Forced marriage - pls advise
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i sense that TS is gay and dun dare to relieve it to his folk....
else why bother acting with a bride "mail order"?
i know and see alot of mama boy ard.... have yet to see one that actual follow thru a arrange marriage.
esp in sg....
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Originally posted by TERMINATOR2000:
NOW WHO IS THE ONE WHO WILL MAKE SINGAPORE A LAUGHING STOCK?
MR SHELTER WITH FUTURE RUNAWAY WIFE WITH OR TERMINATOR2000 THE STRICT NO NONSENSE ROBOT WHO MAKES SURE NO NONSENSE?
TERMINATOR2000, who needs to be stuffed with a brace of torpedoes down his throat and a brace of smart bombs up his arse, is the ultimate Singaporean laughing stock. -
Originally posted by charlize:
Why go through all the trouble and create future problems for yourself, your parents and the girl?
Just say No.
If that doesn't work, bring home a guy friend who can act.
You should know what I mean.
TS no guts to say no....and further more... if TS do not sign, his parents also cannot make him to.
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IMO, it is really sad, if you have parents breathing down your neck, pushing you to get married. Marriage is for two person ultimately, not four.
If you marry someone from other countries, who knows, they may just be interested in your money, or maybe, at the opportunity of moving to another country for a better life.
In truth, even though marriages between two nationalities or races are pretty common now, I still feel that relationships with the same nationalities or race will last longer, due to the fact that he/she has a higher chance of understanding your culture/behaviour/habits.
And also, arranged marriage have a higher chance of failing I believe. What TS should do, is to say no to his parents (in a polite way of course). Afterall, he is the one who will be staying in the same room with her and sleeping on the same bed with her.
Above is just my point of view. No discrimination against people from other countries or other races.
Cheers :)
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Well, say NO!!!!!!!!!.
If not, say you cannot marry because you got STDs like herpes, Aids....
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just say no.
the flaw is you. what makes you think you won't accede to touching the girl if your parents ask you to later?
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aiyo, Ah Boy.... you are still young and sad to said you are abit childish. Dont marry that girl if you have intention to divorce later. Dont be so silly to sponsor her to study.... by than she is the one who want to divorce you. Oversea bride for them is ok. They are prepared to get marry to someone they dont even know. As for you, you have to give your parents some impressin that you are grown up and mature enough. By doing so, engage with further study or tell them your plan for future career path and so on... give them the impression that you have intention to build up your career. DONT GET MARRY IF YOU ARE NOT READY. is a KAMA.... knowing is a wrong thing to do and yet proceed with it..Be firm with your decision. I think you must be the only son/child and always depend on them, they treat you like a small kid and afraid that you choose the wrong girl or worried that cant get one. Do sometime in weekend, make yourself busy with acticity and they realise their boy grown up ...
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It's your life, your happiness. If the relationship must turn sour, then let it. They can't do anything to you as long as you fulfill your duties as a child that the gabrament requires you to by law.
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Most of them who offfer u opinions, advice .... mean well (at least that is an assumption on my part) but if u cannot commit to something and try to fit in and later wriggle out of it, u are deluding yourself.
When you know what you are not - you know who you are, self-honesty. Get that 'rite' or acknowledge that aspect of you, no has has to know.
Unless, love is a transaction to you!
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is this ur life story:
http://wiki.d-addicts.com/Golden_BrideJin Joo is a half Korean and Vietnamese girl who marries a Korean man, Kang Jun Woo, in order to come to Korea to look for her biological father who abandoned her. The drama is not only about her searching for her dad but also about the cultural differences between her and her husband's family.
There is bad blood between the two families, Kim and Kang. The rivalry is even more fueled because Jun Woo's mother used to date Young Min's father but Young Min's mother stole him away from her. Kang Sae Mi is Jun Woo's sister and Kim Young Soo is Young Min's younger brother. They want to get married but both families oppose their marriage which leads to the two young lovers running away and living together.u can catch the korean show on cable ch 55 @ 12am on weekdays
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Originally posted by Rednano:
is this ur life story:
http://wiki.d-addicts.com/Golden_BrideJin Joo is a half Korean and Vietnamese girl who marries a Korean man, Kang Jun Woo, in order to come to Korea to look for her biological father who abandoned her. The drama is not only about her searching for her dad but also about the cultural differences between her and her husband's family. There is bad blood between the two families, Kim and Kang. The rivalry is even more fueled because Jun Woo's mother used to date Young Min's father but Young Min's mother stole him away from her. Kang Sae Mi is Jun Woo's sister and Kim Young Soo is Young Min's younger brother. They want to get married but both families oppose their marriage which leads to the two young lovers running away and living together.
u can catch the korean show on cable ch 55 @ 12am on weekdays
if the show change schedule, he'll write another essay cursing Starhub?
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To ... Bear,
I had a good belly aching laugh! thanks lar,
wish all movies can fix life lar!
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Originally posted by TERMINATOR2000:
your parents are stupid!
u are notr only goin to be conned of money n accomadation fer viet gal but viets will regard u sporeans as stupid n can be used for their purpose.
YOU WILL BE TURNING SPOREANS INTO LSFFIN STOCK.VIET GALS HAVE AT LEAST 2 GUYS BY NOW,THEY HAVE MORE MEN THAN WIMEN!
JUST TOUCH HER N MAKE SURE BLOOD FLOWS....DUN M,AKE US SINGAPOREANS LOSE FACE!ALREADY BAD ENOUGH WIV HO CHING ..DUN WANT ANYONE ELSE STEREOTYPIN SPOREANS ARE EASY TO BE MADE USE OF BY VIETNAMESE TOO!
Y dun u take that man lor since u terminator
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Do not attempt what you are contemplating. It will destroy her life, for if she ever get divorced and return home, her family will reject her and her neighbours will despise her as a failure, when it is not her fault.
If you are truly noble, you can always take ]responsibility] for a child and pay for his'her education thru the normal channels, just like many other noble and charitable Singaporeans I know that had done so.
As for your r/s with your parents, you must realize that you are already 21 years old and capable of making your own decisions. But perhaps you had not shown them that you might be that capable, thus their resolve to take matters into their hands, not because they are authoritative, but only because they love you and want the best for you.
This will be an issue you have to resolve with them, by allying their concerns, whatever they are. Many here do not have the full picture and would be difficult to share experiences.
If the issue is only because you prefer singlehood, then it is a choice you choose in life, and I sincerly hope you will not have any regrets later. We are only young once, and before you know it, we will be staring at the sunset on our walking sticks, watching kids play merrily along the beach, wondering what have we done or did not do in our lifetime.
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Originally posted by fudgester:
At 10.17 am, the TS started started a thread cursing Mediacorp to hell for rescheduling his favourite Shaolin show...
Slightly over two hours later at 12.39 pm, he comes in here complaining that his parents are forcing him to get a mail-order bride.....
Heck, even after starting this topic, the TS still went back to that forehead-slapping 'curse Mediacorp to hell' thread..... there's one post by him in there timestamped 12.51 pm.
Looks like a fish, smells like a fish. I'm more willing to believe that he's some 15 year old kid on school holidays with nothing better to do.
Either that or his parents are worried for their 25 years old son who behave like a 15 years old.
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spare the vietnamese..
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Age is merely a number - no one knows for sure - what goes thru him lar - to assume that one ought to be like this or like that for his age is foisting one's own ... on him.
As for his parents - if they 'love' him and want 'good' for him - i m sure - he would not be here unloading what is troubling him.
So much for love and so much for caring!
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25 only? =.=
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Whatever the cost(s) - risking all to be oneself and being responsibe for what one is without making another responsible for what one feels - that is maturing lar - rite/wrong is all crap! cos what was rite yesterday is not necessarily rite now or today. Life is a flux.
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cant u just get a female friend to act as your gf?
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Originally posted by Bayje:
cant u just get a female friend to act as your gf?
And later his parents ask him to hurry up and marry the girl.
The parents sound like they are very desperate to have a grandson.
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Plan B is insulting to you, demeaning to the girl.
You should be able to say NO! And don't get the Vietnamese girl involve in your plans. Its demeaning to her.
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TRY PLAN C:
STAY IN HERZOGS BOMB SHELTER AND SHE WILL SUPPLY THE 2 OF U WITH A LIFE TIME OF TORPEDO AND KY JELLY SANDWICHES.
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Originally posted by Nikar 3:
now, my parents has been pressuring me to get foreign bride (vietnam) as i don't have gf (now i'm 25).
i think they're going to vietnam next year or so to look for foreign wife for me.
now, this is just crazy, considering that i'm a male and we're living in 21st century.....and i'll try my best to prevent all these crap from happening.
i mean, love is love and how can it be bought with money?
i have never ever accepted the barbaric idea of the concept of "mail-order brides". it's not just insulting to the girl, it's demeaning to me as well.
and if i can't stop this, my plan B is as follows:
1) go with parents to Vietnam and pick a young girl (17 - 19 yrs old)2) vietnam girl stays with me but i don't touch her or have sex with her....i'll treat her like neutral friend, send her to study courses upgrade herself etc. this is a way to make-up for her wasting of 2 - 3 yrs with me.
The purpose of picking a young girl is so that when i divorce her, she will only be around 22 yrs old, and still very young enough to find another guy more suitable for her
3) after 3 years, i'll divorce her and ask her to find another guy
4) i'll be free again
5) if parents want me to marry again, i'll repeat from step 1).
6) if need to pay alimony fees to vietnam wife after divorce, i'm willing.
at least parents will see their mistake.
the idea of marrying a girl i've no feelings for is atrocious, and i don't believe the BS of "feelings can be nurtured".
pls advise your comments here and if there are flaws with this plan, pls let me know so that i can rectify.sure bo....
woah, damn noble sia.
you sure you wont touch her? or have sex with her? i thought you always long for a girl by your side........................
too noble liao la. i dont believe lor.
just say NO to your parents la.
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Originally posted by the Bear:
i dunno.. maybe the TS's parents don't trust his ability to get anywhere?
i mean.. look at his posts... wah piang eh, TV station change some serial timing, can write one whole essay cursing the TV station to hell and all that?
i was surprised he's 25... i thought he was some kinda 12 or 13 year old maladjusted OCD patient...
does that come from anyone sane? mature? with a life?
lemme go take a look.. lol!