Y do u want a offical relationship
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hi guys and gals
i am just wondering... why do a guy and girl decide to go into a offical relationship?
i mean... lets say... u and this guy/gal really can communicate very well, u guys are happy with each other's company.. to the extend of falling for each other.. even confessed to each other. but why cant the relationship status remain as 'best friends' status, but must move on to other level 'BGR' and start to call each other bf/gf?
my guess is that with this offical BGR, u guys can start touching each other(like hold hands, hug, kiss etc). am i right to say that? just asking around for more views on this issue =)
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well i dunno, but u dun screw ur best friend for sure... Being in an offical relationship is like a contract... The security is there... Dun wanna end up later when u wanna get married, the other person simply just tell u, I tot we're only best friends?
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You bet! Its like signing a contract for hanky panky.
No lar, its more like they want to try something at a different level, and approach, not that thing lar of course. -
the key question is, "so where is this relationship going? u know, where are we?"
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contract....... but this kind of 'contract' also not reliable one. can break off anytime... so what for committe to the BGR?
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haha BGR so that we can know MORE about the guy/girl lohh.. LOLS
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Originally posted by Rednano:
the key question is, "so where is this relationship going? u know, where are we?"
what if your another half insist of remain of 'best friends' status? unwilling to bring it to the next level. do you mind? what are you going to do?
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Fark, any contract that involves only BGR, and hanky panky is never a solid one.
What to do, its your word, and my word only, cannot expect them to draft such things out in black and white right? Somethings just gotta give, can't have a reason to everything. -
Originally posted by jesslyn1992:
haha BGR so that we can know MORE about the guy/girl lohh.. LOLS
KNOW MORE. lols u also can get to know more about your best friend right? y after confession of feelings for each other then will proceed to nx level of relationship... cannot remain the same despite knowing that you both like each other?so its also a permission to get touchy with him/her right?
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I think it'll just be plain strange to go home and say "Hey mom, today I farked my best friend, its just a friend, we do it all the time."
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Originally posted by joyanz:
KNOW MORE. lols u also can get to know more about your best friend right? y after confession of feelings for each other then will proceed to nx level of relationship... cannot remain the same despite knowing that you both like each other?so its also a permission to get touchy with him/her right?
sighs it's best if you never really confess. like me and my best friend. i used to like him. and i know from a friend, he used to like me also. but then we never talked bout that. until now, we are still best friends :D yay me :D
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it's so natural, best friend is not the "best " compare gf, or bf, you cannot easily abandon your best friend for gf or bf
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Originally posted by joyanz:
KNOW MORE. lols u also can get to know more about your best friend right? y after confession of feelings for each other then will proceed to nx level of relationship... cannot remain the same despite knowing that you both like each other?so its also a permission to get touchy with him/her right?
touch is based on intuition...if cant go to next level then this bgr is for fark? best friends with benefits? fark buddies?
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lol. ok so if you like this guy/gal very much.
but you know that he/her dont allow his/her another half to touch(just holding hands or hugging) him/her. would you still consider going into an offical relationship with that person?
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because being in rs somehow give each other assurrance of their feelings. Somehow they will be given somekind of "rights" in each other life
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Originally posted by jesslyn1992:
sighs it's best if you never really confess. like me and my best friend. i used to like him. and i know from a friend, he used to like me also. but then we never talked bout that. until now, we are still best friends :D yay me :D
wow that's quite rare=) is there a slight tension if u guys were to talk about BGR? -
Originally posted by joyanz:
lol. ok so if you like this guy/gal very much.
but you know that he/her dont allow his/her another half to touch(just holding hands or hugging) him/her. would you still consider going into an offical relationship with that person?
hug is what kind of hug...holding hands between b-g platoonic r/s is out of the line... its already a couple kind of status liao... so pls dont anyhow lead the guy on...
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Originally posted by joyanz:
lol. ok so if you like this guy/gal very much.
but you know that he/her dont allow his/her another half to touch(just holding hands or hugging) him/her. would you still consider going into an offical relationship with that person?
Of course lar!
You got to learn to crawl before you walk right? -
Originally posted by joyanz:
wow that's quite rare=) is there a slight tension if u guys were to talk about BGR?HAHA yea of course. but i never gave him any hint. although last time he took me back with a motorbike so i had to kinda hug him from behind. he told my another best friend (who's also his best friend) about it. well i felt shy la of course. but then yea like i said we never really confess. now idk why, i dont have any feelings towards him alrdy. he's simply my best-EST friend. HAHA
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Originally posted by Rednano:
hug is what kind of hug...holding hands between b-g platoonic r/s is out of the line... its already a couple kind of status liao... so pls dont anyhow lead the guy on...
hug... like those kind or intimate hug.
what if the other party doesnt even wan to let you hold his/her hand? lol -
What so shy? Motorcycle, of course got to hold on to something right?
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Originally posted by ditzy:
Of course lar!
You got to learn to crawl before you walk right?
if you happen to know that he/she will not let you touch him/her( for whatever reason)for the rest of your life? -
yea but not when you are holding somebody you like okayy. it's different.
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Originally posted by ditzy:
What so shy? Motorcycle, of course got to hold on to something right?
reminds me when i motorcycle days... well.. brief anyways..
faster u drive.. the tighter she holds u...
he he
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Originally posted by joyanz:
hug... like those kind or intimate hug.
what if the other party doesnt even wan to let you hold his/her hand? lolWhat is intimate hug? Is it something like a motorcycle pillion rider hug, or a hug with a lot of touchy feely, and wandering hands?
Lan lan lor, what to do.