Why is this so?
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xie xie ni de an wei.Originally posted by darkhour:eh thats good leh...at least u knw when guys like u its not bcoz of looks...in a sense its an advantage oso...afterall, if ur rich n pretty n all, u wun knw whether the guy likes u for those or for who u r...
hmm some might b for lust bah, trying to get u to bed with them, or juz the thrill of wooing somebody...
well the thing is many ppl say i love u n stuff...but can one reali confirm that he or she will love the person forever?no one can reali say whether they will definitely love a person forever coz no one can tell the future...yet at the same time, if a guy tells u, i dun wanna say i love u coz i cant confirm my love for u is forever...after some time ull think does he even reali wanna b with u?
of course there r those who actuali dun even mean what they say...but i can tell u, feelings n emotions, u can onli tell for what it is now...sometimes feelings r hard to determine..
hmm.. im not the type of girl who will want to hear my bf say 'i love u' all the time..
and im not the type of girl who will be so naive to think that if he loves me now, he will love me forever..
but what im asking is that when he says the 3 words, mean what he say.
i dun care abt the past, i wun think so far abt the future.. wo zai hu de shi xian zai. -
hmmmm really simple answer, because males tend to be more visual creatures and women are more emotional.
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but thats the realistic part of me la...basically everyone hopes that good things will last forever...but can it reali last forever is a mystery...the best is, b naive, believe that it will...b hopeful, believe that there is someone who will love u for who u r forever...b determined, keep looking without losing hope...love is out there somewhereOriginally posted by browniebaobao:xie xie ni de an wei.
hmm.. im not the type of girl who will want to hear my bf say 'i love u' all the time..
and im not the type of girl who will be so naive to think that if he loves me now, he will love me forever..
but what im asking is that when he says the 3 words, mean what he say.
i dun care abt the past, i wun think so far abt the future.. wo zai hu de shi xian zai.
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because that is your choice, your standardOriginally posted by Xephone_xenon:The current girl i like now is very average looking also.
everyone has different standards / tolerance for looks. -
but generally if the girl looks like a million dollars but her attitude sux big time, the guy who's with her is a complete moron.
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u are 15 only..Originally posted by Xephone_xenon:No true for me leh.
I only consider a relationship after i have feelings for a certain girl.
And i dont really go for looks one. The current girl i like now is very average looking also.
maybe when u grow a bit older u will change.
but then hor.. like what a fren of mine said.. maybe men in the 'marriageable age' will woo first then try to cultivate feelings lor. -
i tot older should b look at character more?Originally posted by browniebaobao:u are 15 only..
maybe when u grow a bit older u will change.
but then hor.. like what a fren of mine said.. maybe men in the 'marriageable age' will woo first then try to cultivate feelings lor.
y will change leh?become more realistic?that wuld b a money or intelligence factor not looks...then again if he can look into character at 15, y do u think he will change when hes older?
hmm...eh then i consider 'marriageable age' anot? -
Because during the marriageable age.Originally posted by browniebaobao:u are 15 only..
maybe when u grow a bit older u will change.
but then hor.. like what a fren of mine said.. maybe men in the 'marriageable age' will woo first then try to cultivate feelings lor.
No time to waste liao mah. If not single for whole life they will lan lan. -
i also know ar..Originally posted by kopiosatu:hmmmm really simple answer, because males tend to be more visual creatures and women are more emotional.
but i dun understand why usually most guys will woo first then see whether he will like her or will there be sparks.
why cant be like someone first then learn to appreciate her beauty? -
too hopeful no good..Originally posted by darkhour:but thats the realistic part of me la...basically everyone hopes that good things will last forever...but can it reali last forever is a mystery...the best is, b naive, believe that it will...b hopeful, believe that there is someone who will love u for who u r forever...b determined, keep looking without losing hope...love is out there somewhere
when it comes to reality, i'll be shattered. -
alamak.. u gina simi marriageable age?Originally posted by darkhour:i tot older should b look at character more?
y will change leh?become more realistic?that wuld b a money or intelligence factor not looks...then again if he can look into character at 15, y do u think he will change when hes older?
hmm...eh then i consider 'marriageable age' anot?
bcos to u now, as a student.. the girls u meet are same as u, students mah..
unless u like older girls la.. but wun be too much of a difference..
when u grow older, go out to society to work le, the girls u meet are mostly working also.. things and perceptions will change de lor. -
that would be emotional already. to reach that, the guy has to be friends with the girl first and that usually doesn't involve the guy bio-ing her from the start.Originally posted by browniebaobao:i also know ar..
but i dun understand why usually most guys will woo first then see whether he will like her or will there be sparks.
why cant be like someone first then learn to appreciate her beauty?
guys are visual. see first, feelings later. don't try to understand why guys are not emotional. just understand that guys are visual. does it sound much clearer now?
life would be simpler that way, no point thinking so much when nothing is gonna change. -
guess so...reality always sux...but lets juz say, there are definitely nice guys who know how to appreciate u la...people juz take time to meetOriginally posted by browniebaobao:too hopeful no good..
when it comes to reality, i'll be shattered.
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yalor.. dun think abt the impossible.Originally posted by kopiosatu:that would be emotional already. to reach that, the guy has to be friends with the girl first and that usually doesn't involve the guy bio-ing her from the start.
guys are visual. see first, feelings later. don't try to understand why guys are not emotional. just understand that guys are visual. does it sound much clearer now?
life would be simpler that way, no point thinking so much when nothing is gonna change.
hao fu qian wor~ -
hopefully..Originally posted by darkhour:guess so...reality always sux...but lets juz say, there are definitely nice guys who know how to appreciate u la...people juz take time to meet
but hey, i din start this thread bcos i havent found that mr nice guy leh. -
Originally posted by browniebaobao:alamak.. u gina simi marriageable age?
bcos to u now, as a student.. the girls u meet are same as u, students mah..
unless u like older girls la.. but wun be too much of a difference..
when u grow older, go out to society to work le, the girls u meet are mostly working also.. things and perceptions will change de lor. i know la jk nia...but logically spkin...im legal age to get married what
not reali bah...id say not many ppl see things the way i do, n sometimes i think too much=p but i guess there r experiences that i will not understand until i reach a working environment, though im not reali eager to find out=p
things, perception change...but unless u reali meet a drastic event in ur life, ur general life perception wun change that much bah...i do know a number of adults or even teens in working world oso, n even though i dun understand it first hand, at least i hear abt it bah...
anyways, love can b found de la...its out there de reali -
pian pian wo jiu shi you hen duo bu xing de zhao yu.Originally posted by darkhour: i know la jk nia...but logically spkin...im legal age to get married what
not reali bah...id say not many ppl see things the way i do, n sometimes i think too much=p but i guess there r experiences that i will not understand until i reach a working environment, though im not reali eager to find out=p
things, perception change...but unless u reali meet a drastic event in ur life, ur general life perception wun change that much bah...i do know a number of adults or even teens in working world oso, n even though i dun understand it first hand, at least i hear abt it bah...
anyways, love can b found de la...its out there de reali
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*Scratch head* dont noe wat to say leh... lolOriginally posted by browniebaobao:got ar.. but i dun have the looks, so cant be like me bcos of looks..
but i also doubt their intention lor..
woo me and stead with me bcos of feelings or lust, or juz simply bcos they are lonely?
my ex ever said 'i feel for you.. i would like to know you better and to let you know more about me' blah blah blah..
but when it comes to break up, he said 'i din feel love'.
so tell me, was it 'feelings' in the first place?
Different people got different views lor...
But it is very unfair to state tat guys date first then talk about feelings while girls talk about feelings then date...
Anyway, the theory of dating and bf/gf is to find whether r those couples compatible in long term, or not? In fact, dating and making bf/gf is the first step of testing a marriage... I m not saying tat it should be date first then talk about feelings... errrr... it is just tat if both parties do not have any slight feelings for each other... They should not even carry on to the stage of becoming bf/gf... It takes 2 hand to clap lor... As long as, one party reject, they should not be dating at all...
*scratch head* whether y in the end some people's feelings disappear??? I also dont noe y... lol ... Well... if u take it in a way on y some people lost interest in hobbies, probably, u can understand y feelings will get lost.... -
Originally posted by browniebaobao:When it comes to finding a partner, i realize that men and women got a different approach.
When a man sees a pretty lady who attracts him in some ways, he will want to woo her and see whether things will work out, whether feelings can develop.. In short, date first then talk about feelings.
but a lady usually only consider going on a relationship when she has feelings for that man.. if there's no chemistry/feelings, usually she wun give chance. In short, must have the feeling first before dating/making a confession.
Am I correct to say that?
Why huh? Your views pls.
5 pages of debacle.. and its starting to side track again.. lol!Originally posted by browniebaobao:When it comes to finding a partner, i realize that men and women got a different approach.
When a man sees a pretty lady who attracts him in some ways, he will want to woo her and see whether things will work out, whether feelings can develop.. In short, date first then talk about feelings.
but a lady usually only consider going on a relationship when she has feelings for that man.. if there's no chemistry/feelings, usually she wun give chance. In short, must have the feeling first before dating/making a confession.
Am I correct to say that?
Why huh? Your views pls.
Well.. i agree that there is a different approach. Definately there will be difference. But the question u ask like this...to me , i feel like.. If the guy wants to woo first then consider relationship then wont the girl.. just have to date first then know whether to commit or have feelings lo! LOL!!! How do the girl know or have any feelings or chemistry if they were never approached by the guy !
But actually , not all guys like that. There are the other half who are just as happy as getting to know someone and develop a relationship like Ri Jiu Shen Qing. But then there are also girls that look at ur sports car and ur big wallet before even considering to approach u also ma.
Then there are some that talk about peoples perspective in terms of what is pretty and thier standards. If you start to look at that , then u have to look into what is pretty ? Pretty by what standard.
But to answer whether u are correct or not , i say correct in that category under that perspective but not correct in an overall general assesment . -
unfair?Originally posted by ispyyy:*Scratch head* dont noe wat to say leh... lol
Different people got different views lor...
But it is very unfair to state tat guys date first then talk about feelings while girls talk about feelings then date...
Anyway, the theory of dating and bf/gf is to find whether r those couples compatible in long term, or not? In fact, dating and making bf/gf is the first step of testing a marriage... I m not saying tat it should be date first then talk about feelings... errrr... it is just tat if both parties do not have any slight feelings for each other... They should not even carry on to the stage of becoming bf/gf... It takes 2 hand to clap lor... As long as, one party reject, they should not be dating at all...
*scratch head* whether y in the end some people's feelings disappear??? I also dont noe y... lol ... Well... if u take it in a way on y some people lost interest in hobbies, probably, u can understand y feelings will get lost....
but many guys here also agree wor. -
y u quoted the same thing two times huh?Originally posted by BadzMaro:5 pages of debacle.. and its starting to side track again.. lol!
Well.. i agree that there is a different approach. Definately there will be difference. But the question u ask like this...to me , i feel like.. If the guy wants to woo first then consider relationship then wont the girl.. just have to date first then know whether to commit or have feelings lo! LOL!!! How do the girl know or have any feelings or chemistry if they were never approached by the guy !
But actually , not all guys like that. There are the other half who are just as happy as getting to know someone and develop a relationship like Ri Jiu Shen Qing. But then there are also girls that look at ur sports car and ur big wallet before even considering to approach u also ma.
Then there are some that talk about peoples perspective in terms of what is pretty and thier standards. If you start to look at that , then u have to look into what is pretty ? Pretty by what standard.
But to answer whether u are correct or not , i say correct in that category under that perspective but not correct in an overall general assesment .
ok la, the first part of wat u posted makes sense lah. -
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