Why nice guys "fails" with women
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I extracted this from a dating advice newletter. From David DeAngelo
Looks true to me.
I extracted the esstential points out. enjoy.
I have a lot of guys write me to say, "I know this girl who's beautiful and smart and attractive. She and I are great friends, we have everything in common, and we get along perfectly... but she says that she's just not
attracted to me..."
Have you ever noticed that:
1) The most attractive and interesting women seemto be attracted to men who don't treat them very
well?
2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman the moreshe often seems to act like "just a friend" to
you?
Here's the deal: Women aren't usually romantically attracted to "nice" guys. Women are attracted to men who are funny, confident, andmysterious. Good looks don't hurt, but if you're not 6'4" tall and model-handsome, then youhave to learn how to attract women with your personality.
Onward...
I believe:
1) Women make decisions very, very quickly aboutwhether a man is going to be "just a friend" or if he has romantic potential, and once her decision
is made, it's probably going to stay made.
2) These decisions are made "subconsciously", meaning that women make all of them quickly and ata "gut level".
3) If you know how, you make her feel attraction feelings rather than "friend" feelings.
4) The way to do it is to stop acting "nice" and start acting, well... something else... and I don't mean "not nice".
Before I talk about each, I first have to remind you that WOMEN DON'T USUALLY MAKE SENSE. Remember that.
Here's a good metaphor: Remember when you learned to drive? It all made sense... turn the wheel left and go left, turn it right and go right...
But do you remember when you learned to back up? Backing up was a whole new game. Everything that used to work now works in a different way. At first you feel disoriented. Turn the wheel left and go right... and you have to learn how to maneuver with the back wheels staying straight while the front wheels turn... all with your headturned around.
For most people, this takes some time and practice. But once you "get it" then you can do it anytime you want.
Well, women are very similar. At first it's very confusing. You have to try things that don't seem to make sense. But once you get the hang of it, then you see how it works and can make it work... just like backing up a car.
Confident, Funny, mysterious -
it depends on what you want to get out of it all.
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I agree with you but this only works for 25 years and below. Above that, woman looks for love, maturity, reliability and still, confidence.
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hmm so after we play around with women for awhile we can control them easily and at will???
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so is this advice for ppl like me whos 18.
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Women got too many variables in their equation.. Too complex to understand.. So why even bother.. Haha..
Anyway, just make loads of money, that way, you become the equation they wanna solved... -
I duno how to drive.
True to some extent la.. love does not have to make sense to most girls. -
But if women really decide in the first meeting whether you are boyfriend or ordinary friend material, what can you do later to change her mind?
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Impress her.Originally posted by dakkon_blackblade:But if women really decide in the first meeting whether you are boyfriend or ordinary friend material, what can you do later to change her mind? -
Originally posted by InSidiousGG:
Fully agree!!! Men need to be Confident,Funny and mysterious to easily attracted opposite sex. Women like interesting guy,a guy who is sometimes unprepdictable and give plenty of surprises to make them feel special and great! They don't like nice but BORING guy! It is hard rare for lady to meet a nice and interesting guy.
I extracted this from a dating advice newletter. From David DeAngelo
Looks true to me.
I extracted the esstential points out. enjoy.
I have a lot of guys write me to say, "I know this girl who's beautiful and smart and attractive. She and I are great friends, we have everything in common, and we get along perfectly... but she says that she's just not
attracted to me..."
Have you ever noticed that:
[b]1) The most attractive and interesting women seemto be attracted to men who don't treat them very
well?
2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman the moreshe often seems to act like "just a friend" to
you?
Here's the deal: Women aren't usually romantically attracted to "nice" guys. Women are attracted to men who are funny, confident, andmysterious. Good looks don't hurt, but if you're not 6'4" tall and model-handsome, then youhave to learn how to attract women with your personality.
Onward...
I believe:
1) Women make decisions very, very quickly aboutwhether a man is going to be "just a friend" or if he has romantic potential, and once her decision
is made, it's probably going to stay made.
2) These decisions are made "subconsciously", meaning that women make all of them quickly and ata "gut level".
3) If you know how, you make her feel attraction feelings rather than "friend" feelings.
4) The way to do it is to stop acting "nice" and start acting, well... something else... and I don't mean "not nice".
Before I talk about each, I first have to remind you that WOMEN DON'T USUALLY MAKE SENSE. Remember that.
Here's a good metaphor: Remember when you learned to drive? It all made sense... turn the wheel left and go left, turn it right and go right...
But do you remember when you learned to back up? Backing up was a whole new game. Everything that used to work now works in a different way. At first you feel disoriented. Turn the wheel left and go right... and you have to learn how to maneuver with the back wheels staying straight while the front wheels turn... all with your headturned around.
For most people, this takes some time and practice. But once you "get it" then you can do it anytime you want.
Well, women are very similar. At first it's very confusing. You have to try things that don't seem to make sense. But once you get the hang of it, then you see how it works and can make it work... just like backing up a car.
Confident, Funny, mysterious
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erm, boring guys are sometimes not even nice....they are just dumb with words, but in their minds they are no better than players.
nice guys arent always boring.
confidence helps, but mysterious doesnt once you get pass the luring stage. which chick wants to guess whats her guy doing every single stage?
funny is a plus point. and some nice guys do have that. not all guys whos got a sense of humor are evil.
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A nice guy is just "one of the girls".
There's no excitement. -
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because renshifanjiande.
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Pai gias are temporary boyfriends for the fun of it.
Nice guys end up becoming the husbands. WHY? Cos they are the guys with the cars, condos, credit cards, country club memberships and dunno wat else.
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Originally posted by InSidiousGG:
I dun totally buy it. Although there is some truth to it, but there are different kinds of nice guys. You can be a nice guy, kind at heart and yet still attract gals.
I extracted this from a dating advice newletter. From David DeAngelo
Looks true to me.
I extracted the esstential points out. enjoy.
I have a lot of guys write me to say, "I know this girl who's beautiful and smart and attractive. She and I are great friends, we have everything in common, and we get along perfectly... but she says that she's just not
attracted to me..."
Have you ever noticed that:
[b]1) The most attractive and interesting women seemto be attracted to men who don't treat them very
well?
2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman the moreshe often seems to act like "just a friend" to
you?
Here's the deal: Women aren't usually romantically attracted to "nice" guys. Women are attracted to men who are funny, confident, andmysterious. Good looks don't hurt, but if you're not 6'4" tall and model-handsome, then youhave to learn how to attract women with your personality.
Onward...
I believe:
1) Women make decisions very, very quickly aboutwhether a man is going to be "just a friend" or if he has romantic potential, and once her decision
is made, it's probably going to stay made.
2) These decisions are made "subconsciously", meaning that women make all of them quickly and ata "gut level".
3) If you know how, you make her feel attraction feelings rather than "friend" feelings.
4) The way to do it is to stop acting "nice" and start acting, well... something else... and I don't mean "not nice".
Before I talk about each, I first have to remind you that WOMEN DON'T USUALLY MAKE SENSE. Remember that.
Here's a good metaphor: Remember when you learned to drive? It all made sense... turn the wheel left and go left, turn it right and go right...
But do you remember when you learned to back up? Backing up was a whole new game. Everything that used to work now works in a different way. At first you feel disoriented. Turn the wheel left and go right... and you have to learn how to maneuver with the back wheels staying straight while the front wheels turn... all with your headturned around.
For most people, this takes some time and practice. But once you "get it" then you can do it anytime you want.
Well, women are very similar. At first it's very confusing. You have to try things that don't seem to make sense. But once you get the hang of it, then you see how it works and can make it work... just like backing up a car.
Confident, Funny, mysterious
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hehe..i find it true...maybe cos im below 25?? =X
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Insideous, I think I find dis familiar... You oso got "dat" har?