry each other wat..
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I'm quite amuse by the fact that you seem to be rather focus on the physical issues in a R/S. That really sounds immature and lack of deeper thought. I would smack the persons behind and bring him/her on a tour of geylang at night to show them that physical intimacy could be bought with a few mere dollars.
There should be a lot more thought put into the beginning of a R/S. Most of it would be focus on commitment. It is with upmost importance that you recognise the fact that once you are in a r/s, you are to be committed to that someone. You give up the perks of singlehood for the exculsivity of being in a r/s. Some people like the idea and some do not, and thus there is no right or wrong, just different needs.
For me, sex is a must. I understand myself and know that I have a high sex drive. To me, a r/s without sex will most probably only lead to disaster. Of course, I'm open to objections but I will move on to someone else. For those who disagree with what I have said, I can only tell you that I dun disagree with you but you are just not me.
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Originally posted by ItchyArmpit:
hey hey.. lidat then can know more about each other wat..
then got more excuse to call each other out wat..
lidat then can spend time together alone wat..
lidat then can express ur love instead of bottling it up wat..
then after that when the relationship mature.. u can marry each other wat..
I agree!
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Originally posted by Callan:
I'm quite amuse by the fact that you seem to be rather focus on the physical issues in a R/S. That really sounds immature and lack of deeper thought. I would smack the persons behind and bring him/her on a tour of geylang at night to show them that physical intimacy could be bought with a few mere dollars.
There should be a lot more thought put into the beginning of a R/S. Most of it would be focus on commitment. It is with upmost importance that you recognise the fact that once you are in a r/s, you are to be committed to that someone. You give up the perks of singlehood for the exculsivity of being in a r/s. Some people like the idea and some do not, and thus there is no right or wrong, just different needs.
For me, sex is a must. I understand myself and know that I have a high sex drive. To me, a r/s without sex will most probably only lead to disaster. Of course, I'm open to objections but I will move on to someone else. For those who disagree with what I have said, I can only tell you that I dun disagree with you but you are just not me.
ok, u are a scary guy
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Originally posted by candiz:
ok, u are a scary guy
So how much did I scare you little girl? I'm a 31 years old hello kitty monster. Is it really that scary?
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Originally posted by candiz:
ok, u are a scary guy
I'm just very opinionated. You should still be very young, and my adivce to a young girl like you is that you will meet more like me in your years to come.
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Originally posted by Callan:
So how much did I scare you little girl? I'm a 31 years old hello kitty monster. Is it really that scary?
I am not a little girl
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Originally posted by candiz:
I am not a little girl
You sure sound little to me, at least you sound inexperience in the ways of the world.
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some people feel that its an affirmation of their relationship to the elders or some feel that its a form of security...either way...it depends on the couple as well...some like it assured some like it as domestic partnership/relationship (together but with no strings attached)
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Originally posted by fairlady_xoxo:
some people feel that its an affirmation of their relationship to the elders or some feel that its a form of security...either way...it depends on the couple as well...some like it assured some like it as domestic partnership/relationship (together but with no strings attached)
Now at least that's another mature thought.
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Originally posted by joyanz:
hi guys and gals
i am just wondering... why do a guy and girl decide to go into a offical relationship?
i mean... lets say... u and this guy/gal really can communicate very well, u guys are happy with each other's company.. to the extend of falling for each other.. even confessed to each other. but why cant the relationship status remain as 'best friends' status, but must move on to other level 'BGR' and start to call each other bf/gf?
my guess is that with this offical BGR, u guys can start touching each other(like hold hands, hug, kiss etc). am i right to say that? just asking around for more views on this issue =)
untill now i only got 1 ex gf.. the most is hold hands.. thats all
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Originally posted by Callan:
You sure sound little to me, at least you sound inexperience in the ways of the world.
thx for your advice, but I have met and gone out with enough guys. if u are really as experienced as u claim to be, then you should surely know that:
"To me, a r/s without sex will most probably only lead to disaster." => this is a major turn-off for gals
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Originally posted by candiz:
thx for your advice, but I have met and gone out with enough guys. if u are really as experienced as u claim to be, then you should surely know that:
"To me, a r/s without sex will most probably only lead to disaster." => this is a major turn-off for gals
It sure has turned you off, but at least I know there are other who aren't. An most importantly at least I'm frank and not some hyprocrite.
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But not all relationships were built on lust...some were also pure love?
Sex comes when you're both ready and mentally prepared for the consequences and that your relationship has stablized such that there's no worry of infidelity...but of course that's what i always felt sex should be based on...
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Originally posted by fairlady_xoxo:
But not all relationships were built on lust...some were also pure love?
Sex comes when you're both ready and mentally prepared for the consequences and that your relationship has stablized such that there's no worry of infidelity...but of course that's what i always felt sex should be based on...
None of my relationships in the later part of my life were built base on lust. They were all base on love and commitment. There are some where I was two-timed, so I would not say the other party base the relationship on the same values as I do.
To me, sex is part of commitment. It is my other way of showing commitment and saying "I love you". It is also a way of showing my most inner self to the person that I truly love. I dun share this part with anyone else.
Believe it or not, my R/S motto has gone from "I want a pretty girlfriend." when I was 12 to "The beginning of a R/S is the beginning of a marriage." now.
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Originally posted by Callan:
It sure has turned you off, but at least I know there are other who aren't. An most importantly at least I'm frank and not some hyprocrite.
well, at least that i gotta give you credit for
there are certainly those who aren't, but i can assure you these gals are the minority and quite rare
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Originally posted by candiz:
well, at least that i gotta give you credit for
there are certainly those who aren't, but i can assure you these gals are the minority and quite rare
Thank you.
But if you have seen what I have seen, I'm sure you will not be assured anymore. There are many guys like me, and they are still fine young men.
p.s. not to say I'm young though.
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Originally posted by Callan:
Thank you.
But if you have seen what I have seen, I'm sure you will not be assured anymore. There are many guys like me, and they are still fine young men.
p.s. not to say I'm young though.
I know there are many guys like you, I have met so many~
I will juz choose the guy who isn't like that (as with most of my gal frens), while the "many fine young men" like you can continue waiting
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Originally posted by candiz:
I know there are many guys like you, I have met so many~
I will juz choose the guy who isn't like that (as with most of my gal frens), while the "many fine young men" like you can continue waiting
Thank you for the rejection, it is much appreciated.
Next please.
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Originally posted by Callan:
Thank you for the rejection, it is much appreciated.
Next please.
