Need some help regarding a girl. Pls reply~ esp M©+square
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I have known a girl for nearly 1 yr. Initially i treated her as a fren. but recently i notice tat i hav develop feelings for her.
Heres wat happen :
Tis ger is 1 of my junior, we can play ard with each other in a wild manner, sometimes gets really physically (pinching each other or chasing each other stuffs like tat).
We nv call each other or SMS each other but whenever i send her a simple gd nite SMS, she will reply without fail. As i hav stated, i recently found out tat i do hav feelings for her and was being encouraged by my frens to woo her.
Initially when i SMS her she will reply in quite an enthu manner but tis days i been sms her trying to get close to her but she seems to notice my motive of my actions and become not so enthu abt my SMSes. I'm shock to see tis kind of reactions frm her.
As quoted from MCsquare,
There are a few kinds of play HTG. This title too general liao and no detail is given. No wonder CuriousOrange don't post.
Briefly.
Lvl 1- She shows interest, calls guy and respond very well to guy until one fine day she lost interest. No calls, finding excuses to get away from you.
Lvl 2- Like 1, she seemed to lose interest but still respond to you. Though not as enthu like the past. Sound 'can't be bothered' atittude.
Lvl 3- She gives you very heavy hints of attraction onto guy, yet she flirts with other guys.
Lvl 4- Like 3, additional to that she totally ignores guy's presence or went MIA for awhile and then suddenly pop back into guy's life again repeating the cycle.
Lvl 5- She's physical to guy however she never told guy what their state of relationship is. Leaving things 'hanging in the air'
the list goes on. It could range from innocent tease to manipulation.
Different lvls different style of dealing.
I'm under the Lvl 2 status..
How am i going to cont'd to woo her? Am i left with no chance? -
It is quite usual for a girl to have fun with a guy to such extend when considering the lack of quality communication and understand - through phonecalls or smses.Originally posted by ArSeBeNi:I have known a girl for nearly 1 yr. Initially i treated her as a fren. but recently i notice tat i hav develop feelings for her.
Heres wat happen :
Tis ger is 1 of my junior, we can play ard with each other in a wild manner, sometimes gets really physically (pinching each other or chasing each other stuffs like tat).
We nv call each other or SMS each other but whenever i send her a simple gd nite SMS, she will reply without fail. As i hav stated, i recently found out tat i do hav feelings for her and was being encouraged by my frens to woo her.
Initially when i SMS her she will reply in quite an enthu manner but tis days i been sms her trying to get close to her but she seems to notice my motive of my actions and become not so enthu abt my SMSes. I'm shock to see tis kind of reactions frm her.
Lvl 2- Like 1, she seemed to lose interest but still respond to you. Though not as enthu like the past. Sound 'can't be bothered' atittude.
I'm under the Lvl 2 status..
How am i going to cont'd to woo her? Am i left with no chance?
There could be chemistry, it could also be because she's a active girl who does that to her guyfriends.
One very important issue i have to point out to you (inclusive of the readers)
- SMS is a good communicative agent. But fair extremely poorly in the 'matters of the heart'
Too many assumptions will lead to anxious pacing in courtship, which spell un-desirable.
Her reason for poor response may not be entirely be due to you.
There might be other reasons behind why her reaction towards you changed. Basically you do not know her well enough, so we'll restrain from speculating too much.
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If you truly want to woo her.
Use the face to face treatment and ask her out.
Talk to her, engage a good conversation with her.
But keep yourself busy, even though you're not busy, or very free.
In front of her, keep yourself occupied with friends or something eg. reading a book.
::: Throughout this 1 year. Was there no proper communication at all?
No dates or outings at all?
I'll stop here before i drift.
There's chance. But only you can make it happen.
Hope you can update us as much as possible.
Cheers -
damn clones...wat ru afraid of!
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cud be FBI askin for advice..
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Lvl10-gal rose to heaven. wtf!?
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Originally posted by M©+square:
She rarely does physical contacts to other guys leh
There could be chemistry, it could also be because she's a active girl who does that to her guyfriends.Originally posted by M©+square:
At tis point of situation is asking her out a good idea? I hav the fear of being rejected by her
Use the face to face treatment and ask her out.
Talk to her, engage a good conversation with her.
Originally posted by M©+square:
Yes there is outings but i hav little contacts wif her cause i only treat her as a fren at tat point of time.
::: Throughout this 1 year. Was there no proper communication at all?
No dates or outings at all?
Sometimes i tried to call her on phone for a chat but she is some sort like being restricted from chatting on phone by her parents.
Now i dun even hav any slightest idea on wat to do next..
Anyting else to suggest for my next step?
Anyway thx for ya reply~ M©+square
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very easy to tell if the girl likes u..
firstly:when u poke fun at her,she'll initiate physical contact with u and laugh abit..
secondly:she often mentions ur name to her friends
thirdly:you'll see that she spends more time looking at u den others..
so u need to go out with her to find out more..
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dots..wad's the use of replying when the thread-starter's only interested in m*square's replies?
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hanor so biased de..Originally posted by yuko-ogura:dots..wad's the use of replying when the thread-starter's only interested in m*square's replies? 
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Originally posted by stellazio:
yeap.. tis kind of situation hav occurs b4
very easy to tell if the girl likes u..
firstly:when u poke fun at her,she'll initiate physical contact with u and laugh abit.. Originally posted by stellazio:
tis 1 i not sure eh.. lolz
secondly:she often mentions ur name to her friendsOriginally posted by stellazio:
hard to notice leh..
thirdly:you'll see that she spends more time looking at u den others..
now the situation is like.. my sudden care and concern for her scared her abit here and there.. and her sudden less enthu behavior freaks me out.. cos i didnt expect tis to happen
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haha no laOriginally posted by yuko-ogura:dots..wad's the use of replying when the thread-starter's only interested in m*square's replies?
pai seh all..
cos m*sq got tat 5 lvls tingy so i'm quite interested in wat he gonna say..
sorry for any mis_standing caused..
sry for late replying -.-
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i believe many experts think that the sudden and occasional care for her where she least expects it is a superb move.Originally posted by ArSeBeNi:hard to notice leh..
now the situation is like.. my sudden care and concern for her scared her abit here and there.. and her sudden less enthu behavior freaks me out.. cos i didnt expect tis to happen
slowly la fren..dun chiong so fast later trip over sth u dunnoe.. -
it's ok..i faced it b4 too..Originally posted by ArSeBeNi:haha no la
pai seh all..
cos m*sq got tat 5 lvls tingy so i'm quite interested in wat he gonna say..
sorry for any mis_standing caused..
sry for late replying -.-
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my buddy also hug with her v gd guy fren wor.. but there's nth between them.
maybe the comfort level is there, so dun think too much lor. it's not really 'physical' mah. juz playing. Depends on the girl's character ba. -
so any ideas on wat to do next?
any suggestions? any1? -
m square is a charmer?
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start dating..and the truth will be out soon..Originally posted by ArSeBeNi:so any ideas on wat to do next?
any suggestions? any1? -
Originally posted by ArSeBeNi:
I presume you're still going to see her during school days and those days were opportunities for you to chat her up.
[b]Yes there is outings but i hav little contacts wif her cause i only treat her as a fren at tat point of time.
Sometimes i tried to call her on phone for a chat but she is some sort like being restricted from chatting on phone by her parents.
Now i dun even hav any slightest idea on wat to do next..
Anyting else to suggest for my next step?
Anyway thx for ya reply~ M©+square [/b]
I'm puzzled. Can you help me with my curiosity?
With minimal connection - conversation / without proper understanding of one another.
Both of you can play with each other to a physical extend(for a year?)
What actually ignited those times you guys played to such extend?
Guys who are in control or seem to be so attracts the most attention and attraction. I may seem ambiguous here, this one takes experience and constant practice.
So no matter what, be in control, and engage conversations with her. Face to face.
Observe her reactions and be sensitive to her gestures:::But not over sensitive.
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The Hard to Get levels which i've mentioned in other threads does not necessarily apply to you.
That's why i didn't share anymore then what i am doing now.
Like i've commented before::
o not think too much.
Till when you've brainstorm about my curiosity...
See ya again!
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Originally posted by dragg:
huh? wat u mean?
m square is a charmer?Originally posted by stellazio:
her sudden low enthu makes me low morale in wooing her leh.. how am i suppose to ask her out for a date when she appear to be so low enthu abt me?
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Only applies to certain cat of people.Originally posted by yuko-ogura:i believe many experts think that the sudden and occasional care for her where she least expects it is a superb move.
slowly la fren..dun chiong so fast later trip over sth u dunnoe..
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I don't play with Snakes leh.Originally posted by dragg:m square is a charmer?
Cheers -
Originally posted by M©+square:
can.. of cos can.. cos we're poly student and we are frm the same club.. quite playful i shall say.. but i'm now having my attachment so wont be able to see her again
I presume you're still going to see her during school days and those days were opportunities for you to chat her up.
I'm puzzled. Can you help me with my curiosity?
With minimal connection - conversation / without proper understanding of one another.
Both of you can play with each other to a physical extend(for a year?)
What actually ignited those times you guys played to such extend?
when having attachment i started to some sort of miss her? and wondering hows her daes and how is she, and miss the daes we tease each other someting like tat.. therefore i feel tat she hav become part of my life?
tats 1 of the reason i decided to woo her..
so shld i cont'd to SMS her? if see her reply so "cold" SMSes very low morale 1 sia..
so shld i carry on SMS her? -
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its a even better chance..date her on a low morale..if she suddenly starts becoming enthu again it seems that you were the spark who ignited the fire..Originally posted by ArSeBeNi:her sudden low enthu makes me low morale in wooing her leh.. how am i suppose to ask her out for a date when she appear to be so low enthu abt me? -
Poly student - Same club - Quite playful = 1 year of fun (physically) ???Originally posted by ArSeBeNi:can.. of cos can.. cos we're poly student and we are frm the same club.. quite playful i shall say.. but i'm now having my attachment so wont be able to see her again
when having attachment i started to some sort of miss her? and wondering hows her daes and how is she, and miss the daes we tease each other someting like tat.. therefore i feel tat she hav become part of my life?
It's rather vague there don't you think so? If the above 'equation' were to be given to relationships between ten girls and you.
Would you like them all?
What is the cause of Catalyse between both of you and what caused you to realise that you like her?
Why do you think she will play along with you?
The last sentance has already gave you the reason to do what you should do.
Cheers