Some say, and I concur, that the process from courtship to marriage with your eventual spouse is the process of maturity and development. Both parties are constantly developing into the ideal husband and wife to as humanly possible a degree as possible, while maturing in their thinking together. Both these qualities of course are intertwined, advancing in one corresponds to a step in the other.
However, it'd seem that the modern couple is neglecting these mutual parenting and self-improvement factor. It is humanly logical to assume that as long as the relationship stays intact and weather the storms together somehow both parties will end up becoming better partners and better human being, however statistics reveal otherwise.
My question is that, how do/would you help your current partner become a better spouse and person in the future? (Let's not deal with what everyone think an ideal spouse is but how do you go about helping him/her!)