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My mom once told me: No matter who the child is with or marry to, if the parents object, it's just temporary. In the end, it's their choice. Parents reaction is for the well being of the child. They can only hope that their child won't regret the choice he or she made. So, if you guys are really serious about it ( meaning planning for a future, having a family), then go for it.
On the other hand, as you say, she is a nice gal and you think it's just left with only your parents to approve then it would be a perfect picture. But what about in long run? If you never think of marryin this gal, why be together in the first place where you have to go through all these problems? My point is, don't rush to conclusion.
It's not just the race and religion but how you 2 are brought up in a very different family of rules and regulations. Are you sure there wont be any ways whereby you and your gf wont conflict in at all in future living together? Put it the other way round. Why is it not your gf giving in to you by converting out instead? You're doing it one-sided I guess. (correct me if I'm wrong)
Traditional chinese parents are always like that. Face comes first for traditional parents. How are they going to face their relatives and so on? Both parties have their dignity, reputation and principles to uphold. I'm in the same situation as you as well in some ways, but to avoid getting into getting "trouble" with my parents, my relationship is not disclosed to anyone cos my bf and I never know whether we will be marryin to each other in the end. It's not we don't believe in each other but shit happens sometimes. Therefore, we didn't want to upset anyone in the mean time, or go thru all the dramas at the moment., since everything is not comfirm yet till maybe we are really getting married as in till we are engaged or sth like tat. Imagine, (not cursing you) but if one day you and your gf broke up for some reason we never know, won't all these dramas between you and your parents esp your father, seems like you going through and fighting for nothin?
No matter what you choose, show respect and gratitude to your parents. They give you what you have, brought you up to the person you become. Is that how you're going to repay their kindness?
There are too many elements in life that you have to sacrifice sometimes cos of the decision you made. Love is not everything. Loving someone doesnt mean you have to possess him or her.
In the mean time, why not just enjoy life, enjoy what you have and appreciate it.
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