Why is this so?
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id haf to disagree with that...man's attraction can b in many forms, whether it is lust or true feelings...for me, im attracted to girls who r hot, that i do not deny, but at the same time, i nvr had the thought of placing the girl as potential date juz bcoz shes hot...Originally posted by browniebaobao:good question.
like many honest male forumites here responded.. man's attraction = lust
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good.Originally posted by darkhour:hmm...true enough...but i feel that if it lasted so long then he felt that it isnt right...means the guy din reali try to understand her more in the process of dating. when im with a girl, ill try to understand as much as i can, let her open up to me as much as the level at which my feelings for her grow. i realise alot of couples realise how different their goals r in life, or how different their lifestyles r onli after a very long time. for me i like to discuss abt them early, something like bringing forward the arguments that might occur in the future. but in this way i think it allows both of us to think whether this r/s will reali work or not, to avoid future regret.
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i ans can?Originally posted by browniebaobao:i always answer ur questions in an improper manner meh?
so let me ask u one q, will u date a girl who dun have good looks? let's say she's short, not so good at dressing, not pretty, fat and not that gentle.. will u go deeper to find out her personality and know her better?
short np at all(better than tall in fact=p), not so good at dressing okok la...not pretty np....fat ok i admit i cant reali accept this(hey at least im honest=p), not that gentle fine with me....overall, will still treat her as a fren like all others unless she displays characteristics which interest me loh...doesnt reali matter leh... -
1 thing for sure... not gentle one surely fail de loh... not gentle /= appearances mah.Originally posted by browniebaobao:i always answer ur questions in an improper manner meh?
so let me ask u one q, will u date a girl who dun have good looks? let's say she's short, not so good at dressing, not pretty, fat and not that gentle.. will u go deeper to find out her personality and know her better?
actually got equation one... the more u lack in outlook, the more u hv to make it up in personality... must see the guy like wad type of personality oso...
for me fat = lack of discipline... if not u shld hv made an effort to look healthy
not gd at dressing = lazy... nv make effort to make urself look presentable
fan shi mo qiang qiu -
The purpose of dates is to test the water. I think guys would like to see see how far it can go then throwing in other resources. On the other hand, the girls would like to see some commitment before, well, committing. Still, dates are a good way of understanding each other better.Originally posted by browniebaobao:When it comes to finding a partner, i realize that men and women got a different approach.
When a man sees a pretty lady who attracts him in some ways, he will want to woo her and see whether things will work out, whether feelings can develop.. In short, date first then talk about feelings.
but a lady usually only consider going on a relationship when she has feelings for that man.. if there's no chemistry/feelings, usually she wun give chance. In short, must have the feeling first before dating/making a confession.
Girls have more power than they realize. My seniors always tell me, if the girl doesn't like you, no matter what you do it will still be the same.
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Can you clarify the abovementioned?Originally posted by browniebaobao:
but a lady usually only consider going on a relationship when she has feelings for that man.. if there's no chemistry/feelings, usually she wun give chance. In short, must have the feeling first before dating/making a confession.
While I vaguely know what you're driving at, what exactly gives women the "feelings" for a man? I mean, what sets a man whom she would have feelings for apart from one she doesn't have feelings for on first impression? -
but bcos she's hot then u will develop feelings for her right?Originally posted by darkhour:id haf to disagree with that...man's attraction can b in many forms, whether it is lust or true feelings...for me, im attracted to girls who r hot, that i do not deny, but at the same time, i nvr had the thought of placing the girl as potential date juz bcoz shes hot... -
ok lor..Originally posted by sunny6110:1 thing for sure... not gentle one surely fail de loh... not gentle /= appearances mah.
actually got equation one... the more u lack in outlook, the more u hv to make it up in personality... must see the guy like wad type of personality oso...
for me fat = lack of discipline... if not u shld hv made an effort to look healthy
not gd at dressing = lazy... nv make effort to make urself look presentable
fan shi mo qiang qiu
u win lor..
i also know that i have a lot of weaknesses.. but i try v hard to make up in some other areas.. like be sweet, be ti tie, be always there for him, be understanding etc.. but then guys are still guys.. if his girl dun have the looks, he will hesitate to bring his gf home or meet his frens de. -
nah...i liked girls who i tot was not good looking before...but as i get to knw her more, she kinda became more beautiful in my eyes...though in the end it din wrk out either due to some mismatch in lifestyleOriginally posted by browniebaobao:but bcos she's hot then u will develop feelings for her right?
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well i do agree with u to a certain extent..Originally posted by SingaporeMacross:The purpose of dates is to test the water. I think guys would like to see see how far it can go then throwing in other resources. On the other hand, the girls would like to see some commitment before, well, committing. Still, dates are a good way of understanding each other better.
Girls have more power than they realize. My seniors always tell me, if the girl doesn't like you, no matter what you do it will still be the same.
Good luck gentlemen!
girls muz have that 'emotional attachment' before proceeding further..
but once she falls in love with a man.. she might give up everything for him. -
thats not true oso leh...not for all guys la anyways, there r always some assholes ruining our image mah...it reali depends on character la...not everyone onli looks for looks...Originally posted by browniebaobao:ok lor..
u win lor..
i also know that i have a lot of weaknesses.. but i try v hard to make up in some other areas.. like be sweet, be ti tie, be always there for him, be understanding etc.. but then guys are still guys.. if his girl dun have the looks, he will hesitate to bring his gf home or meet his frens de. -
Originally posted by walesa:
first impression?
Can you clarify the abovementioned?
While I vaguely know what you're driving at, [b]what exactly gives women the "feelings" for a man? I mean, what sets a man whom she would have feelings for apart from one she doesn't have feelings for on first impression?[/b]
first impression too fast to tell whether got feelings le.. im not one who judge someone by first impression de..
feelings is something that cant be described by words leh, brudder. we wun know when will there be a chemical reaction.. if it comes, it comes.. sometimes feelings develop even without realizing.. -
the more you like about his/her personality....
the more beautiful you think he/she is... -
beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.Originally posted by darkhour:nah...i liked girls who i tot was not good looking before...but as i get to knw her more, she kinda became more beautiful in my eyes...though in the end it din wrk out either due to some mismatch in lifestyle
if u really like someone.. u will think that she's beautiful. -
frankly spking, there r alot of girl players out there too, n their numbers r not losing to guys, esp in the current generation...i think i know more loyal guys than girlsOriginally posted by browniebaobao:well i do agree with u to a certain extent..
girls muz have that 'emotional attachment' before proceeding further..
but once she falls in love with a man.. she might give up everything for him.
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for most guys ba..Originally posted by darkhour:thats not true oso leh...not for all guys la anyways, there r always some assholes ruining our image mah...it reali depends on character la...not everyone onli looks for looks...
seen so many threads abt guys comparing their gf.. guys bring pretty girls out to show off blah blah. -
yep...so doesnt mean a girl is attractive to a guy, means that he lusting over her what...could be coz her character is starting to appeal to him...Originally posted by browniebaobao:beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.
if u really like someone.. u will think that she's beautiful. -
I dun think tat's the way... if the ger dun hv the looks, but look presentable, carry herself well... chinese call 'qi zhi' (the way u stand, sit, walk, eat, talk, dress)... and would be able to mix well wif his frens... I dun tink he will be reluctant..Originally posted by browniebaobao:if his girl dun have the looks, he will hesitate to bring his gf home or meet his frens de. -
i duno abt ur personalityOriginally posted by GHoST_18:the more you like about his/her personality....
the more beautiful you think he/she is...
but i still think u are shuai. -
which generation are u born in?Originally posted by darkhour:frankly spking, there r alot of girl players out there too, n their numbers r not losing to guys, esp in the current generation...i think i know more loyal guys than girls -
surely got some percentage that it's bcos of her good looks wan la.Originally posted by darkhour:yep...so doesnt mean a girl is attractive to a guy, means that he lusting over her what...could be coz her character is starting to appeal to him... -
my personality sucks...Originally posted by browniebaobao:i duno abt ur personality
but i still think u are shuai.
but thanks anyway...
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so it's all about mian zi right?Originally posted by sunny6110:I dun think tat's the way... if the ger dun hv the looks, but look presentable, carry herself well... chinese call 'qi zhi' (the way u stand, sit, walk, eat, talk, dress)... and would be able to mix well wif his frens... I dun tink he will be reluctant.. -
nvm... handsome can oreadi...Originally posted by GHoST_18:my personality sucks...
but thanks anyway... -
dun mention yandao gui~Originally posted by GHoST_18:my personality sucks...
but thanks anyway...