Why do women...
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u think love should be selfish??Originally posted by sunny6110:young pple shouldn't hv tink this way
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nitez~Originally posted by Kenashi:
like that then i oso don't know what to say liao
nite nite.
me going to get some snooze liao -
i'm not qualified to talk abt love...Originally posted by Kenashi:u think love should be selfish??
i wun retreat if she's neutral...
some dun even meant it when they say u're a gd guy and can find better gf -
Nu ren bu huai, nan ren ye bu ai?Originally posted by Kenashi:thanks for the compliments.
but the gals i fell for, just don't feel the same way for me.
haiz, they always said "u r a good guy, u can find a better gf"i like
. then just shut my mouth.
no point trying to make her change her mind.
i don't believe love is to make her yours anyway.
whenever i feel sad thinking of the gal i love, i always think that there is a perfect other half for everyone in this world, just whether we can find that other half, to console myself that my other half is somewhere out there in this world searching for me too.
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Nu Ren Tai Huai, Nan Ren Hen Nan Ai.Originally posted by blu_sky:Nu ren bu huai, nan ren ye bu ai? -
you mean, so long as not tai huai, nan ren jiu hui ai?Originally posted by Bontakun:Nu Ren Tai Huai, Nan Ren Hen Nan Ai.
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A little bit of spice helps.Originally posted by blu_sky:you mean, so long as not tai huai, nan ren jiu hui ai?
If too good liao, Nan Ren WILL become huai and zao sai. -
Hmm...seems like you didn't really get the article?Originally posted by browniebaobao:Actually many women are blinded by love..
To these women, love is very important to them..
so why stay with bad guys? bcos they juz happened to love a bad guy..
perhaps they dinoe that he's a bad guy when they first fall in love?
sometimes people do change.. or perhaps those bad guys only reveal their real self after some time? -
like the show my sassy gfOriginally posted by Bontakun:A little bit of spice helps.
If too good liao, Nan Ren WILL become huai and zao sai.
ppl don't know how to cherish what they have, only when they lose it then they will regret it. haiz
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if the gal just keep quiet or wanted time to consider, i will wait but if she said that sentence "u're a gd guy and can find better gf" it is a hint for me to just be friends.Originally posted by sunny6110:i'm not qualified to talk abt love...
i wun retreat if she's neutral...
some dun even meant it when they say u're a gd guy and can find better gf
i rather be her friend n see her being happy than to make her afraid of hurting my feeling n end up distancing herself from me -
just saw Hana Yori Dango 2 Returns ...learn some quotes
Frm Episode 4
Frm 1 of the character - Soujirou
But there is no logic in love. Falling in love is an irrational thing. Even by just falling in love with someone, you'll hurt people and you'll get hurt yourself. To be truly in love with someone, you have to be ready to put your life at risk. -
i get it ar.Originally posted by M©+square:Hmm...seems like you didn't really get the article?
but i believe they are not the only reasons. -
Yes it is. But why most women chose to stay in a abusive and dysfuntional relationship?
Love? Is it a reason or an excuse(refer to Choco B's post)
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that i really duno leh..Originally posted by M©+square:Yes it is. But why most women chose to stay in a abusive and dysfuntional relationship?
Love? Is it a reason or an excuse(refer to Choco B's post)
Cheers
im also pondering over what she posted.
one possibility that i can think of is because that woman is too relient on the man, be it fiancially or emotionally.
maybe i share a true story with u all..
my sis had a gd fren. she's tall, quite pretty and kind. She was a cheerful girl, and always came to my house to find my sis to study and hang out together.
She fell in love with a guy. He was so sweet, always fetching her from work, and was very loving towards her. Everyone thought they were a perfect match.
They got married few years later.
Everything was fine before the marriage but things changed after that.
Her husband's family bullied her. Her husband abused her. She was suffering from depression, attempted to kill herself by drinking vodka and popping pandaols, but she survived. Her husband blamed her friends for bringing her out to drink. She tried calling her frens to meet up with her, but no one dared to do that, bcoz of her husband. She wanted a divorce but her possessive husband didn't want to.
She attempted suicide again and again and was then admitted to Woodbridge . She was released few months later. Friends and family thought her condition was getting better. Her family brought her home and looked after her, despite her husband's disapproval.
One fine day, when nobody was at home, she jumped down from the balcony of her home and had a terrible death. She was only 26.
Do you think she chose to stay in this abusive and dysfuntional relationship? -
my ans to TS question: attraction theory applys to all gd and bad gals
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in the first place, this is not a thread to talk about sweet love stories leh.Originally posted by sunny6110:Sad story... I dun wanna come across but bo bian read le...
somebody pls post some sweet love stories to make up?? -
The ger has a choice... Her personality counts
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Originally posted by sunny6110:okok... let me edit for u ...
maybe i share a true story with u all..
my sis had a gd fren. she's tall, quite pretty and kind. She was a cheerful girl, and always came to my house to find my sis to study and hang out together.
She fell in love with a guy. He was so sweet, always fetching her from work, and was very loving towards her. They are a perfect match.
They got married few years later. -
When you asked the question and used this true story as a case to point,Originally posted by browniebaobao:that i really duno leh..
im also pondering over what she posted.
one possibility that i can think of is because that woman is too relient on the man, be it fiancially or emotionally.
maybe i share a true story with u all..
my sis had a gd fren. she's tall, quite pretty and kind. She was a cheerful girl, and always came to my house to find my sis to study and hang out together.
She fell in love with a guy. He was so sweet, always fetching her from work, and was very loving towards her. Everyone thought they were a perfect match.
They got married few years later.
Everything was fine before the marriage but things changed after that.
Her husband's family bullied her. Her husband abused her. She was suffering from depression, attempted to kill herself by drinking vodka and popping pandaols, but she survived. Her husband blamed her friends for bringing her out to drink. She tried calling her frens to meet up with her, but no one dared to do that, bcoz of her husband. She wanted a divorce but her possessive husband didn't want to.
She attempted suicide again and again and was then admitted to Woodbridge . She was released few months later. Friends and family thought her condition was getting better. Her family brought her home and looked after her, despite her husband's disapproval.
One fine day, when nobody was at home, she jumped down from the balcony of her home and had a terrible death. She was only 26.
Do you think she chose to stay in this abusive and dysfuntional relationship?
Your quote :
one possibility that i can think of is because that woman is too relient on the man, be it fiancially or emotionally.
Do you think your sis's good friend was unable to rely on herself financially, granted that one may seemed too emotionally dependent onto her partner.
In many situation, like many relationship. It is always in women's mind 'why do i have to go through all this? Do i deserve it?'
And many will have attain a disillusioned mindset regarding relationship, love and men.
It is pretty common to hear a breakup of relationship, reason being 'You're too nice to me, i don't deserve it, you deserve a better girl.'
It speaks alot about how women already percieve their own relationship.
Your question :
Do you think she chose to stay in this abusive and dysfuntional relationship? She definitely didn't choose to stay in that state. No one in their normal and healthy state would choose to suffer.
But you've got to consider why didn't she seek help, and even after treatment from IMH, she was brought back to her home.
My question - apart from husband, this story involved a pool of 3rd party.
So we do not know the catalyst that led to her decision is unknown.
How much and depth of her damage is unknown to us.
My assumed answer : Suicidal attempt is basically a silent voice for SOS, or underlying of that act is to seek help.
She cannot cope with the damage, and no one notices it. Hence emotional and mentally, she give up.
Treatment is utmost important.
In the first place, she isn't a strong women to begin with? Hence being controlled.
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So was the reason being reliance on financial or emotional situation?
Or
some women are weak emotionally as well as in their will?
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Thanks for posting, your question has led this thead to a deeper discussion. -
Errm, it'll all be ok if you don't click on this thread.Originally posted by sunny6110:okok... let me edit for u ...
maybe i share a true story with u all..
my sis had a gd fren. she's tall, quite pretty and kind. She was a cheerful girl, and always came to my house to find my sis to study and hang out together.
She fell in love with a guy. He was so sweet, always fetching her from work, and was very loving towards her. They are a perfect match.
They got married few years later. -
this has become a +1 threadOriginally posted by M©+square:Errm, it'll all be ok if you don't click on this thread. -
wah~!!
aunt agony serious...
here oso serious...
then where can I go??
My heart gonna place where??
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Not that we're serious.Originally posted by sunny6110:wah~!!
aunt agony serious...
here oso serious...
then where can I go??
My heart gonna place where??
We just want to stage a more matured and active discussion in this thread.
And so far, many post have maintained the quality of this topic.
It's just a suggestion from me not to view this thread since it brought you distress mah. You can go to FI thread on 12 types of girl guys want and have some light-haerted chat there?
Cheers -
OK~
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seriously, until now i still dun understand why she put up with these for so long.Originally posted by M©+square:When you asked the question and used this true story as a case to point,
Your quote :
one possibility that i can think of is because that woman is too relient on the man, be it fiancially or emotionally. Do you think your sis's good friend was unable to rely on herself financially, granted that one may seemed too emotionally dependent onto her partner.
In many situation, like many relationship. It is always in women's mind 'why do i have to go through all this? Do i deserve it?'
And many will have attain a disillusioned mindset regarding relationship, love and men.
It is pretty common to hear a breakup of relationship, reason being 'You're too nice to me, i don't deserve it, you deserve a better girl.'
It speaks alot about how women already percieve their own relationship.
Your question :
Do you think she chose to stay in this abusive and dysfuntional relationship? She definitely didn't choose to stay in that state. No one in their normal and healthy state would choose to suffer.
But you've got to consider why didn't she seek help, and even after treatment from IMH, she was brought back to her home.
My question - apart from husband, this story involved a pool of 3rd party.
So we do not know the catalyst that led to her decision is unknown.
How much and depth of her damage is unknown to us.
My assumed answer : Suicidal attempt is basically a silent voice for SOS, or underlying of that act is to seek help.
She cannot cope with the damage, and no one notices it. Hence emotional and mentally, she give up.
Treatment is utmost important.
In the first place, she isn't a strong women to begin with? Hence being controlled.
_
So was the reason being reliance on financial or emotional situation?
Or
some women are weak emotionally as well as in their will?
_
Thanks for posting, your question has led this thead to a deeper discussion.
but maybe like u said, she's weak and easily controlled.
i duno wat triggered the change in the husband.
she must have felt very helpless and lost hope, that's why she tried to end her life so many times... and the jump especially.. she must be determined to die.. her father told my sis that she was really disfigured.. very gross.
and then, about that quote
It is pretty common to hear a breakup of relationship, reason being 'You're too nice to me, i don't deserve it, you deserve a better girl.'
i think male and female do use this reason to break up. but most of the time, it's juz an excuse.