starting a conversation
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How to start a conversation with the girl you like? What you would talk about in the conversation with her?
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First of all, find out what are her interests? And see if you have something in common with her...for instance, if both of you go to the same school, talk about the school. If go to same workplace, talk abt whatever that is happening in the office. You get the idea. It is easier to talk abt sth that both of you know something about rather than embarking on a totally strange conversation that will make no head or tail to her
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But what if she not interested to talk about these (by observing her body languages) ?Originally posted by rainee:First of all, find out what are her interests? And see if you have something in common with her...for instance, if both of you go to the same school, talk about the school. If go to same workplace, talk abt whatever that is happening in the office. You get the idea. It is easier to talk abt sth that both of you know something about rather than embarking on a totally strange conversation that will make no head or tail to her -
Then thank her for her time...and move on.Originally posted by askxyz:But what if she not interested to talk about these (by observing her body languages) ? -
hmm...wat kinda body language do you mean? can describe further?Originally posted by askxyz:But what if she not interested to talk about these (by observing her body languages) ?
Hmm, that's why you need to find out more about her interests...so if she doesn't like one topic, you can quickly switch to another, and if all also she seems to be not interested in, maybe it is more like she has some bad impression of you that causes her to not want to talk to you. -
Err... by her tone of voice.... things like thatOriginally posted by rainee:hmm...wat kinda body language do you mean? can describe further?
Hmm, that's why you need to find out more about her interests...so if she doesn't like one topic, you can quickly switch to another, and if all also she seems to be not interested in, maybe it is more like she has some bad impression of you that causes her to not want to talk to you. -
hmm, then if nothing I mentioned above works, I think you shud find another girl to talk toOriginally posted by askxyz:Err... by her tone of voice.... things like that -
I imagine when one of them (of a couple) starts to loose interest in something his/her parnter shares, then that's it? Gone is the relationship??Originally posted by rainee:hmm, then if nothing I mentioned above works, I think you shud find another girl to talk to -
well...so this guy is already in a r/s with the girl? i was not clear abt that from the beginning, i tot this is just someone he recently begins to talk to, as frens.Originally posted by askxyz:I imagine when one of them (of a couple) starts to loose interest in something his/her parnter shares, then that's it? Gone is the relationship??
Well, if you continues to talk to her and she keeps showing a lack of interest...then it signals the fall of the r/s? Maybe the passion once shared between the couple is no longer there? -
Ohh.... no no... I just shift a bit of the topics. The previous post not really related to the first post lo.Originally posted by rainee:well...so this guy is already in a r/s with the girl? i was not clear abt that from the beginning, i tot this is just someone he recently begins to talk to, as frens.
Well, if you continues to talk to her and she keeps showing a lack of interest...then it signals the fall of the r/s? Maybe the passion once shared between the couple is no longer there?
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from family background, school, religion, friends, interests, ambitions, career, love interests etc....q a list isnt it?
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hmmmmm just talk?
treat the girl you like as a friend you have no romantic interest in. -
Originally posted by kopiosatu:hmmmmm just talk?
treat the girl you like as a friend you have no romantic interest in. -
"Hei do you surf sgforums?"
if yes
ask her what topics she browse, etc
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Then give other guys the same opportunity right?Originally posted by alexkusu:"Hei do you surf sgforums?"
if yes ask her what topics she browse, etc
if no intro forums to her
Clever la!
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u know, i did not think that way.. i was just trying to help threadstarter outOriginally posted by M©+square:Then give other guys the same opportunity right?
Clever la!
Cheers
me lost my hunting skills liaw..pls teach me -
You actually hai threadstarter by introducing his love interest to forum, cos there are many cyber daters here. Then threadstarter have gotto fight harder.Originally posted by alexkusu:u know, i did not think that way.. i was just trying to help threadstarter out
me lost my hunting skills liaw..pls teach me
Who you want to hunt? Get the girl you like and do the chase can le la....but must be INTO her ok?
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cheo simi????Originally posted by M©+square: -
treat her like a normal fren and start by jokoing.Originally posted by askxyz:How to start a conversation with the girl you like? What you would talk about in the conversation with her? -
FBI, you really let me Gua Mu Siang Kan.Originally posted by FBI:treat her like a normal fren and start by jokoing.
I order you to go train Bladez87 up.
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how come gua mu xiang kaN? hahaOriginally posted by M©+square:FBI, you really let me Gua Mu Siang Kan.
I order you to go train Bladez87 up.
Cheers
Train him? wats with him -
Originally posted by FBI:how come gua mu xiang kaN? haha
Train him? wats with him -
Huh? just start talking??
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hehe......b4 talking to her..u must know wat she likes lors..wat interests her...does the both of u have any common interests of anything???
Just give her a call...then start by going hihi hows ur day....then ask some qtns like erm..makan le ma...then erm..talk about things she interested in
if she cough cough, u must tell her to drink water n take care....
if she say she bz..ok lors..call her anohter time
if she continue to talk to u but sound sian..ask anything bothering her...if she say tired or nothing...then u talk somethings else..try to cheer her up with some jokes.... but if still sian sian tone..i think u better siam 1st...in case u say soemthign wrong...
if she talk talk happy happy...gd lors...
erms..
then while talking ot her..make sure u not multi tasking...tat means u off ur tv..ur com.....dont pour any water....wait spill......u must concentrate on her...
if u beri xi xing....u note down wat she likes..doesnt like....types of movies she like.s..her birthday all these lors....
then the best ar...u have one whole collection of jokes or riddles by ur side...in case u nothing to say u tell her...hey i got some story to say...blah blah
ok la... said a lot le. -
Hmm....Originally posted by babyreyes:Huh? just start talking??
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hehe......b4 talking to her..u must know wat she likes lors..wat interests her...does the both of u have any common interests of anything???
Just give her a call...then start by going hihi hows ur day....then ask some qtns like erm..makan le ma...then erm..talk about things she interested in
if she cough cough, u must tell her to drink water n take care....
if she say she bz..ok lors..call her anohter time
if she continue to talk to u but sound sian..ask anything bothering her...if she say tired or nothing...then u talk somethings else..try to cheer her up with some jokes.... but if still sian sian tone..i think u better siam 1st...in case u say soemthign wrong...
if she talk talk happy happy...gd lors...
erms..
then while talking ot her..make sure u not multi tasking...tat means u off ur tv..ur com.....dont pour any water....wait spill......u must concentrate on her...
if u beri xi xing....u note down wat she likes..doesnt like....types of movies she like.s..her birthday all these lors....
then the best ar...u have one whole collection of jokes or riddles by ur side...in case u nothing to say u tell her...hey i got some story to say...blah blah
ok la... said a lot le.
If i'm a girl....i'll consider this kind of guy boring.
:: pleaser attitude.
heh...
What if guy just got to know the girl? He doesn't know what she likes and stuff. How ah? -
Before M©+square goes for nap.
Let me do some de-constructing....or is it reconstructing?
:: Different situation different handling mode. Briefly:
1 New friend
2 Friend
3 Close Friend / long term friendship
4 One sided attraction
5 Mutual Attraction
We'll do #4, cos more challenging.
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To stand out from the many friends and be special.
There are practically no rules on how to do it.
But there are rules on how not to Mess it up! (look out for the red text)Originally posted by babyreyes:
[b]Huh? just start talking??
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hehe......b4 talking to her..u must know wat she likes lors..wat interests her...does the both of u have any common interests of anything??? M©+square says
By this stage, let's presume you've known her for only a short time. You don't know much about her yet.
So you'll do silly things like search through friendster to find out more. Don't.
If you're clueless, take those as useful information, but do not take them seriously.
Solution :: You can only find out more when she feels comfortable engaging conversation with you. Try getting most hints in the shortest time available.
Please refrain from asking her questions like as if you've got a notepad by your side, jotting every single details down. When you you're interested to know and sincere about her, LISTEN.Originally posted by babyreyes:
Just give her a call...then start by going hihi hows ur day....then ask some qtns like erm..makan le ma...then erm..talk about things she interested in M©+square says
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These are cliches which every single girl have heard before, i suppose they have been answering the same thing over and over.
But you know what makes the difference? ONLY the guy whom she's interested could make her fly with those cliches.
But if you really don't know what to say, i suggest starting off with cliches is better than none. Get comfortable and shift away from cliche, talk about topics which only both of you can relate.
Always be sensitive to her response...but do not be affected.Originally posted by babyreyes:
if she cough cough, u must tell her to drink water n take care.... M©+square says
Try to open opportunities to hint meeting up.
Eg : The next time i meet you, if you're going to cough, i'll get a 2litre bottle cough syrup for you.
(how you're going to phrase it depends largely on how the tone and atomsphere is like in the conversation and the relationship already.)
If her respond is : Really ah...hee hee
OR
Promise wor...
then you've won another half chance.
Take care and drink water, too common le...don't do it la...Wait you say - She answer orh but her Eyes Roll ah...i don't know.
BUT! Unless she likes you...wah those words are treasure to her.Originally posted by babyreyes:
if she say she bz..ok lors..call her anohter time
if she continue to talk to u but sound sian..ask anything bothering her...if she say tired or nothing...then u talk somethings else..try to cheer her up with some jokes.... but if still sian sian tone..i think u better siam 1st...in case u say soemthign wrong... M©+square says
Its hard to decphier in this area. Because there are too many possiblities. Unless you know her well enough by now. Orelse, Try not.
I suggest you should not attempt to talk nonsense if she's in a moody tone. Offer to listen and be interested to know what went wrong. Maybe something unexpected may appear.Originally posted by babyreyes:
if she talk talk happy happy...gd lors...
erms..
then while talking ot her..make sure u not multi tasking...tat means u off ur tv..ur com.....dont pour any water....wait spill......u must concentrate on her...
if u beri xi xing....u note down wat she likes..doesnt like....types of movies she like.s..her birthday all these lors.... M©+squareThe good example of jotting notes.
Jot it down what is important and try to remember the small details.
Remember, she is not a book.then the best ar...u have one whole collection of jokes or riddles by ur side...in case u nothing to say u tell her...hey i got some story to say...blah blah
M©+square
Hmm...it makes a difference.
Whether you're a story teller, entertainer or what you say can make her realise that you're putting in alot of effort.
You're a very special guy.
Practise this part and know what is the difference. **Hint hint**Originally posted by babyreyes
The Most important of all....
k la... said a lot le. Never TRY too HARD
Domo!!!