Shld i carry on waiting?...
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Well i hav liked this gal ever since i was sec1 and i already hav left sch and goin to poly now. Btw i got 7 pts for Os
She onli ever had one bf and tt has already ended. During tt time when she was with him she did tell me about her probs with him and stuff then she normally wun say like once when she felt scared becos something and called me cos she was very scared.
But i am afraid i am becoming the Knight in silver armour instead of the White Horse Knight.. which means i might be a good fren to her instead of being a potential bfren.
I hav confessed to her b4 and as expected got rejected
.. but well tt was when i was sec 3. I hav tried a lot of times to go with her but she seem so busy. And now she has gone to JC while i am goin to poly which means i am cant see her in class everyday like in the past 4 yrs. We do communicate though thru sms almost everyday ( though i hav always been the one to initiate except for one occasion 
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Perhaps my phrasing all these ain't tt gd but pls giv me as much advice as possible. Some of my frens hav told me to perservere while others hav told me to giv it and start something new. Wat shld i do?
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if she hasn't cut off all communications with u, it means she is still open.....
but tt does not mean she will eventually be urs....
remain as frens first......
dun attempt to test water again and dun be too persistent
most impt of all, dun irritate her or make her stressed....
just take a step back, be frens.......a close fren.......
it's hard to hold back the feeling and no one can guarantee how she might feel in future....
at least u were once a part of her life...... -
don't think you chance looks good my friend.
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Thks a lot for replying.Originally posted by FireIce:if she hasn't cut off all communications with u, it means she is still open.....
but tt does not mean she will eventually be urs....
remain as frens first......
dun attempt to test water again and dun be too persistent
most impt of all, dun irritate her or make her stressed....
just take a step back, be frens.......a close fren.......
it's hard to hold back the feeling and no one can guarantee how she might feel in future....
at least u were once a part of her life......
Well shes still open then.
Its the fact tt its already 4 yrs and into the five already tts making me very tired mentally.
I guess i will folo ur advice and continue wat i had been doin
At least i am something like her next best fren now. -
Thks for replying.Originally posted by Deportivo:don't think you chance looks good my friend.
Yea well i guess so too..
Perhaps sincerity jus doesnt work for my case... -
I suppose giving up is not an option to you.Originally posted by Qing^.^:Thks for replying.
Yea well i guess so too..
Perhaps sincerity jus doesnt work for my case...
Good luck. -
just wait...
it might never come.
at least you've been part of her life. -
Originally posted by Qing^.^:Well i hav liked this gal ever since i was sec1 and i already hav left sch and goin to poly now. Btw i got 7 pts for Os
Babyreyes says : Wah 7 points! >.<""
She onli ever had one bf and tt has already ended. During tt time when she was with him she did tell me about her probs with him and stuff then she normally wun say like once when she felt scared becos something and called me cos she was very scared.
I do not understand ur last sentence.
But i am afraid i am becoming the Knight in silver armour instead of the White Horse Knight.. which means i might be a good fren to her instead of being a potential bfren.
Both are knights ar....remove ur silver armour....get on a white horse!
I hav confessed to her b4 and as expected got rejected .. but well tt was when i was sec 3. I hav tried a lot of times to go with her but she seem so busy. And now she has gone to JC while i am goin to poly which means i am cant see her in class everyday like in the past 4 yrs. We do communicate though thru sms almost everyday ( though i hav always been the one to initiate except for one occasion ).
Perhaps my phrasing all these ain't tt gd but pls giv me as much advice as possible. Some of my frens hav told me to perservere while others hav told me to giv it and start something new. Wat shld i do?
I still love her very much
What does ur heart say?
Are u able to give up and walk away?
It seems to me that she is rather cold towards you.....
One last try?
I know ur love has been there...its unwavered....perhaps give urself one more chance.....i ve a feeling u cant get up and walk away just like that.....
Do ur best.....
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Originally posted by FireIce:if she hasn't cut off all communications with u, it means she is still open.....
but tt does not mean she will eventually be urs....
remain as frens first......
dun attempt to test water again and dun be too persistent
most impt of all, dun irritate her or make her stressed....
just take a step back, be frens.......a close fren.......
it's hard to hold back the feeling and no one can guarantee how she might feel in future....
at least u were once a part of her life......
so rare for u to give such advice.. -
Haha sry got some typo errorOriginally posted by babyreyes:
Ya i tinking of one last chance perhaps..
Thks a lot ur advice is deeply appreciated.
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In your case, for how I see it is that you are not going to give up unless a definate answer is given to you.
Yes, you may like that person, but if the opposition has already stated a No as an answer, it would be better to stop there. Anymor persistant may even ruin the friendship between the 2 of you. Go for it one last time if the answer is still the same, I think you should stop and carry on with you and her life. You can only wish her luck and remain as frens.
Have you every consider this, maybe the reason she rejects you is because the both of you knows each other too deep as good friends that she maybe worried that if anything happen, it may ruin the friendship. OR maybe both of you know each other too much and theres nothing new to know and therefore no interest. Just go for one last shot. Its a do or die situation, do it, get the answer and carry on with life -
Thks for replying..Originally posted by drumstick:In your case, for how I see it is that you are not going to give up unless a definate answer is given to you.
Yes, you may like that person, but if the opposition has already stated a No as an answer, it would be better to stop there. Anymor persistant may even ruin the friendship between the 2 of you. Go for it one last time if the answer is still the same, I think you should stop and carry on with you and her life. You can only wish her luck and remain as frens.
Have you every consider this, maybe the reason she rejects you is because the both of you knows each other too deep as good friends that she maybe worried that if anything happen, it may ruin the friendship. OR maybe both of you know each other too much and theres nothing new to know and therefore no interest. Just go for one last shot. Its a do or die situation, do it, get the answer and carry on with life
ah then i guess one last shot is wat i shld do then.. but i dun even noe if i can giv her up even after tt shot -
I guess...I am in the same situation as you, except that I am a girl, and the person I can't give up on is my close frens. In fact, the fact that my feelings for him have lasted all these years, astounded me. I have gone out with other guys several times (just got out from a r/s myself actually), but everytime, my feelings for the other guys will die out after a while, and my feeling for this close friend of mine will be revived.
So I guess for now I am still his close frens, like you, I have also confessed and got rejected cos he said I am just like his sister, nothing else. So I resolved to being his good friend and tried to control my feelings for him everytime we are together. Nothing else can be done I guess, at least when we are still frens, I can still have a reason to care and show my concern for him sometimes.
Guess, since we can't get rid of the feeling inside our heart, we can just wait, see if something can actually come out from this, or maybe time will help us to wipe it away from our heart one day. -
Dun be rash and make a mistake that u will regret for the rest of ur life like i did.
Haiz
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Me understand ur painOriginally posted by rainee:I guess...I am in the same situation as you, except that I am a girl, and the person I can't give up on is my close frens. In fact, the fact that my feelings for him have lasted all these years, astounded me. I have gone out with other guys several times (just got out from a r/s myself actually), but everytime, my feelings for the other guys will die out after a while, and my feeling for this close friend of mine will be revived.
So I guess for now I am still his close frens, like you, I have also confessed and got rejected cos he said I am just like his sister, nothing else. So I resolved to being his good friend and tried to control my feelings for him everytime we are together. Nothing else can be done I guess, at least when we are still frens, I can still have a reason to care and show my concern for him sometimes.
Guess, since we can't get rid of the feeling inside our heart, we can just wait, see if something can actually come out from this, or maybe time will help us to wipe it away from our heart one day.
I guess mayb she treats me as a bro too.. cos i am like 182cm and shes 160..
Yea well i am glad i am her good fren..
Hmm me tink i shld wait too.. jus tt am prepared for one final shot le.. -
Thks for the advice.Originally posted by Patrik:Dun be rash and make a mistake that u will regret for the rest of ur life like i did.
Haiz
I will surely tink a lot b4 i make any drastic moves. -
Originally posted by Qing^.^:Me understand ur pain
I guess mayb she treats me as a bro too.. cos i am like 182cm and shes 160..
Yea well i am glad i am her good fren..
Hmm me tink i shld wait too.. jus tt am prepared for one final shot le..
me got no more hope le...we will go our separate ways in 2 months time after graduation...
dun even know what i m waiting for...i guess i m waiting for this feeling to fade away so that I can love another person again... -
Is this what you want?Originally posted by rainee:
me got no more hope le...we will go our separate ways in 2 months time after graduation...
dun even know what i m waiting for...i guess i m waiting for this feeling to fade away so that I can love another person again...
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Does it really matter what I really want? cos sometimes we just can't have wat we want in life.Originally posted by M©+square:Is this what you want? -
it is better to know what you want than to not try at all.
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x2Originally posted by kopiosatu:it is better to know what you want than to not try at all.
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I know what I want... I just don't want to keep pushing myself onto someone who is not interested in me, because I believe that true love doesn't mean forcing it upon someone who is unwilling to accept it.Originally posted by M©+square:x2
there you go rainee.
He has made it clear that he can't imagine having a long term r/s with me, it is just my stubborn heart which refuses to give up, and I believe that I should not force it upon someone who does not see the way I see him, cos it will only make things worse, and destroy the friendship altogether. -
And You know why...(highlighted)Originally posted by rainee:I know what I want... I just don't want to keep pushing myself onto someone who is not interested in me, because I believe that true love doesn't mean forcing it upon someone who is unwilling to accept it.
He has made it clear that he can't imagine having a long term r/s with me, it is just my stubborn heart which refuses to give up, and I believe that I should not force it upon someone who does not see the way I see him, cos it will only make things worse, and destroy the friendship altogether.
At times, it's necessary for one to act at disadvatage to cushion/absorb most of the intented damage. (just my own thoughts - please Ignore.
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Actually I dunno why my heart is so stubbornOriginally posted by M©+square:And You know why...(highlighted)
At times, it's necessary for one to act at disadvatage to cushion/absorb most of the intented damage. (just my own thoughts)
And pls elaborate on the last statement you make? Do you mean I should act at my own disadvantage? By just leaving this thing to fade off? -
Ahem. Please ignore the last statement.Originally posted by rainee:Actually I dunno why my heart is so stubborn
And pls elaborate on the last statement you make? Do you mean I should act at my own disadvantage? By just leaving this thing to fade off?
It's strategy...for war. Not love.