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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by An Eternal Now @ Mon, 22 Sep 2008 12:15:19 +0800</title>
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&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by Thusness:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;No AEN, the purpose is just to have a first glimpse of our
luminous nature.&amp;nbsp; The maturing of this lucid and vivid
non-dual experience will lead us to the Advaita Vedenta sort of
realisation --&amp;nbsp;the&amp;nbsp;'Self'.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;This glimpse is completely different from the experience of
anatta that&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;There is thinking, no thinker&lt;br /&gt;
There is sound, no hearer&lt;br /&gt;
Suffering exists, no sufferer&lt;br /&gt;
Deeds there are, no doer&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I have repeatedly told you that&amp;nbsp;Anatta is not just a
non-dual experience, it must be regarded as a dharma seal.&amp;nbsp;
That all along the dichotomy of a observer and observed duality is
an illusion created by due to our deeply rooted inherent and
dualistic tendency of seeing things.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It&amp;nbsp;is better understood as a complete sense of 'Oneness'
than as 'Everything'.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;When we practice not imputing the 'sense of self' on our
experiences, we are effectively going through a process of
dissolving the 'mental formation' of the five aggregates into
direct experiences of the 18 dhatus (the All).&amp;nbsp; You may want
to understand why this leads to liberation&amp;nbsp;and how dispassion
or&amp;nbsp;total willingness to let go is generated along the
practice; and what has that got to do with our nature.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I see...&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;This is like what you said right,&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;"To drop the bondage/deep conditionings, the mind MUST realise
that another way of 'knowing' is possible; an effortless, total
sensing and experience of wholeness. Next the experiences of the
joy, bliss and clarity of wholeness. Without the insight into the
possiblity and the experience of the positive factors, the mind
will not release itself from holding."&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;"Even open pure and innocent inquiry is a deep conditioning.
Makes the mind chatters incessantly. Every what, when, where and
why by itself is a distancing from start. Freeing itself from such
mode of inquiry aka 'knowing', the mind rests. The joy of this
resting must be experienced for the 'willingness' to arise."&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It is like entering a mode free from all knowing, just
effortless and spontaneous presence.&lt;/p&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Mon, 22 Sep 2008 12:15:19 +0800</pubDate>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by Thusness @ Mon, 22 Sep 2008 08:49:08 +0800</title>
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&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by An Eternal Now:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Or as Thusness asked, &#8220;Without using any languages, &#8216;I&#8217;, &#8216;me&#8217; or
any signs or symbols, how is &#8216;I&#8217; experienced?&#8221;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;No AEN, the purpose is just to have a first glimpse of our
luminous nature.&amp;nbsp; The maturing of this lucid and vivid
non-dual experience will lead us to the Advaita Vedenta sort of
realisation --&amp;nbsp;the&amp;nbsp;'Self'.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;This glimpse is completely different from the experience of
anatta that&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;There is thinking, no thinker&lt;br /&gt;
There is sound, no hearer&lt;br /&gt;
Suffering exists, no sufferer&lt;br /&gt;
Deeds there are, no doer&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I have repeatedly told you that&amp;nbsp;Anatta is not just a
non-dual experience, it must be regarded as a dharma seal.&amp;nbsp;
That all along the dichotomy of a observer and observed duality is
an illusion created by due to our deeply rooted inherent and
dualistic tendency of seeing things.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by An Eternal Now:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We can 'be' everything because we already are everything, just
that we contract into the false sense of an observer due to
delusions.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It&amp;nbsp;is better understood as a complete sense of 'Oneness'
than as 'Everything'.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;When we practice not imputing the 'sense of self' on our
experiences, we are effectively going through a process of
dissolving the 'mental formation' of the five aggregates into
direct experiences of the 18 dhatus (the All).&amp;nbsp; You may want
to understand why this leads to liberation&amp;nbsp;and how dispassion
or&amp;nbsp;total willingness to let go is generated along the
practice; and what has that got to do with our nature.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by youyayu @ Mon, 22 Sep 2008 01:43:06 +0800</title>
      <description>&lt;p&gt;when i was young my dad bring me to those monk chating places..
then monk hit my head cos i don't want to sit still..&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Now i got phobia of Monks&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by An Eternal Now @ Mon, 22 Sep 2008 01:31:35 +0800</title>
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&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by _wanderer_:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
This is something that my Dharma teachers have mentioned before.
The advice given has generally been this: While this is an
encouraging sign for us as practitioners, try not to fall victim to
a sense of victory as this happens. Because it is easy to get rid
of anger and negative thoughts - these are things that we do not
like. However, it is harder to get rid of the sense of
'achievement'. That kind of attachment is much more stickier than
anger. Our goal is not just to get rid of anger. Our goal is
enlightenment, which is beyond all contrived emotions. Continue
meditating/watching your mind as your anger disappears. Jia you!!
:)&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Yes.. and the insight of yesterday is of no value at all. Any
insight or understanding can only be of value now, where fresh
insights can appear. To try to cling to any achievement or
understanding is merely conceptual and leads to no where. Even the
Buddha himself had said he had no attainment, ultimately.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Understanding, insight, is alive in the immediacy, as you said,
watching your mind... this is an ongoing process that never ends.
The idea of having reached a goal or a victory is simply more
erroneous concepts. Reality is ever changing, ever becoming. True
insight and understanding is an ongoing process of knowing, not a
dead "I understand" or "I know".&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As Thusness posted before,&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
...As what Joan Tollifson once asked Toni &#8220;if she'd ever had one of
those big awakenings where life turns inside out and all
identification with the body-mind ceases.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Toni replied, "I can't say I had it," she replied. "It's this
moment, right now." ...&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Mon, 22 Sep 2008 01:31:35 +0800</pubDate>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by An Eternal Now @ Mon, 22 Sep 2008 01:26:00 +0800</title>
      <description>&lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by Isis:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Well, a few moments ago, i feel the anger feeling arise in me.
Stories begin to run through my mind about this particular thing.
Then i realise that the thought that i'm having are just stories.
Whatever, i perceive or interpret are really just stories.. what
are truth or not in this stories, i don't really know .. However, i
have clearly experienced a rush of feeling and thought such as "
what the fuck.. i don't even want blah blah blah " that i couldn't
almost stay mindful with. I could have acted out with anger and
stayed there for a period of time.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Amazingly, when i stand back just now and observe the entire
thing, almost instantly, i just figure out that it is really a
small thing or nothing to get angry with. I could have thought how
silly i could be afew years down the road... getting angry and
wasting my energy over it -_-&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Yes.. this is a moment of insight, a moment of stepping out of
the habitual reaction of thought that is both habitual and
hypnotic, and seeing the stories for what it is... more thoughts,
clouds arising and passing by in this vast sky but nothing
sticks... and that seeing is also known as awareness.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Awareness is ever-present, reflecting, shining on everything
without judgement or attempting to push away any experience.
Everything just reveals itself in the light of awareness
effortlessly, the feeling of anger, the energy that surges
throughout the bodymind, is being seen and experienced as it is.
But it is not occuring to a 'me', there is no reference point to
which there is an experience.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Everything is simply happening on its own, revealed in clarity.
Aliveness is shimmering in the bodymind but not confined to this
body -- it is in the sound of air con humming, it is shimmering
everywhere in this room, the table, the chair, everything. Non-dual
Presence becomes obvious when we dissolve into total openness
unreservedly.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;And everything is experienced fresh and doesn't stay for even a
moment -- arising and passing moment to moment, and all our
emotions and thoughts eventually dissolve in its own accord into
silence when there is just a simple attending/awaring of what's
going on, no more further habitual reactions through conditioned
thought. But the point is not to push away any experience, even of
suffering, but to see it for what it is, allowing it, surrending to
what is.&lt;/p&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Mon, 22 Sep 2008 01:26:00 +0800</pubDate>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by _wanderer_ @ Mon, 22 Sep 2008 01:07:10 +0800</title>
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&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by Isis:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Well, a few moments ago, i feel the anger feeling arise in me.
Stories begin to run through my mind about this particular thing.
Then i realise that the thought that i'm having are just stories.
Whatever, i perceive or interpret are really just stories.. what
are truth or not in this stories, i don't really know .. However, i
have clearly experienced a rush of feeling and thought such as "
what the fuck.. i don't even want blah blah blah " that i couldn't
almost stay mindful with. I could have acted out with anger and
stayed there for a period of time.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Amazingly, when i stand back just now and observe the entire
thing, almost instantly, i just figure out that it is really a
small thing or nothing to get angry with. I could have thought how
silly i could be afew years down the road... getting angry and
wasting my energy over it -_-&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
This is something that my Dharma teachers have mentioned before.
The advice given has generally been this: While this is an
encouraging sign for us as practitioners, try not to fall victim to
a sense of victory as this happens. Because it is easy to get rid
of anger and negative thoughts - these are things that we do not
like. However, it is harder to get rid of the sense of
'achievement'. That kind of attachment is much more stickier than
anger. Our goal is not just to get rid of anger. Our goal is
enlightenment, which is beyond all contrived emotions. Continue
meditating/watching your mind as your anger disappears. Jia you!!
:)&lt;/p&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Mon, 22 Sep 2008 01:07:10 +0800</pubDate>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by Isis @ Mon, 22 Sep 2008 00:18:03 +0800</title>
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&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by An Eternal Now:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;h4&gt;&lt;a href=
"http://www.springwatercenter.org/teachers/packer/articles/anger/"
rel=
"nofollow"&gt;http://www.springwatercenter.org/teachers/packer/articles/anger/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/h4&gt;
&lt;h4&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/h4&gt;
&lt;h4&gt;Anger&lt;/h4&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;The following article was adapted from a talk by Toni Packer
on Day 5 of the September 1998 retreat.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Let's talk about anger. Everyone experiences it at one time or
another. Can something be done about anger?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;A retreatant reported experiencing lots of energy during
sittings, mostly generated by feeling angry about the sitting
itself. Thoughts were running about wasting her time here while
there was so much work to do at home. "What should I do with all
this energy? At times I feel like screaming! Is it all right to
scream?"&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We have all agreed to maintain outward silence during retreats.
Screams are disturbing. If one really feels like screaming that's
OK, but maybe one can find a ravine in the woods where it would not
impact others. But it's a good question, what to do with powerful
energy like anger. My immediate response to the questioner was,
"Let it be awareness! Awareness is energy!"&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Years ago a man came to see me before applying for retreat,
asking if it would be all right to express anger during a meeting.
I said it was all right. So one day he entered the meeting room
with a tense, flushed face, asking if he could vent his anger at me
right then and there. I nodded, and quietly asked: "Have you ever
looked at it directly?" No answer came just a charged silence. We
sat wordlessly for what seemed to be an eternity, and then he burst
out laughing: "It doesn't have to be expressed!" When a powerfully
driving emotion gives way to simple awareness, it is like a
miracle. What emerged from awareness wasn't screams, but laughter
and insight.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Psychological theories about what to do with anger abound and
change with time. I do not know if anger should be expressed or
shouldn't be. The fact is that we do get angry, and it expresses
itself instantly, verbally as well as non-verbally, throughout the
body. So what is this anger? Can we go beyond the question, "What
should I do with it?" and beyond answers like, "I should feel it in
my body, or I should express it verbally, physically, or I ought to
control it."&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;There is plenty to feel when we're angry. It mobilizes the
entire organism, mentally and physically no single cell remains
unaffected. Storylines run wildly, keeping the agitation going. Can
we feel all these amazing physical and mental manifestations
without resistance? If resistance is there, then feel it, look at
it. Don't try to shut it down by telling yourself that it is
dangerous to experience anger, or try to convince yourself that we
are wholly justified in what we are feeling. We really don't know.
Every thought, every judgment about it intensifies confusion and
agitation! Can simple awareness shed light, create space?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Trace anger as it is happening! Why am I getting angry? What is
at the base of it? Can it be irradiated with attention? By looking
at it, questioning it, observing it in the light of the question,
what reveals itself is that we function in rigid patterns that do
not want to be interrupted. Memory structures in the brain and
throughout the body about how we are, how things ought to be, what
is right and what is wrong keep us functioning fairly smoothly, but
when they are interfered with, anger results.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;These memory structures are wired into us from day one. Even an
infant, who does not yet understand the spoken word, understands
judgments conveyed by mother's and father's voice, eyes, and touch.
What brings smiles, warmth, and protection is good, is right, is
worth repeating over and over again. What brings rejection,
hardness, sadness, or pain is bad, wrong, must be avoided. So, from
early on, memory structures solidify organismically about what is
right and what is wrong to do, to be, to feel, to think, to say.
Schools, churches, and daily living together reinforce these
structures. What we want and what has given us pleasure becomes the
dominating pattern that needs to be maintained, incessantly
fulfilled, and defended against disturbance.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;When what we want is interfered with or thwarted, or when
somebody transgresses what is deeply felt to be right, the energy
that keeps the system intact explodes. "What they did was wrong!!!
How dare they!" I could see something like this happening in our
grandchildren. Our little grandson was quite obedient, having
learned through punishment and reward what his parents felt to be
right and wrong, what to do and what not to do, and, above all,
what not to touch. Several years later when his little sister came
toddling along, playing with the buttons on the stereo that he had
painfully learned to leave alone, he would get furious with her,
slapping her little hands. He could not tolerate seeing her do what
for him had become a rigid pattern of "No!" Anger was the result of
the disturbance. And so it is with all of us. Observing someone do
what the brain has encoded as wrong triggers an eruption of energy
that wants to keep the pattern intact. It feels as though we had
been personally injured.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I have been wondering about this for a long time: why do we get
angry when someone else acts in a "stupid" way? What reveals itself
upon examination is that we easily feel irritated toward somebody
who "doesn't get it," like a parent or schoolteacher getting
exasperated at a child. This sort of anger isn't questioned very
much it seems justifiable. We feel righteous anger toward those
whose ways are in collision with our own. Can we question this
deeply?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I remember feeling uncomfortable at the Zen Center when we
recited the precept not to become angry. How could we make this
vow, knowing full well that we would become angry again? And then
get angry about having transgressed a vow! I also wondered about
the teacher's saying that there were appropriate, righteous angers
not included in the vow. What is anger? This was my query, tracing
it to its very foundation. Why do we get angry? Not making
explanations or excuses or accusations, but watching directly what
is actually taking place. Why do we keep on being angry, what
maintains the agitated mood after the explosion has happened? Does
it necessarily have to continue for any length of time?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We may assume that we continue being angry because of a deep
reservoir of rage established within us over time that can only be
depleted over time. But I have actually observed that physical
agitation dissipates amazingly fast if the personalized picture
story about what has happened to us is clearly seen as story, and
is understood as the culprit that keeps the anger burning. With
ever-fresh insight the brain can actually cease composing agitating
scenarios, abstaining wisely from picturing ourselves as
sacrificial victims of other peoples' stupidity or meanness.
Without clear insight, incendiary storylines keep running, fueling
the anger time and time again.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;With insight we may realize that there exists a tenacious
attachment to our stories and to the resulting anger. We actually
feel good in this powerful release, even though remorse may set in
when the storyline changes: "After this they won't like me
anymore!" But, it is an ever-amazing discovery that emotions can
dissipate when the story is seen and ends in the seeing. Some
physical sensations may linger for a while, but need not become a
problem. Watch the stories and let them go! The body has an amazing
ability to establish harmony when left alone.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;You may be thinking right now, "Aren't there situations in which
we ought to stand up for what is right, feel outrage against
exploitation or abuse?" I do not know what we ought to feel, ought
to do. Establishing &lt;em&gt;oughts&lt;/em&gt; and trying to live by them
doesn't lead to insight into what is. What does happen when we are
exploited, abused, humiliated, made fun of, or when we see it
happening to others?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We have never learned a wise way to deal deeply with this stuff
because we are so used to either putting up with it, suffering from
it, fighting it, or exploding over it. Either we continue darkly in
our conditioned patterns, or there is an awakening of interest in
what is going on for all of us, the abuser as well as the abused.
This has nothing to do with sanctioning hurtful behavior, excusing
it, or allowing it to continue.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Can we simply behold each other as we are from moment to moment?
See ourselves, see everyone, as results of millennia old
conditioned patterns which have rigidly governed our behavior even
though we do not consciously want it to be so? Not just an
intellectual understanding of this, but direct insight into the
power of our overwhelmingly strong conditioning. Then, maybe, we
can begin to question things together and communicate with each
other in a new, intelligent, and compassionate way. Anger, with its
chemical toxins, is not conducive to clearly examining and
investigating. On the contrary, it spells confusion in the
mind.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;What is needed is unpolluted looking into what is happening for
all of us. Out of clear insight comes the energy to act in a clear
way. Such action is difficult for us because we are so heavily
conditioned in our patterns of reacting that we are not even
cognizant of them most of the time. But that is not an immutable
state of affairs. There can be ever-increasing awareness of how we
react and how others react to us because of our reactions to them.
We are all entangled together in chain reactions! Bring them to
light! Realize that when you talk to someone with an angry demeanor
they are likely to respond in kind, triggering further irritation
in you and, then again, you in them, and on and on.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Most of us are scared of people who are angry, shouting,
attacking, blaming. Out of fear, we respond angrily ourselves. This
immediately touches memories of our childhood, years of
helplessness and utter dependence on adults who often exploded in
incomprehensible ways. Fear of angry people makes us not want to be
near them it is too upsetting, too intimidating. So, turning it
around again, can we question, while we are angry, whether we are
actually upsetting and intimidating other people? Maybe we don't
really want to upset other people. A moment of clarity and insight
brings astonishing sensitivity and care.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As a child I was very scared of my mother's anger, particularly
when it was vented against my brother or the cook or nanny. I was
deeply attached to all of them. My brother was often sullen, moody,
obstinate, and did poorly in his schoolwork. I felt excruciating
pain every time he was scolded, punished, or humiliated. Later, in
my teens, I told my mother that I had been afraid of her anger all
my life. She was visibly shocked. She didn't realize at all that I
could have felt that way. It obviously did not fit the image she
had of herself.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Memories now arise of times when I was not afraid of mother. We
would sometimes go together into town to do shopping. We often
walked quite a distance, and she would hold my hand, and it was
such a wonderfully happy feeling. Sometimes I would arrange my
small hand in hers in a special way, and she would go along with
it. One time we were walking through a department store, passing
through many narrow isles with merchandise tables left and right,
and I felt my mother's deep sadness, looking for something she
couldn't find.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Just to complete that story, we visited my parents in
Switzerland after I was married. One day I saw my mother in the
dining room alone, looking toward me, and suddenly there was just
this beautiful woman standing there without any images. So much
love in this moment without images. No feeling that I had to be
anything she may have thought of me. It was completely natural.
From that moment on, our relationship changed.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So, can we have infinite patience with our own anger and the
anger of others? Can our habitual reactions for or against someone
be replaced with a wondering awareness that does not know? Can we
try to understand each other on the deepest level, without images?
We are the only laboratories for unfolding this understanding anger
wells up in all of us. Why? Not that it shouldn't, but just WHY?
Let it reveal itself fully in awareness beyond limitation.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Well, a few moments ago, i feel the anger feeling arise in me.
Stories begin to run through my mind about this particular thing.
Then i realise that the thought that i'm having are just stories.
Whatever, i perceive or interpret are really just stories.. what
are truth or not in this stories, i don't really know .. However, i
have clearly experienced a rush of feeling and thought such as "
what the fuck.. i don't even want blah blah blah " that i couldn't
almost stay mindful with. I could have acted out with anger and
stayed there for a period of time.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Amazingly, when i stand back just now and observe the entire
thing, almost instantly, i just figure out that it is really a
small thing or nothing to get angry with. I could have thought how
silly i could be afew years down the road... getting angry and
wasting my energy over it -_-&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <description>&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;h2&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;Dai Bai Zan - Cho Bo Zen
Ji&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/h2&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: x-small;"&gt;Great Plum Mountain -
Listening to the Dharma Zen Temple&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="color: #822607;"&gt;Genki Roshi's Retirement
Teisho&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;hr /&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;img src="http://home.comcast.net/%7Ezenquaker/genki.jpg"
height="600" alt="" width="369" /&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;hr /&gt;
&lt;h3&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; At our 1997 Rohatsu Sesshin (winter retreat),
Genki Takabayashi Roshi retired as the active abbot of our Zen
community.&amp;nbsp; What follows is his retirement Teisho (Dharma
Lecture), that was transcribed for our 1998 winter issue of "Plum
Mountain News," Vol. 4.3.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/h3&gt;
&lt;hr /&gt;
&lt;h3&gt;CASE 53 OF&amp;nbsp; THE BLUE CLIFF RECORDS&lt;/h3&gt;
&lt;h3&gt;HYAKUJO AND A WILD DUCK&lt;/h3&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;ENGO'S INTRODUCTION&lt;/strong&gt;&amp;nbsp; The universe is not
veiled; all its activities lie open.&amp;nbsp; Whichever way he [Baso]
may go, he meets no obstruction.&amp;nbsp; At all times he behaves
independently.&amp;nbsp; His every word is devoid of egocentricity, yet
still he has the power to kill others.&amp;nbsp; Tell me, where did the
ancient worthy come to rest?&amp;nbsp; See the following...&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;MAIN SUBJECT&lt;/strong&gt;&amp;nbsp; When Baso (d. 788) was out
walking with Hyakujo (d. 814), he saw a wild duck fly past.&amp;nbsp;
Baso said, "What is it?"&amp;nbsp; Hyakujo said, "It is a wild
duck."&amp;nbsp; Baso said, "Where is it?"&amp;nbsp; Hyakujo said, "It has
flown away."&amp;nbsp; Baso at last gave Hyakujo's nose a sharp
pinch.&amp;nbsp; Hyakujo cried out with pain.&amp;nbsp; Baso said, "There,
how can it fly away?"&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;SETCHO'S VERSE:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
The wild duck!&amp;nbsp; What, how, and where?&lt;br /&gt;
Baso has seen, talked, taught,&lt;br /&gt;
and exhausted&lt;br /&gt;
The meaning of mountain clouds&lt;br /&gt;
and moonlit seas.&lt;br /&gt;
But Jo doesn't understand&amp;nbsp; --&lt;br /&gt;
"has flown away."&lt;br /&gt;
Flown away?&amp;nbsp; No, he is brought back!&lt;br /&gt;
Say!&amp;nbsp; Say!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;hr /&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; This story is about
Hyakujo who became a famous Zen master in his own right, but in
this case he is learning from his master Baso.&amp;nbsp; We find them
in a natural setting where a wild duck passes by, and Baso uses
this environment to illuminate Hyakujo to the true nature of
things.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Everything,
everywhere is constantly revealing the underlining nature of the
universe.&amp;nbsp; When the historical Buddha had his first great
awakening upon seeing the morning star Venus on December 8th some
2,500 years ago, he realized that everything, everywhere was always
naturally manifesting Buddha Nature Activity.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; When our eyes are
truly open, we realize how astounding it is for a tree to be a
tree, a mountain to be a mountain, an animal to be an animal.&amp;nbsp;
A river is water flowing.&amp;nbsp; A duck passing is truly just wild
duck now passing.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Zen realization
includes the capacity to know ourselves as mountain, river, tree or
wild duck.&amp;nbsp; In other words, while sitting here in the form of
a human being, we have the capacity to know mountain, river, tree,
or duck from the inside.&amp;nbsp; This is possible because on a
fundamental level nothing is really separate from anything
else.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; In this story Baso
and his student Hyakujo are most likely walking around the gardens
enclosed or adjacent to the temple grounds.&amp;nbsp; While walking,
imagine that their steps startle a wild duck in the brush, which
bursts forth and flies off.&amp;nbsp; Baso then says, "What was
that?"&amp;nbsp; Hyakujo responds, "A wild duck, master."&amp;nbsp; Baso
queries, "Where did that duck just go?"&amp;nbsp; Hyakujo looks a
little puzzled and points out, "It flew off this way master."&amp;nbsp;
Baso is not pleased with this response.&amp;nbsp; Hyakujo by his second
descriptive answer reveals that he was trapped within his own
rational discriminating consciousness, failing to penetrate through
the veil of subject and object thinking.&amp;nbsp; Therefore, Baso
seizes this opportunity to push his student's perception to a new
level by harshly tweaking Hyakujo's nose, making him squawk with
pain.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;img src="http://home.comcast.net/%7Ezenquaker/duck.gif" height=
"336" alt="" width="344" /&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Baso's teaching was
very kind.&amp;nbsp; After making Hyakujo squeal, Baso said, "See that
duck has gone nowhere, it is still here before me."&amp;nbsp; Hyakujo
surely understood what his teacher was getting at.&amp;nbsp; Even so,
Baso probably concluded the encounter with a great "Katsu!" or Zen
shout, to illustrate that all things in this singular moment of
eternity are subtly yet profoundly united, and that from this
fundamental level there can be no coming or going.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; When I was a young
boy under the tutelage of Gempo Roshi, he would sometimes,
when&amp;nbsp; displeased with me for some reason, grab me by the ear
and pull me to where he wanted me to go.&amp;nbsp; And, of course, I
would be yelping or quacking quite a bit along the way.&amp;nbsp;
Sometimes, I would not even know what Roshi was angry
about.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; When Baso tweaked Hyakujo's nose, we must
understand it to be like the sharp slap of the &lt;em&gt;keisaku&lt;/em&gt;
(teaching stick), which is not meant as punishment, but used as a
device to wake up the receiver to a broader, non-attached awareness
of Reality.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Baso's point is that
you and the wild duck are both manifestations of Buddha
Nature.&amp;nbsp; Buddha Nature is fundamentally indivisible.&amp;nbsp;
There is only one kind of Buddha Nature activity though it reveals
itself in myriad ways.&amp;nbsp; When our consciousness is able to open
up to the underlining heart/mind we immediately realize that
nothing can be lost or found, nothing can really come or go.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Rinzai, the ninth
century Zen Master and founder of our lineage of Zen practice, when
asked by his students, "What is the essential point of Zen?", would
often respond by saying, "You here now listening to this discourse
are none other than Buddha."&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Zen Master Gutei when
asked, "What is the essence of Zen?"&amp;nbsp; would not speak at all,
but would simply hold up one finger.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Gutei never exhausted
his one finger Zen; however, here in America, one finger Zen is
insufficient to become a citizen.&amp;nbsp; The Immigration and
Naturalization Service wants finger prints of all my fingers.&amp;nbsp;
In fact I have had to give them my finger prints four times
now.&amp;nbsp; The last time I was sent to a Chinese video store to get
my "official" finger prints, because they had misplaced the first
three copies.&amp;nbsp; It is my understanding that today the I.N.S. is
beginning a whole new system to collect finger prints; they seem to
understand that they are having some problems.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; I am
skeptical that even now all my fingers will do.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Baso would have been
happy to see Hyakujo reveal some understanding that was not so
attached to his ego bounded perception.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; How could
Hyakujo have done this to Baso's satisfaction?&amp;nbsp; How can we
reveal that we realize and know in our heart that nothing is
separate, yet each thing profoundly unique, each moment
singular?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; If our Zen practice
is limited to the Dokusan (Interview) room, the Zendo (Meditation
Hall), or even sesshin (Zen retreat), we are really missing the
point.&amp;nbsp; As students of Zen, it is our duty to make every
action an opportunity to be fully present, fully aware, fully
involved.&amp;nbsp; For Zen practice to be meaningful, everyday actions
in our daily life must become a demonstration of our understanding
that everything, everywhere reveals the universal.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Do not be fooled;
being fully present, fully aware and fully involved in each
activity is simple to talk about, but not so easy to do.&amp;nbsp; It
takes years of training to move naturally, spontaneously, and
compassionately through the real encounters and circumstances of
our lives.&amp;nbsp; Zen training, Aikido training and other
developmental arts are in some ways just a good start on this
process.&amp;nbsp; As complex creatures, it is hard for us to learn how
to let go and be natural in a world of such rich and varied
possibilities.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Recently, I have
heard of a machine that makes sushi (Japanese rice and fish
cake).&amp;nbsp; There is very little Japanese culture in
Montana.&amp;nbsp; Perhaps Joshin (Leslie) and I could buy a sushi
machine and make a good business for ourselves, because no one in
Montana knows how sushi is really supposed to taste.&amp;nbsp; Sushi
made by hand, with the skill and heart connection of a master will
be delicious.&amp;nbsp; It can not possibly compare in taste to sushi
that is made as a copy of a chef's work.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Even if made
well by a robot, how dull it would soon become, without the
master's heart/mind.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Someday, there will
likely be a computer that will be able to spit out "answers" to
koans (Zen parables).&amp;nbsp; What a joke that will be.&amp;nbsp; I would
be happy to give you the answers, but they won't do you any good
unless your heart/mind sees through them clearly.&amp;nbsp; Without a
heart/mind response, a koan "answer" has no meaning and caries no
understanding of the true nature of things.&amp;nbsp; At best, a
computer one day may be able to make an "intellectual" or
"rational" response, and this might count for 10% of the koan's
true meaning.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; A few years ago when
I practiced with Joshu Sasaki Roshi in New Mexico, he related to me
that several of his Zen students were giving strange inadequate
responses to his koans.&amp;nbsp; I said, "Oh yes, recently I had seen
an English publication of koan answers."&amp;nbsp; He said, "Ah, now I
understand.&amp;nbsp; I'll just have to make up some new
koans."&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; No one can teach you Zen, how much less can you
then learn from a book, but with enough effort and guidance you can
realize it for yourself.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; To penetrate a koan,
or gain&amp;nbsp; Zen understanding, just sit, sit, sit.&amp;nbsp; Here on
the cushion, face all the trials of pain, fatigue and mental
disquiet, and learn how not to be distracted or disturbed.&amp;nbsp;
Then, and only then, will your own gut-cleansed understanding
bubble up to your awareness. Learn how to be undisturbed and you
will gain direct access to your own powerful, creative,
compassionate, core energy.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Life is our teacher,
our only teacher.&amp;nbsp; When we learn how to fully face life just
as it is, without clinging to our likes or running from our
dislikes, then we will realize our human potential to meet life and
death, times of confusion or clarity, without flinching.&lt;/p&gt;
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by An Eternal Now @ Sat, 20 Sep 2008 11:27:49 +0800</title>
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&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by Isis:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
eh what do you mean by&amp;nbsp;we can be everything ?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We can 'be' everything because we already are everything, just
that we contract into the false sense of an observer due to
delusions.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;You can contemplate on:&lt;span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
There is thinking, no thinker&lt;br /&gt;
There is sound, no hearer&lt;br /&gt;
Suffering exists, no sufferer&lt;br /&gt;
Deeds there are, no doer&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;By contemplating as such, Thusness got a breakthrough insight
into Anatta.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;But this is not just an intellectual exercise. You have to truly
feel and observe that this is so, that there is no observer apart
from observed.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Another exercise you can try is this:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;(Thusness, from &lt;a href="/forums/1728/topics/210722" rel=
"nofollow"&gt;Hi everyone&lt;/a&gt;)&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;A friend came to pass me some cheques to sign and saw me
reading this forum... &lt;img title="Mr. Green" src=
"/images/emoticons/classic/icon_mrgreen.gif" alt=
"Mr. Green" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
IT triggered a short conversation and I asked:&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
"Without the using the thought of I, how do you experience
I?"&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
He closed his eyes for a while...&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Open his eyes and said "Everything!"&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
and his eyes like &lt;img title="Shocked" src=
"/images/emoticons/classic/icon_eek.gif" alt="Shocked" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Try it!&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;img title="Surprised" src=
"/images/emoticons/classic/icon_surprised.gif" alt=
"Surprised" /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Or as Thusness asked, &#8220;Without using any languages, &#8216;I&#8217;, &#8216;me&#8217; or
any signs or symbols, how is &#8216;I&#8217; experienced?&#8221;&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by Isis @ Sat, 20 Sep 2008 08:57:25 +0800</title>
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&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by An Eternal Now:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;You said 'Don't know mind', and Zen Master Seung Sahn would say,
just keep this don't know mind! This don't know mind is at the same
time, clear mind. It is not a 'confused' mind. It does not mean you
are not aware, in fact 'dont know mind' is clear, and aware. And
when we can dissolve that mind completely, that 'me', we can 'be'
everything -- table, screen, trees, are just one 'substance'.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Whenever we think we are something, question it and the thought
dissolves back into Reality itself. And the thought itself is a
manifestation of that Reality.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
eh what do you mean by&amp;nbsp;we can be everything ?&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by cycle @ Thu, 18 Sep 2008 14:27:17 +0800</title>
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&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by knightlll:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
I am not afraid of dogs. Animals sometimes do turn wild for no
reason. : p&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
Yah, I do agree. Sometimes human beings also turned wild over no
reasons.&lt;img src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt=
"icon_lol.gif" /&gt; I always wonder why&amp;nbsp;some perfectly mental
healthy ppl, in human forms but would want to purposely behave as
if they came fr the animal realms.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by An Eternal Now @ Wed, 17 Sep 2008 01:55:27 +0800</title>
      <description>&lt;p&gt;I said who you are cannot be an object of knowledge, but even so
there is an undeniable sense of presence-awareness. It's not
something 'out there' separate from you (but it is all-pervasive),
you can't objectify it and make it an object of knowledge or
observation.... but it is a self-evident, self-shining, self-felt
Presence. You cannot observe it from the perspective of a separate
observer or self. The Presence just Is.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Is that who you are? In a sense yes but to even form the concept
'I am' is to miss its action. 'I am' sounds like there is a
constant being. But that Presence is as much being as it is
be-coming, because it is not apart from the transient flow of
phenomenality. And it is non-separate, there is no boundary which
you can separate the 'you' from the 'not-you' -- it is also the
trees, the table, the sounds, the thoughts also. But there is a
constant presence-ING. Like the wind blowing, the river flowing,
ungraspable, empty, and yet undeniably present.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Trying to grasp 'me' is like trying to grasp the wind, can it be
grasped? No, but nevertheless its Presencing flows.&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by An Eternal Now @ Wed, 17 Sep 2008 01:39:02 +0800</title>
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&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by Isis:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
i'm having this "similar of feeling&amp;nbsp;of who i am"&amp;nbsp;for some
time but i know i'm more than just that.&amp;nbsp;Subconciously, i
might have choose to believe in it.&amp;nbsp;Sometime,&amp;nbsp;i like to
grasp and believe that this&amp;nbsp;conceptual me which&amp;nbsp;i have
thought of at there particular time&amp;nbsp;is really me. That
conceptual me could be&amp;nbsp;a postive one&amp;nbsp;and one&amp;nbsp;hold
onto the idea the idea that.. hey you are so "great",
"wonderful"&amp;nbsp;for example&amp;nbsp;but all in all&amp;nbsp;it&amp;nbsp;boils
down to&amp;nbsp;a&amp;nbsp;matter of perception. The qualties do not have
inherent existence.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;ha ha so koan?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I'll try...&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In the first place, who are you?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Don't know who am i.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;2nd question..&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Still the same. Don't know who am i&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Yes, in reality you cannot know who you are! Because who you are
is not an object that can be grasped (because whatever object
grasped or anything that can be observed is by definition not
you!), and all belief in a self are simply more thoughts arising
about an apparent separate and inherent self... how can it be who
you are? How can you be a separate self you believed to be?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;You said 'Don't know mind', and Zen Master Seung Sahn would say,
just keep this don't know mind! This don't know mind is at the same
time, clear mind. It is not a 'confused' mind. It does not mean you
are not aware, in fact 'dont know mind' is clear, and aware. And
when we can dissolve that mind completely, that 'me', we can 'be'
everything -- table, screen, trees, are just one 'substance'.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Whenever we think we are something, question it and the thought
dissolves back into Reality itself. And the thought itself is a
manifestation of that Reality.&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by Isis @ Wed, 17 Sep 2008 01:13:54 +0800</title>
      <description>&lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by An Eternal Now:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;How do you love yourself? Question that... Are you an image of
who you think you are? Or is that just an arising thought.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In the first place, who are you?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Before the arising of a thought, who are you?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
i'm having this "similar of feeling&amp;nbsp;of who i am"&amp;nbsp;for some
time but i know i'm more than just that.&amp;nbsp;Subconciously, i
might have choose to believe in it.&amp;nbsp;Sometime,&amp;nbsp;i like to
grasp and believe that this&amp;nbsp;conceptual me which&amp;nbsp;i have
thought of at there particular time&amp;nbsp;is really me. That
conceptual me could be&amp;nbsp;a postive one&amp;nbsp;and one&amp;nbsp;hold
onto the idea the idea that.. hey you are so "great",
"wonderful"&amp;nbsp;for example&amp;nbsp;but all in all&amp;nbsp;it&amp;nbsp;boils
down to&amp;nbsp;a&amp;nbsp;matter of perception. The qualties do not have
inherent existence.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;ha ha so koan?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I'll try...&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In the first place, who are you?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Don't know who am i.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;2nd question..&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Still the same. Don't know who am i&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by An Eternal Now @ Wed, 17 Sep 2008 01:09:44 +0800</title>
      <description>&lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by Isis:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The&amp;nbsp;"me" is still strongly. Sometime i will&amp;nbsp;just check
myself. Sometime i&amp;nbsp;find myself&amp;nbsp;loving myself too much in
the "unhealthy way".&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Btw thanks for sharing. Hope it makes a good imprint in my
mind.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;How do you love yourself? Question that... Are you an image of
who you think you are? Or is that just an arising thought.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In the first place, who are you?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Before the arising of a thought, who are you?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Or as Thusness asked, &#8220;Without using any languages, &#8216;I&#8217;, &#8216;me&#8217; or
any signs or symbols, how is &#8216;I&#8217; experienced?&#8221;&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by Isis @ Wed, 17 Sep 2008 01:00:10 +0800</title>
      <description>&lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by An Eternal Now:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It's not easy. Because our karmic propensities of seeing
dualistically and inherently are so deeply rooted, our tendency is
to grasp on appearances is always there.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So we need to be mindful at all times, and I remember mentioning
about a lucid nightmare where 'I' overcome the fear in the
nightmare itself (dreamt of some ghost or monster coming towards me
and a surge of fear suddenly became very very strong -- more than
what I probably ever felt) by suddenly becoming aware that the fear
is actually a false projection, and I stopped believing in its
reality. And because I was becoming so mindful and aware in the
dream, even though there is still this tense feeling I was aware
that the dream monster was actually my own projection, and I
stopped believing in it.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;And I just maintain that awareness in the dream itself and
feeeel whatever feelings and emotions are arising, but I do not
project a story, and so I stopped projecting the dream -- so
everything disappeared into a white light and I woke up.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As I pasted in the other post on fear, "Face only the
perception." If we can face only that perception without projecting
more stories, believing in the reality of the me-story (someone is
going to get me, I'm going to get hurt, etc), then that fear can
dissolve in its own accord.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The&amp;nbsp;"me" is still strongly. Sometime i will&amp;nbsp;just check
myself. Sometime i&amp;nbsp;find myself&amp;nbsp;loving myself too much in
the "unhealthy way".&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Btw thanks for sharing. Hope it makes a good imprint in my
mind.&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by An Eternal Now @ Wed, 17 Sep 2008 00:55:40 +0800</title>
      <description>&lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by Isis:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
Hmm thanks for insightful posting. I&amp;nbsp;can see you put effort in
reading up and listening attentively to dharma talks. And hell, it
reminds me of my poor&amp;nbsp;own learning attitude.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;There is a conceptual me but in reality, the me is just a mere
thought that comes and goes. However, when there is pain or
fear,&amp;nbsp;human&amp;nbsp;usually&amp;nbsp;react to the fear with fear in
their eyes or tears. Sometime,&amp;nbsp;one can't help it.&amp;nbsp;I'm
just wondering... i know the reality does not exist inherently but
"i" can't help grasp at&amp;nbsp;fearful feeling for instances.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It's not easy. Because our karmic propensities of seeing
dualistically and inherently are so deeply rooted, our tendency is
to grasp on appearances is always there.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So we need to be mindful at all times, and I remember mentioning
about a lucid nightmare where 'I' overcome the fear in the
nightmare itself (dreamt of some ghost or monster coming towards me
and a surge of fear suddenly became very very strong -- more than
what I probably ever felt) by suddenly becoming aware that the fear
is actually a false projection, and I stopped believing in its
reality. And because I was becoming so mindful and aware in the
dream, even though there is still this tense feeling I was aware
that the dream monster was actually my own projection, and I
stopped believing in it. I was also aware if I lose my mindfulness
and started believing in the seeming reality of the dream, I will
return to the nightmare again.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;And I just maintain that bright presence-awareness in the dream
itself and also feel whatever feelings and emotions are arising,
but I do not project a story, and so I stopped projecting the dream
-- so everything disappeared into a white light and I woke up.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As I pasted in the other post on fear, "Face only the
perception." If we can face only that perception without projecting
more stories, believing in the reality of the me-story (someone is
going to get me, I'm going to get hurt, etc), then that fear can
dissolve in its own accord. But there is no attempt to try to push
away that feeling, it dissolves on its own accord in its own
time.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Reacting to fear with fear simply perpetuates the belief in the
me-story further, and worse, -- now there's 'fear' to fear, or
unpleasant feelings that I want to push away -- instead of Facing
What Is -- Reality in bare, without mental commentary.&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by Isis @ Wed, 17 Sep 2008 00:43:25 +0800</title>
      <description>&lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by An Eternal Now:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As I see it, any form of self identification is the cause of
suffering. As someone once said, "All views are based on the belief
of something as inherently existing, and necessarily lead to
suffering because not in accord with reality." Similarly as long as
you associate yourself with someone believing that the 'self' is
inherently existing, it necessarily leads to suffering because it
is not in accord with reality.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It is not thinking that is a problem, &lt;span style=
"color: #0000ff;"&gt;it is identifying and believing in a story of
'me' and 'things' as having some reality/inherency that is a
problem.&lt;/span&gt; But upon investigation you realise that the 'self'
cannot be found, it is a mirage -- they are merely thoughts, and
that thought is made of, and is the miraculous activities (&#22937;&#29992;) of
Buddha-Nature. Like a mirage, it's just made of the same
awareness-intelligence-energy (buddha-nature) vibrating into the
various forms as thoughts, words appearing on screen, sound of
music, everything. But being a mirage it has no inherent
existence.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So, a thought itself is Buddha-Nature. All thoughts and
experiences, which are appearances, are the play of Buddha-Nature,
but we mistake the mirages/appearances as having some sort of
inherent reality. And because we imagine that there is some sort of
inherent reality out there, we grasp on them, not realising that
all appearances are simply thoughts/experiences arising and
vanishing spontaneously according to conditions -- utterly empty of
inherent, graspable existence.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As &#20803;&#38899;&#32769;&#20154; says,&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;.&lt;br /&gt;
&amp;nbsp;4&#65294;&#35777;&#35265;&#26412;&#24615;&#21518;&#65292;&#25152;&#26377;&#22916;&#24515;&#12289;&#22916;&#24819;&#12289;&#22916;&#24565;&#30342;&#21270;&#20026;&#30495;&#24515;&#30340;&#22937;&#29992;&#12290;&lt;span style=
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&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It is like falling asleep and entering the dream state, even
though you are sleeping and the dream isn't real but there is
ongoing identification and belief in a 'you', 'experiencer' and
what is happening in the dream is almost hypnotic -- it blinds us
and makes us believe in the story as having some inherent reality
-- and there being a 'me' who is seeing 'a monster in front of me'
-- and as a result you undergo all sorts of samsaric emotions even
in dreams -- fear, happiness, anger, sadness, and so on.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It operates on a dualistic basis, that you are a separate self
who is experiencing unpleasant states or pleasant states. But in
reality, there is simply experience, but no separate experiencer.
And the experience is empty, simply being thoughts and sensations
arising and vanishing according to conditions.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So liberation is in seeing through the sense that there is a
continuous, separate, or special controller, doer, observer, or
centerpoint that is "who they are" in a very direct perceptual way
that is not merely an intellectual or conceptual understanding. And
the sensations that seemed to imply these to be just more
sensations arising and vanishing according to conditions as they
always have been. And because this is realised, everything is
simply spontaneously arising according to conditions -- and
self-liberate immediately! Thoughts have no sticking power, it's
only when you believe that there is some essence or inherent
reality that you grasp on the thought.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So in this way, in seeing through the reality of a separate self
and the inherency/solidity of our experience, the stories of a self
are no longer seen to have any reality and so can no longer cause
us sufferings. Dispassion arises and there is naturally no more
grasping, only spontaneous arising of Dharma.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
Hmm thanks for insightful posting. You put effort in reading up and
listening attentively to dharma talks.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;And hell, it reminds me of my "poor"&amp;nbsp;own learning attitude.
Hahaha&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;There is a conceptual me but in reality, the me is just a mere
thought that comes and goes. However, when there is pain or
fear,&amp;nbsp;human&amp;nbsp;usually&amp;nbsp;react to the fear with fear in
their eyes or tears. Sometime,&amp;nbsp;one can't help it.&amp;nbsp;I'm
just wondering... i know the reality does not exist inherently but
"i" can't help grasp at&amp;nbsp;fearful feeling for instances.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by An Eternal Now @ Wed, 17 Sep 2008 00:19:22 +0800</title>
      <description>&lt;p&gt;Someone asked me if I coined the term 'intelligence-energy',
actually nope.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Bob: That separate entity, the belief in that entity or person,
has never done a damn thing! It never can and never will. You must
realize that you have been lived. That body-mind that you call
'you' is being lived, and it is being lived quite effortlessly. As
Christ said, 'Which of you, by taking thought, can add one cubit to
his stature?' That separate entity can&#8217;t do a bloody thing.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class=""&gt;&lt;em&gt;Q: What does that mean in terms of choice,
conscious free-will, willing choices that people make or don't
make? If I'm following you, there isn't anyone who makes the
choice.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Bob: No, there isn't. Choices are made, but there is no
choice-maker. What seems to be choices are made. Like, you think
you will do something, and you turn around doing something else.
That is all coming from that pure functioning. But we take delivery
of it and believe 'I am the choice-maker' or 'I have got
free-will'. But we have just seen that if you look at it closely
the thoughts 'I am' or 'I'm this or that' haven't got the power to
do any of those things. You haven't even got the power to think
that thought, itself. Thinking happens. It is the same with seeing.
Seeing is happening right now. What do you have to do to see?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class=""&gt;&lt;em&gt;Q: Nothing.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Bob: It is spontaneously happening. Be that presence-awareness
that is spontaneously happening of itself. It is effortless. If
that 'I thought', that image you have about yourself, were running
the show, what would be the most important thing you would do?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class=""&gt;&lt;em&gt;Q: I have got no idea!&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Bob: Well, I do! The first thing I would do is make sure I take
the next breath, or make sure my heart has got another beat in it.
But all those things are happening quite effortlessly. We talk
about choices. But if you are the choice maker, why would you ever
have an unhappy thought, if you could choose your thoughts? Why
would you ever be miserable or sad?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class=""&gt;&lt;em&gt;Q. So, the intelligence-energy is vibrating into
all these different&lt;br /&gt;
forms.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Bob: Exactly.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class=""&gt;&lt;em&gt;Q: It is appearing as the chair, this life
(pointing to someone in the room), this life, this life. What about
the life of somebody who is suffering? Why would it do that? Why
would it vibrate into the form of a life of a kid in a war-torn
country? Do you know what I'm saying?&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Bob: Yes.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class=""&gt;&lt;em&gt;Q: From my mind, I look at it and I say, 'That is
madness'.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Bob: Yes. It is madness. The intelligence-energy vibrates into
the mirage, too. The heat shimmering off the road appears to be a
pool of water. But what is it in actuality?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class=""&gt;&lt;em&gt;Q: Just vibrating energy.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Bob: Yes.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class=""&gt;&lt;em&gt;Q: From my mind, I look at it and I say, 'That is
madness'.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Bob: Yes. It is madness. The intelligence-energy vibrates into
the mirage, too. The heat shimmering off the road appears to be a
pool of water. But what is it in actuality?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class=""&gt;&lt;em&gt;Q: Just vibrating energy.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Bob: Yes.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class=""&gt;&lt;em&gt;Q: But that kid seems to suffer.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Bob: Yes. But, as I say, you have got a million microbes
crawling around your face right now.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class=""&gt;&lt;em&gt;Q: You do that (wipes hand on his face) and you
kill them all.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Bob: You just wiped out a few million of them. Some of&lt;br /&gt;
them might be suffering. Some of them might be crippled. But you
couldn't care less. We think we are so important, but we are only
small in the scheme of things. Looking from out in space down on
this earth what would you be? You would be even less than a microbe
on someone's face! Yet, because we are here, we give ourselves so
much importance. In the scheme of things, life is continually
living on life. Life appears in all sorts of forms and shapes. But
it is still the same life, the same intelligence-energy. And you
are that life.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class=""&gt;&lt;em&gt;Q: Does compassion fit into what you are
saying?&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Bob: Yes, there is a natural compassion that comes up of itself.
You don't have to try to be compassionate.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class=""&gt;&lt;em&gt;Q: No.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by An Eternal Now @ Tue, 16 Sep 2008 23:59:18 +0800</title>
      <description>&lt;p&gt;What &#20803;&#38899;&#32769;&#20154; said is&amp;nbsp;rather similar to this:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;h1&gt;Essence of Dzogchen Meditation&lt;/h1&gt;
&lt;h3&gt;by Sogyal Rinpoche&lt;/h3&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The essence of meditation practice in Dzogchen is encapsulated
by these four points:&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&#8226; When one past thought has ceased and a future thought has not yet
arisen, in that gap, in between, isn't there a consciousness of the
present moment; fresh, virgin, unaltered by even a hair's breadth
of concept, a luminous, naked awareness? -- Well that is what Rigpa
is!&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&#8226; Yet it doesn't stay in that state forever, because another
thought suddenly arises, doesn't it? This is the self radiance of
that Rigpa.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&#8226; However if you do not recognize this thought for what it really
is, the very instant it arises, then it will turn into just another
ordinary thought, as before. This is called the "chain of
delusion," and is the root of samsara.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&#8226; If you are able to recognize the true nature of the thought as
soon as it arises, and leave it alone without any followup, then
whatever thoughts that arise all automatically dissolve back into
the vast expanse of Rigpa and are liberated.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
____________________________________&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
From &lt;em&gt;The Tibetan Book Of Living And Dying&lt;/em&gt; by Sogyal
Rinpoche.&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by An Eternal Now @ Tue, 16 Sep 2008 23:28:35 +0800</title>
      <description>&lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by Isis:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
It is like you become the main lead in your mind.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As I see it, any form of self identification is the cause of
suffering. As someone once said, "All views are based on the belief
of something as inherently existing, and necessarily lead to
suffering because not in accord with reality." Similarly as long as
you associate yourself with someone believing that the 'self' is
inherently existing, it necessarily leads to suffering because it
is not in accord with reality.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It is not thinking that is a problem, it is identifying and
believing in a story of 'me' and 'things' as having some
reality/inherency that is a problem. But upon investigation you
realise that the 'self' cannot be found, it is a mirage -- they are
merely thoughts, and that thought is made of, and is the miraculous
activities (&#22937;&#29992;) of Buddha-Nature. Like a mirage, it's just made of
the same awareness-intelligence-energy (buddha-nature) vibrating
into the various forms as thoughts, words appearing on screen,
sound of music, everything. But being a mirage it has no inherent
existence. It is in essence that awareness-intelligence-energy that
is at the same time empty. Luminous-emptiness.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So, a thought itself is Buddha-Nature. All thoughts and
experiences, which are appearances, are the play of Buddha-Nature,
but we mistake the mirages/appearances as having some sort of
inherent reality. And because we imagine that there is some sort of
inherent reality out there, we grasp on them, not realising that
all appearances are simply thoughts/experiences arising and
vanishing spontaneously according to conditions -- utterly empty of
inherent, graspable existence.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So the moment we &lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;&#30528;&#30456;, that is
&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;&#22916; and leads to suffering.
Means you grasp on appearances, thinking it has some sort of
inherent reality.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As Buddha taught, &lt;span&gt;&lt;span style=
"font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style=
""&gt;&#20961;&#25152;&#26377;&#30456;&#65292;&#30342;&#26159;&#34395;&#22916;&#12290;&#33509;&#35211;&#35576;&#30456;&#38750;&#30456;&#65292;&#21063;&#35211;&#22914;&#20358;&#12290;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As &#20803;&#38899;&#32769;&#20154; says,&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style=
"font-size: small;"&gt;&#25152;&#20197;&#24320;&#24735;&#20043;&#21518;&#65292;&#22916;&#24819;&#12289;&#22916;&#24565;&#12289;&#22916;&#24515;&#65292;&#37117;&#32763;&#25104;&#25105;&#30340;&#20315;&#24615;&#30340;&#22937;&#29992;&#20102;&#12290;&#20170;&#22825;&#20877;&#32473;&#22823;&#23478;&#19979;&#20010;&#27880;&#35299;&#65109;&#22916;&#24515;&#12289;&#22916;&#24819;&#12289;&#22916;&#24565;&#65292;&lt;strong&gt;&#30528;&#30456;&#23601;&#26159;&#22916;&#12290;&#21453;&#36807;&#26469;&#19981;&#30528;&#30456;&#65292;&#25152;&#26377;&#19968;&#20999;&#24605;&#24819;&#37117;&#26159;&#25105;&#20204;&#20315;&#24615;&#30340;&#22937;&#29992;&#65292;&#25152;&#26377;&#19968;&#20999;&#24605;&#24819;&#37117;&#26159;&#25104;&#23601;&#19968;&#20999;&#20107;&#29289;&#30340;&#22937;&#29992;&#65292;&#37117;&#26159;&#25105;&#20204;&#20315;&#24615;&#30340;&#22937;&#29992;&#12290;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;And as &#20803;&#38899;&#32769;&#20154; says,&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&amp;nbsp;1&#65294;&#19968;&#24565;&#19981;&#29983;&#22788;&#65292;&#20102;&#20102;&#20998;&#26126;&#30340;&#28789;&#30693;&#21363;&#24403;&#20154;&#30340;&#20315;&#24615;&#12290;&#23398;&#20154;&#26524;&#33021;&#20110;&#27492;&#19981;&#24778;&#19981;&#24598;&#12289;&#28145;&#20449;&#19981;&#30097;&#65292;&#31435;&#23450;&#33050;&#36319;&#65292;&#23433;&#20303;&#20445;&#25252;&#65292;&#20928;&#23613;&#22916;&#20064;&#65292;&#22278;&#35777;&#20315;&#26524;&#65292;&#35802;&#38750;&#19968;&#20315;&#20108;&#20315;&#19977;&#22235;&#20116;&#20315;&#25152;&#31181;&#21892;&#26681;&#65292;&#32780;&#26159;&#26080;&#37327;&#20315;&#25152;&#31181;&#35832;&#21892;&#26681;&#12290;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;
2&#65294;&#35266;&#29031;&#23601;&#26159;&#22238;&#20809;&#36820;&#29031;&#65292;&#21521;&#24515;&#20869;&#30475;&#65292;&#19981;&#26159;&#21521;&#22806;&#30475;&#65292;&#35266;&#36825;&#19968;&#24565;&#19981;&#29983;&#22788;&#65288;&#24565;&#22836;&#26410;&#36215;&#22788;&#65289;&#12290;&#24565;&#22836;&#36215;&#26469;&#23601;&#30475;&#35265;&#65292;&#19981;&#29702;&#30572;&#23427;&#65292;&#19981;&#38543;&#20043;&#27969;&#28010;&#12290;&#36825;&#19968;&#27493;&#26368;&#35201;&#32039;&#12290;&#22914;&#24565;&#22836;&#36215;
&#26469;&#30475;&#19981;&#35265;&#65292;&#23601;&#19981;&#34892;&#20102;&#12290;&#35777;&#35265;&#26412;&#24615;&#21518;&#65292;&#35201;&#20110;&#34892;&#12289;&#20303;&#12289;&#22352;&#12289;&#21351;&#22788;&#35266;&#29031;&#20445;&#25252;&#65292;&#8220;&#22806;&#19981;&#20026;&#22659;&#29301;&#65292;&#20869;&#19981;&#38543;&#24565;&#36716;&#8221;&#21363;&#20026;&#26368;&#22909;&#30340;&#20445;&#25252;&#27861;&#12290;&lt;span style=
"text-decoration: underline;"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&#24565;&#36215;&#19981;&#20303;&#65292;&#19981;&#38543;&#20043;&#27969;&#28010;&#19981;&#20572;&#65292;&#21363;&#20026;&#26080;&#24565;&#12290;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&#19981;
&#26159;&#21387;&#24565;&#19981;&#36215;&#65292;&#20134;&#19981;&#26159;&#23558;&#19968;&#24565;&#19981;&#29983;&#30340;&#26102;&#38388;&#25289;&#38271;&#20026;&#26080;&#24565;&#12290;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;.&lt;br /&gt;
&amp;nbsp;4&#65294;&#35777;&#35265;&#26412;&#24615;&#21518;&#65292;&#25152;&#26377;&#22916;&#24515;&#12289;&#22916;&#24819;&#12289;&#22916;&#24565;&#30342;&#21270;&#20026;&#30495;&#24515;&#30340;&#22937;&#29992;&#12290;&lt;span style=
"text-decoration: underline;"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&#22937;&#29992;&#19982;&#22916;&#20316;&#30340;&#20998;&#21035;&#21363;&#22312;&#8220;&#26377;&#20303;&#8221;&#19982;&#8220;&#19981;&#20303;&#8221;&#20043;&#38388;&#65292;&#20303;&#21363;&#22937;&#29992;&#21270;&#20026;&#22916;&#20316;&#65292;&#19981;&#20303;&#21363;&#22916;&#20316;&#25668;&#20026;&#22937;&#29992;&#12290;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It is like falling asleep and entering the dream state, even
though you are sleeping and the dream isn't real but there is
ongoing identification and belief in a 'you', 'experiencer' and
what is happening in the dream is almost hypnotic -- it blinds us
and makes us believe in the story as having some inherent reality
-- and there being a 'me' who is seeing 'a monster in front of me'
-- and as a result you undergo all sorts of samsaric emotions even
in dreams -- fear, happiness, anger, sadness, and so on.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It operates on a dualistic basis, that you are a separate self
who is experiencing unpleasant states or pleasant states. But in
reality, there is simply experience, but no separate experiencer.
And the experience is empty, simply being thoughts and sensations
arising and vanishing according to conditions.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So liberation is in seeing through the sense that there is a
continuous, separate, or special controller, doer, observer, or
centerpoint that is "who they are" in a very direct perceptual way
that is not merely an intellectual or conceptual understanding. And
the sensations that seemed to imply these to be just more
sensations arising and vanishing according to conditions as they
always have been. And because this is realised, everything is
simply spontaneously arising according to conditions -- and
self-liberate immediately! Thoughts have no sticking power, it's
only when you believe that there is some essence or inherent
reality that you grasp on the thought.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So in this way, in seeing through the reality of a separate self
and the inherency/solidity of our experience, the stories of a self
are no longer seen to have any reality and so can no longer cause
us sufferings. Dispassion arises and there is naturally no more
grasping, only spontaneous arising of Dharma.&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by Isis @ Tue, 16 Sep 2008 23:01:05 +0800</title>
      <description>&lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by An Eternal Now:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;What do you mean by associating yourself?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
It is like you become the main lead in your mind.&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by An Eternal Now @ Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:38:48 +0800</title>
      <description>&lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by Isis:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;hmm Hey AEN,&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I love watching MTV and sometime, i&amp;nbsp;loved to associate
myself with the main lead in the MTV. I think the&amp;nbsp;love comes
about&amp;nbsp;becos it is a&amp;nbsp;pleasurable thing to do. Similarly,
people can get attached to&amp;nbsp;suffering becos it is
pleasurable.&amp;nbsp;At the back of my mind, i know it is just a
illusion that i'm playing with in my head&amp;nbsp;and&amp;nbsp;like&amp;nbsp;a
sort of enterainment. However&amp;nbsp;I'm not sure if it is actually a
good thing to indulge in such things often.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;On the other hand, there is no bad or no&amp;nbsp;good or true or
false about the image that i'm conjuring .. ?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;ps: the above posting is&amp;nbsp;just an opinion. Please discern
with wisdom.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;What do you mean by associating yourself?&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by Isis @ Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:29:49 +0800</title>
      <description>&lt;blockquote&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_from"&gt;Originally posted by knightlll:&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;div class="quote_body"&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I like animals but sometimes when i saw stray dogs along the
street , there will be some fear in me. Not sure if they are my
karmic debtors in my past lives , scare they suddenly bite me.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;lol.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;/div&gt;
&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
In singapore, there isn't much stray dogs around liao, only plently
of stray cats.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;One of my meditation teacher encourages&amp;nbsp;people who
meditate&amp;nbsp;to practise metta regularly so that when a&amp;nbsp;cobra
suddenly come across your path ( in those ulu pandan meditation
centre, anything is possible or you meditate in the forest&amp;nbsp;).
You can immediately&amp;nbsp;send strong metta to
the&amp;nbsp;cobra.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It is one of the protective meditation and&amp;nbsp;also helps
in&amp;nbsp;gaining concentration.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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      <title>How does one deal with it ? replied by Isis @ Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:22:50 +0800</title>
      <description>&lt;p&gt;hmm Hey AEN,&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I love watching MTV and sometime, i&amp;nbsp;loved to associate
myself with the main lead in the MTV. I think the&amp;nbsp;love comes
about&amp;nbsp;becos it is a&amp;nbsp;pleasurable thing to do. Similarly,
people can get attached to&amp;nbsp;suffering becos it is
pleasurable.&amp;nbsp;At the back of my mind, i know it is just a
illusion that i'm playing with in my head&amp;nbsp;and&amp;nbsp;like&amp;nbsp;a
sort of enterainment. However&amp;nbsp;I'm not sure if it is actually a
good thing to indulge in such things often.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;On the other hand, there is no bad or no&amp;nbsp;good or true or
false about the image that i'm conjuring .. ?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;ps: the above posting is&amp;nbsp;just an opinion. Please discern
with wisdom.&lt;/p&gt;</description>
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